i am in love with a married female i love her to any extent
cant live without her tried to many times to leave her but all in vain now i got married three monmths earlier still i have not accecpted her as my wife
i know the best for me is to leave her so dont tell me that but how
these days she is not talking to me my 1st wife i havw started drinking a lot cut myself on arms and all i want to do suicide what should i do
just to make her talk to me i creid for hours n hours in front of her but all in vain sh eeven bothered that made me more aggresive and no both have spolied my both lives
i am not interseted in my second marriage
but cant live without the first on e
please help me
2007-03-26 22:30:23 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
here i have stated my 1st married lady i am in love with
2007-03-26 22:36:47 · update #1
You say you love a married lady & can’t live without her. I ask you does she also loves you & is she prepared to leave her husband & family for you? Love is never one-sided it’s always mutual. If you & this married lady are both in love with each other then come forward & get divorce from your own spouses & get married, why you two want to spoil life of your spouses for no fault of their? Nowadays getting remarried after a divorce are not big issues so doing worry about your spouses they will get so good match for themselves. So first thing is better ask this married lady if she wants to join you after dissolving her previous marriage or not. If she refuses for this then what for you are wasting your time, energy & mind thinking about her. If a child see moon & start crying for getting it is it possible for his parents or any one to get him real moon for him/her? So is your case.
2007-03-31 05:22:50 · answer #1 · answered by vijay m Indian Lawyer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is absurd. You appear to be a confused person. You are not sure as to what you want. You marry any number of times. The result will be the same if you are uncertain. Everything is infatuation. Don't waste time and your precious life in seeking " moha and maaya". Take a break. Go away to a peaceful place and try to know the world. Meet people. Enjoy nature. There are umpteen number of issues which could be more interesting things than this. Suicide is not the solution. Cutting your arms and crying for hours is out of sheer self pity. You are unnecessarily hurting yourself. Instead try to seek the good within you. Try to know yourself. Why should you end your life after all for such a petty issue? If you are a youth channelise your energy for a more useful cause. What do you do? What are your talents? What are you good at? Think...Think...young man ! The world is beautiful and your life is worth living. You will never live again. Remember that. You have only one life to live. So be happy. "Angels can fly because they take themselves lightly".
2007-04-03 11:14:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have committed the following mistakes:
1. You loved a married lady so much. Whether she loves you so much and ready to leave her family and prepared to marry you? If not, you have committed a mistake.
2. You married a woman knowing very well that you would not love her. What right you have to ruin her life and punish her and her family? If you do not have a right to behave like that, you have committed a mistake again.
3. What relation does drinking (alcoholic drinks) with your marriage and love? Not everyone does the same when they are in troubles! So, don't try to gain sympathy for your deliberate useless acts. Otherwise, this would be another great mistake.
4. Cutting arms, shaving hair, licking floors, jumping walls ... are childish acts. If you are a grown up and still if you think these are great acts, you have committed another mistake.
If your wisdom still prevails and you are serious about solutions, these are few suggestions.
1. Be practical about your love.
2. Be faithful to your wife if you want to continue the relationship. (Just imagine, if your wife tells you a similar story to you, how would you react to that !)
3. Continue drinking, cutting arms etc. if you continue to believe that they are heroic acts and would help you and your family .
2007-03-30 18:55:43 · answer #3 · answered by Laveti 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why r u blaming the two ladies. U have spoiled not only ur life but also the poor girl to whom u have married. Had u told her that u r in love with a married women before marrying her.
Change ur behaviour or else u will spoil that married lady's life also. If u really love her, then u should be happy with the feeling that she is happy with her husband.
Start a new life with ur wife. Explain her all the things and ask her to forgive u and help u in starting new life. She will definitly help. This will make ur life heaven.
2007-03-26 22:45:38 · answer #4 · answered by sweetie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear Amty,(Being standing like your big B ... i m advising my view.. )
What you r talking about do u know.... its just stupidity .... Ya mean a **** thing .... right .... **** which u have created and now u will have to bear it ...k.
Just listen ... first of all this is not a joke u r putting in trouble the life of 4 or more people... i mean ie.... youself ... your wife and the lady whome you love and her husband and her children to........
The very clear thing is that by asking such question you have proved that you r selfish nature.... you just think only about you.
the very firstly u might have felt in love with her just a sake of enjoyment right but what the hell you entered in to love .... these is the mistake which we teen age group guys do ...and f u c kup rest of the life.
Listen now : what you have to do is understand life ... life is not just love f u ck and move .... it is much more than you think dear ....if all people will be in you attitude what will be the condition of the world .. have u ever thought of it... for example think if it would have take place with your mother what would be your life had u ever thought ...i m not insulting you ...but think positive put ur mother in the place of that lady whome you love and think the situation.... what should your mother do for you ... whome should she choose as per you ... you father or her boyfriend... ask your heart ... what it will say the same thing you should do for you.
Now i guess you got the right answer...
Now i know u will not accept it ..... because your mind will not allow to accept such things .... so what you should do is leave you present state ... i mean migrate to other city or village and find a job there and you can lead a good life with your sweet family. you and your sweet wife.... got it stupid
K thank you
Sorry if some words of mine has hurted you bye
2007-03-27 00:43:05 · answer #5 · answered by sunil n 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No body can help you other than yourself. You calmly and Cooley have an introspection of yourself specific to the point of your situation of being in love with a married lady as well your newly wedded wife. Reason yourself on the points. Finally you could find that what you are under is an illusion and your life must be with your wife.
2007-04-01 00:11:18 · answer #6 · answered by mkm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Big mistake falling in love with a married woman, plus another mistake by getting married with someone u didnt love. Now ur not only miserable but ur making ur wifes life miserable as well. That is not right, if you dont love her then get out of it, let her free, maybe she'll find someone whom can truly love her for whom she is. And good luck with loving the married woman, if she has children with her husband, honey i dont think u have a chance, u were just part of her fun time.
Good luck
2007-04-03 08:47:14 · answer #7 · answered by txladybug_2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you were not interested in your marriage why get married;ok right peer pressure and family stuff!The only way to escape to is to stop hurting your self get over your trauma, try loving your wife by small little actions if u re unable to do that, let her go at least .In both ways the hurt one is your wives .I hope she is not writing in this column about her problems.Sacrifices re essential in some great things.Try it once !Maybe it works.Sucide is not an answer it creates more agony.A woman can never share her husband with someone else let alone your first wife.
2007-03-26 22:39:45 · answer #8 · answered by cool_honeybabe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holly Molly...dude u need some serious and immediate help...and by help I mean go and see a Psychiatrist right away!!!
You should not waste ure time asking about ure problem here...ure obviously very suicidal, obsessed and lost...u need someone who can work with u in person !
-♥- Beware 0f The Gypsy Curses -♥-
2007-03-26 22:40:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take some deep breaths. First of all when you are cutting yourself that is a symptom of you have issues that won't be fixed by this other women coming back into your life. You should go to counceling if you are able. You are dealing with more then losing love.
2007-04-02 07:16:26 · answer #10 · answered by urban guru 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋