I'm completely and hopelessly in love.....?

Question

....with my daughter. She's 3 and a half and I absolutely adore her and love being with her. I work in the mornings and, if I don't see her before I go to work, I have to phone my hubby and ask to speak to her, just to say good morning. She's fantastic company and we have really good fun together.
Trouble is, she's due to start school in September (already goes to pre-school in the mornings) and people keep saying "they're lovely at that age. Wait till they go to school, it'll all change". Is this really true? How can I retain my bond with her when she begins this long journey through life?

I feel compelled to say that this is the most heartfelt and personal question I've ever asked on yahoo. I've just read the answers I've received so far and would like to give you all my thanks. I'm not a terribly emotional person, but you've all bought a tear to my eye!

Answer 1

I'm like that with my Son he's just gorgeous.
He started school this year and is still the love off my life,he's loving and confident because of our bond and is starting to get really funny as well,so don't worry you'll always be his Mum and the squeals of delight I get, when I pick him up still makes my heart leap.
Keep up everything you have always done, just cause there getting more independent, doesn't mean they want your relationship to change.

Answer 2

The first day is the hardest cos your baby is all grown up. When she comes home that first afternoon though she will be so excited and will be practically bursting to tell you everything that she has been doing. When my daughter started at first school I thought that was it, but I actually feel a lot more involved in her life than I did when she was at nursery and pre-school. Just enjoy this next stage in her life and think of all the new adventures you are going to have together. Remember that she needs you enthusiasm and reassurance to see that this is a good thing that is happening for her. Just try to get involved as much as possible. Join the PTA and do as much parent activities as you can. She will be so proud that Mummy is helping and so involved in her school life and it will make the transition a lot easier for both of you. Good luck hunny!

Answer 3

No don't listen to these well meaning people. Whilst it's true children do change when the start school they become more independant but they have to otherwise they will get down trodden by other bairns.

You will always retain your bond simply by telling her that she is very special and that you love her. And also by listening to her when she is feeling a little weepy when she starts school. Though she will probably love going to school there are bound to be days when she misses you and your husband so very much and that is the time for big cuddles.

School will be one big step for her. A place for her to develop her character and learn to get along and socialise with other bairns. And as she gets older expect her to have her own little secrets and respect her for that...though she will eventually tell you them but in her own time.

The transition from home to school life is barely seamless but it can be fun for all the family if treated with a common sense approach and not an overbearing trauma for the bairn.

All the very best and enjoy your time together.

Now when they get to teenagers....but then that's another story.

Answer 4

First lesson of parenthood--you do have to let go eventually--the only way the children learn to grow emotionally and physically is to let them go. She will come home everyday--she won't drive off and leave you---as time goes on--let her share withyou and dad, all she has learned--she will find pleasure and acceptance by showing you stuff--if you smother her you foster insecurities. Chatter will turn to conversation---good communication skills come from this. self respect and self reliance come from these first school years---and so do boo boos and mistakes--all kids have to learn that to fail is human. And the word " NO" is essential for later in life. They need to understand limits and rules and what happens when they misbehave--all kids get devilish. They need to take responsibility for their actions. We were all kids and we all had our first times away from home.. Be supportive, be in control, resist the overbearing manipulations...let her grow. Relax, smile and good luck

Answer 5

I didn't go to Kindergarten and turned out fine. I actually really enjoyed that fact all throughout my school-life. Me and my mom are so close now, I tell her everything, even the stuff she doesn't know. I was naturally shy though, so coming into first grade w/out kindergarten just made me all the more reluctant to join in games, gossip, naughtiness, etc.

Answer 6

I even have had some the two unusual issues occurring to me presently. I even have fallen in love with... nonexistent characters. the persons who say which you're mentally tousled, i assume you would be able to desire to assert that yet all and sundry has their issues. all and sundry has purely about all those fantasies and that they are actually not something to be embarrassed approximately.

Answer 7

You will do just fine. You will adjust to all the changes as she grows and learns. Stay close and be her best teacher. Oh, and by the way, Chill a little , she isn't moving away to college yet.

Answer 8

make sure you stay close to her, read with her in the evenings, play with her, make all the time you do spend together as much fun as possible
let her know how much you love her every day, put her to bed with a kiss and a cuddle,
your relationship is bound to change with her but it can get better
xxx

Answer 9

In my opinion... every age is a lovely age. Sure, even when they are selfish teenagers giving you hell...they are still lovely. Because she'll always be your baby and the love of your life!!!

Answer 10

I understand your feelings.. You truly love her..

Slowly you have to give up the attachment for the child's own good,. Gear up for this fact. She is your child, you are stuck with her so.. She is NOT going anywhere... so ease up..