I have had 2 miscarriges late 1 at 20 weeks and 1 at 12 weeks.Both of them when i had a scan there was no heart beat.I am 6 weeks pregant and am perrfied that its going to happen again..I am seriously thinking of having a termation as i don't think i can go there again??can any one help??
2007-03-26 22:06:58 · 8 answers · asked by sharon n 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
ive been there. i had a miscarriage with my first pregnancy 2 years ago. lost the baby at 9 weeks but showed no signs so never found out till my 12 week scan. dont get a termination, it can cause fertility problems in the future and youll be left with the thought, what if this time it would have been ok. youll regret it.
im now 21 weeks pregnant and ive had 5 scans: 1 at 5 weeks, 1 at 11 weeks, 1 at 13 weeks, 1 at 19 weeks cos the dr told me id lost the baby when i hadnt and 1 at 20 weeks..
every appointment im scared something bad will happen. but i believe this time now that it wont. try not to stress though i know its so hard. try to enjoy your pregnancy and when you see that little heart beating twice as fast as yours your mind will rest.
good luck. xxx
2007-03-26 23:04:36 · answer #1 · answered by Şơƥɦɨȩ'ȿ ♡Μυɱ˗Μυɱ♡ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel for you. That would be terrible to go through, and I can understand your fear. The important thing is that you now have a chance, and your baby has a chance. You have to face this fear. Its best that you have that ultrasound, the fear will always be there though, so its just important that you accept it and move on with your pregnancy wherever it may take you.
I am 21 weeks pregnant, and have had bleeding since the 6th week. Every time I go to the dr. I have the fear that my baby won't be okay. At first it was when I get to the 13th week I will feel safer, than it was the 15th, than the 20th.I never feel totally safe that my baby is really okay. We have to hope, and not give up that hope that one day we will hold that baby in our arms. I will hope with you. good luck.
2007-03-27 05:30:31 · answer #2 · answered by B.Cakes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really feel for you. I miscarried my second child at 16 weeks. After that I was paranoid through all my pregnancies and kept thinking something bad was going to happen, but I went on to have 4 more healthy children. Talk it through with your doctor and midwife and tell them how worried you are. Was there a particular reason that the doctors know about why you miscarried? Try to take one day at a time and keep your mind occupied. Also speak to all your family and freinds, it always helps to talk. Keep healthy and good luck, I really hope everything go's ok for you.
2007-03-27 05:36:20 · answer #3 · answered by jo jo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Say for example this one does have a heartbeat, and you terminate the pregnancy.
Essentially you just did what you were terrified of, and you could've had a bouncing baby in your arms.
It may be scary, but it's best to go have an ultrasound. There IS a chance the baby is alive. Why give up that chance just because you're a little afraid?
Good luck to you and your little one.
2007-03-27 05:15:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
oh don't have a termination now, especially if there is a chance. i have a good feeling that this one is alive and three times a charm right? if you had a termination you would constantly be thinking " what if " and you would never know, that would be more torture. just think positive. remember stress is not good for pregnancy ( i know its kinda hard not to be stressed ) but try to think positive, there is a reason there is a life growing inside of you and it will make it this time, you'll see
2007-03-27 05:13:56 · answer #5 · answered by princess1226 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u gotta keep trying and trying, if its a baby u want, just go with the flow, try not to spread the news too fast, and try not to feel so attatched, ive got 4 kids and im a real paranoid person, i had alot of spotting and was even told i misscarried, so i felt better keeping it to myself till i started showing, cos i thought if people knew, and then if i lost it , it would make it harder, i tried not to get too atatched till i saw the baby kicking on the scan, good luck, u will get there, i know many people who have been in your position, and they got there
2007-03-27 07:31:37 · answer #6 · answered by ROCKMUM LOVES BOWIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you terminate your pregnancy? Isn't that what you wanted? If you want to be a mom, you have to be brave about it. Yes, you CAN go there again. There is nothing you and God can't face together.
2007-03-27 05:35:03 · answer #7 · answered by trisha_alexandria 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think I can answer or help. It sounds to me you gave up on 2 of the strongest emotions we have. Love and hope.
2007-03-27 06:15:59 · answer #8 · answered by eks_spurt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋