Me wife cheated on me and I am sad.What do I do now? I came home the other night and saw her and this guy having sex in my hall way. i just want to die. i dunno god help me oh god
2007-03-26 21:56:09 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm sure all the questions are whirling in your head, but you have to ask yourself maybe this happened for a reason.
Maybe she isn't the woman you grew to love and know. Or that she is showing her true side. But the most important thing is to go with your gut, trust yourself, don't let anyone sway you either way because the most important person right now is you. Take care of yourself and the rest will fall in to place.
Personally as a wife (6 years), but been together since college, I would let him go as much as I love him. It would be really hard for me to over come the idea of him not cheating again. I think in marriage the three strikes your out rule should be thrown out,one strike is all that he/she needs. Wandering eyes and wandering minds, is something we all cannot avoid, but your wife acted upon them and was caught, she's guilty!
2007-03-27 03:29:31 · answer #1 · answered by TLC25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take control of your life, leave her and start a fresh you do not need this in your life as you can never forget you might forgive but it is always in your mind and is is not a nice thing to have to live with as the trust issue will never bee the same, You deserve more than this if she loved you she would not have done it and love has to be mutual. Good luck in your decision. Remember we only live once and we need to be happy not look back and regret!
2007-03-27 01:31:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all sit down and breathe. Relax just a little. Think..... Talk to her and ask her why she cheated in the first place. IS she sorry and remoresful or is she just sorry she got caught. You do have a right to divorce her for adultery BUT if she is sorry and asks for forgiveness you need to seek marriage counseling and try to make it work and you will need to learn to forgive her. You may also very well need counseling for how you are feeling about this. Dying is not the answer here trust me.
2007-03-26 22:42:39 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Firstly, I am so sorry. There is nothing like having your heart ripped from your chest and stomped on!
I presume you will get rid of your cheating wife!
Don't allow her to ruin your life... get rid of her and move on.
I know you will need time to pull yourself together after this shock. Is there someone you can talk to?
The best revenge you could have is to live life well without her!
You deserve better!
2007-03-26 22:02:54 · answer #4 · answered by Peta G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know right know its hurting , but the best thing to do is just leave her she will do it again i know from a loved one that has done it to one of my loved ones and they dont stop she might for a year or so but she wont stop forever it wont matter if your together or not even if she starts a new thing with another guy she will do it to that guy just leave her before you get hurt any more and not all woman are like her , i hate cheaters and would never do it to my man
2007-03-26 23:51:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spank her...
Seriously, seek couseling if you can forgive her. If she did it once, she'll do it again. I'm sure she said that she was sorry. Sorry she got caught that is. It's a difficult thing to try to get over. It's going to be brought up over and over again if you and she remain together. The trust is now gone.
2007-03-26 22:01:13 · answer #6 · answered by Jerry S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear that it ready break your heart and you must have thinking all the time why? why did she did that to you? and hurt you badly. We can't there for you and comfort you, do you have some friends who you can learn on? male or female it does not matter but to get your anger out? Boy! I wish I could kick her butt a 100 times
2007-03-26 22:10:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
she don't deserve you
i know it is hard but the devours is the way
cause if you try to forgive you will never forget what you saw
start over with new life is much better for you
2007-03-26 22:26:23 · answer #8 · answered by Sufyan D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am really sorry about the situation. I would ask her why. Is she sorry? If not she wants out and there is nothing you can do. I would then find a marriage counselor if she refuses to go then you know your answer.
2007-03-26 22:06:46 · answer #9 · answered by Kimber 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you have any respect for yourself, you'll get rid of the witch with a capital B and find someone who will love you as much as you love them...she sure as heck doesn't. You don't have to take this!
2007-03-26 22:01:20 · answer #10 · answered by Kara 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋