What Are You Embarrassed/Ashamed Of..?

Question

Have you done anything you're embarrassed/ashamed of..?
I'm ashamed a few of us gave a lad a hard time at school. Nearly 30 years later, it OFTEN crosses my mind.

Answer 1

Good for you.

I believe this is because you listen to your soul. Your soul is very simple, but inherently good. It is your soul not your interlect that is ashamed. At that time in your life your mind was too powerful and overruled your soul.
All this time later its your soul that makes you feel ashamed.
It is only because of the fact that you now listen to your soul that you feel bad.
This marks you as a good man.
Forgive yourself but make sure you dont overrule your soul too much again.

I too am ashamed of some fairly minor bullying when I was younger. I try to make amends in my daily life and oppose any form of bullying when I observe it.

Unless we make mistakes we dont learn.
The trick is not to have to make everymistake that there is. To avoid this listen to your soul.

I have a feeling you will probably have a good life.

Good question.

Good luck

Answer 2

I've never bullied anyone at school, as I was a scrawny kid, but I did other things wrong. I am not ashamed, embarassed or nostalgic about them now though - they were my choices at the time and they felt right. Since then I've become a lot older and wiser, and won't make those mistakes again.
If you're really ashamed about having been a bully at school, you need to confront it. Don't seek out who you bullied and apologise and make a drama, because you'll open up very sore wounds unnecessarily - but prevent bullying from happening now at your kids or nephews school, at your workplace.. Not to get on the good side of god, to obtain good karma or brownie points, but to balance things out for yourself.

Answer 3

It's funny 2 of you should mention giving someone a hard time at school. I was bullied for 6 years at school (the seventh I cracked, took everyone on and won). It's made me a stronger person, and I fight for what I want. I'm now a professional Project Manager and respected in my industry.
I still think back to those school days, and that I'm one of the fortunate ones that got over it. I've since found out that 4 of the people that bullied me now have psychiatric help to get over how nasty they were.. I saw one in town the other day, he went white and changed directions to walk away from me. Good too. Although I'm over it in many ways, I know I'd still kick the **** out of them if they crossed my path.
EDIT: I was a beanpole at school, and easy pickings. I'm now 6'4 and 18 stone and do gym and martial arts. I dont suffer fools!! ;-)

Answer 4

My 24th B/day. We went out, I had too much to drink before hand (The one picture that was taken of me, I was out of it and it was only 7.00pm!) We went across the road to the restaurant. I ordered a nice steak and took one bite then stormed out for no reason, managed to flag down a taxi, went home, puked my guts up (Although I do not remember doing this) then fell asleep. My the time my boyfriend (Now fiance, amazingly) got home, I woke up and we had a slight argument, which dragged up a lot of things that I think needed to come out. I had a lot of apologising to do and although everyone who was there that night laughs about it now, I cannot. Really is not funny to me and I feel ill just thinking about it! My mother is a drunk and I became her for a couple of hours that night and that scared me more than anything. Cringe City! I suppose it may get funnier as I get older but not yet!!

Answer 5

Some many years ago, I let a co-worker convince me that another co-worker was gay. I was young and let myself be taken in by her "talk", so I began to ignore the accused which made her feel really bad.
Before this, we had been quite friendly and I got along with her well. I have never forgotten how badly this must have hurt that person. Whether or not she was "guilty" of her accusations was really irrelevant. I am not gay...but even if "she" was...so what?...I still should have kept her as a friend...she was a cool person.

Answer 6

My friends and I used to terrify this poor girl into thinking the boogie man was going to come and get her at night. This was about 30 years ago and I still feel bad about it

Answer 7

That is what I was thinking about yesterday! It was my bday and thought 'I should be ashamed of many things I have done in this life" and I really feel guilty for so many things...but I can't go on thinking that,I will go mad!Life goes on ;)

Answer 8

glad u feel that way. i was bullied at school, and i'm about your age..... i still have problems with my self esteem and confidence even now. the best thing u can do is make sure that if u have children, stress to them how important it is to not bully other kids.... it really can screw up someone's life... and it certainly isn't 'harmless fun', as a lot of bullies seem to think. as for things that i have done that i'm embarrassed about, well, i got revenge on one of the people who bullied me in the past........ i managed to get hold of a bottle of juice that he had, i took it to the bathroom, peed in it, and put it back with his things..... i never told him, but i gloated for years about that....... i do feel kind of childish for having done it, but in my opinion the little sh*t deserved it.

Answer 9

I did something similar when I was in highschool. I too think about that person at times. When I do, I say a little prayer and ask God to forgive me and to bless that other person.

Answer 10

I am forever shaming myself but do try to learn from my mistakes