I wanted to write to share my thoughts with you all and hopefully find others who are feeling what I do at this moment. I'm 27 and my partner and I are ttc. We both have stable, well paying jobs and we are both mature individuals who are in love. We have recently decided to start trying for a baby. I have come off bc and it is only a matter of time, hopefully, before we conceive. I am happy about this but also afraid. We would make great parents, that I don't doubt. What scares me is the question of how can I be sure that I am doing the right thing for my destiny? I know I will never be completely sure but I just wanted people's opinion....
2007-03-26 21:58:37 · 11 answers · asked by Miss Moneypenny 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I'd also like to thank everyone for the advice so far. Miss hopeful, you should go for it, 6 years is an awful long time to have waited. I wish you all the best :-)
2007-03-27 23:23:19 · update #1
I was exactly the same way as you when we first started to try. I didn't know it would take me so much time to get pregnant though(it took us 4 years to get this baby). Thats another story though. I always felt that being the lazy girl I am I'd never be able to take care of a baby and so I took one year to decide if or not we should get pregnant. Well we had everything from the start to take care of a baby but I didn't feel ready for it and people around me scared me saying that it was too much of a responsibility and will take up everything from yuor life. Now I'm a mother of a 8 month old angel and I regret that I delayed in making the desicion. I think back now and wonder was there a life for us without this baby. I'm just so lucky to have her in my life and I would never trade her in for the whole world. There's not been one single minute that I've ever though back and wondered if I was better that way. No I wasn't. I've been happier and more content after my baby. Now I can't imagine a day without her. I rush home from work just so that I can be with her for a bit more time. I and my husband have a much better relationship after her arrival. Small things don't matter so much anymore and its been the best year of my life. Yes there are responsibilities and there are troubles to be faced with having children but its just so worth it that you won't look back again. good luck with yuor decision though.
2007-03-26 22:18:13 · answer #1 · answered by Shanu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel exactly the same way as you do. I've been ttc for the last 6 years and get upset each time I get my period comes. I'm now going for fertility treatment next week and am really scared. I think it's because it's possible that I can achieve everything I've dreamed of. You'll never know if your doing the right thing all you can do is put a lot of thought into the situation weighing up the pros and cons and go with your heart. It sounds to me like your doing the right thing from what you've said as I can tell you haven't just decided 'oh today I think I'll try for a baby'. Good luck :)
2007-03-28 06:09:30 · answer #2 · answered by Misshopeful 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am not even married but I can imagine the thoughts going through your head at this moment. Relax you know would want this cos you're patiently trying, and letting nature take its course. Ofcourse you feel nervous, who wouldn't? I think it is extremely normal and I would feel that way too. But remember that if no-body ever tried, then there would be no-one alive today. It is a beautiful thing to be able to have kids when the time is right and you feel prepared. It is an enriching experience and when you grow old I am sure that you will feel glad that you have passed on a part of you to the next generation, and that you have brought up your kids in a decent way just as you yourself were brought up.
Most sincerely i will tell you good luck and enjoy this time of life, with all its good and its bad...Good luck, my friend.
2007-03-27 05:05:16 · answer #3 · answered by Eevaya 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is exactly how I felt at the same point in my life as you. However I weighed it up - there were fors & againsts but the bottom line was, I coudn't imagine the rest of my life without a child of my own. Sadly for us, it took 5 years to conceive which brought its own stresses but now have a beautiful, wonderful 7 year old who I'd die for. She has transformed our lives beyond anything I thought possible & I'm so pleased that we took the step, despite feeling apprehensive. I think it shows maturity & responsibility - that you're not just doing it because it's what people do. I wish you well & hope that you are at least half as happy as me!! Best wishes
2007-03-27 05:02:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you and and your partner truly want a baby,and you can afford one then it's the right time.It's normal to be scared.Having a child changes EVERYTHING about your life.All I can say is having a child is the most wonderful,beautiful ,life affirming thing you will ever do.I have 6 kids and every last one of them has made my life a dream.Just wait until you are pregnant,talk about being in love.......
2007-03-28 00:20:34 · answer #5 · answered by Ha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES. you are doing the right thing!
A pregnant 30 yr old is called a "OLD PRIMIGRAVID" already.
Things can get scary when you bear your first child pass 30.You have higher risks of BREAST CANCER and bearing a DOWN syndrome child. And you definitely will be an old looking grandmother as well (like a hag...awww)
And well what if, a terrifying what-if, you're the type of couple who cant conceive in a finger snap (ohh noo)? We cant be too sure you know.
I'm saying this because I'm 30 and just had a child (3 months) after a year of trying to conceive. AND I WISH I STILL HAVE THE ENERGY OF A 25 YR OLD BECAUSE TAKING CARE OF A BABY IS SOOOO PHYSICALLY AND MENTALLY EXHAUSTING!
Excuse me, I have a diaper to change.
2007-03-27 05:23:47 · answer #6 · answered by trisha_alexandria 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I was terrified that my contented life would be turned upside down and that things would never be the same again. I was 32 before I had my daughter and the only regret is that I didn't do it sooner. Not once have a regreted it and far from turning my life upside down it has made my life infinatey better.
2007-03-27 05:05:30 · answer #7 · answered by Rachael H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you r doing the best thing ever some people cant have kids i have a daughter and am trying for another
2007-03-27 06:49:27 · answer #8 · answered by petal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't if you believe in god or not. but there is no such thing as destiny. God will let you become pregnant when you are ready. when he feels it's the right time.
2007-03-27 05:05:53 · answer #9 · answered by Static_zero 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you are ready for mood swings, weight gain, hormonal changes... and a complete change of your life forever after the baby comes... then you are ready.......
I don't know what to tell the women though.... that was for the guy......
2007-03-27 05:05:45 · answer #10 · answered by pro_steering_wheel_holder 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋