When my daughter was age 4yrs she was fostered because I was suffering from depression which I was left untreated for, when I was raped four years earlier by someone I had trusted, I was still a virgin and saving myself, for when the right person came along. I was only seventeen at the time, nieve, stupid and knew nothing about boys, so you could imagine, this man thought I was dinner and he just ate me, then spat out my bones, I felt dirty, used and so foolish to trust him.
When I had my daughter fostered , I had every intention of getting her back but when I did try the social worker had left and my daughter was adopted by child abusers, I tried to find her on my own but I couldn't because I couldn't drive.
I was allowed to see her when she was thirteen, I jumped at the chance but she was sent with a minder which I now understand was her abuser, social services wouldn't let me speak to her on her own, all this time she was being sexually abused by the family who adopted her.
2007-03-26 21:37:10 · 9 answers · asked by Lyndell T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Oh lyndel what a heartbreaking story ....... I can only suggest you get yourself a good solicitor to work for you . I dont think you will be able to fight social services on your own . At least a solicitor will know and do it for you quicker . Good luck . xxx
2007-03-26 21:47:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't where you are from lyndell,
But i have a very low Opinion of Social workers im afraid to say.
I would Advice you to bypass these idiots and go and make a Complaint to a Child Protection Team that that the Police have set up in every Force in the UK.
Best of luck
2007-03-27 04:48:14 · answer #2 · answered by ashymojo 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh Lyndell this is such a sad sad story. You and your
daughter have been let down badly.
I would fight now for your daughter and get the police involved.
I assume it was your daughter that told you everything. Don't
be put off by anyone. Let justice be done. Good Luck.
2007-03-27 05:11:23 · answer #3 · answered by Minxy 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
my heart goes out to you,i also was abused as a child so i know what you went through.
please please, keep on at the social work department. and if you are not happy with them, then you are entitled to ask for someone else. and if you are still not happy, with the standard of service you are receiving, then ask to see there boss.then if you still feel that you are not getting through to them, then go even further and ask to see the head of the social work dept. and if you still feel that you have not received the help you are asking for,threaten them that you will go to the press with this.
they will soon change their attitude towards you. these social workers make them tell you in words that you can understand.
PLEASE MAKE YOURSELF BE HEARD,FOR YOUR DAUGHTER,S SAKE.
you need to get her out off this enviroment,before the abuse gets so bad, that she feels that noone cares what happens to her.
this is so terrible in this day and age that this has been allowed to go on for so long. my heart goes out to both off you.
have you tried to contact police about your concerns???
good luck, i hope that you get your daughter back soon.
2007-03-27 05:15:58 · answer #4 · answered by salad bowl 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
im so sorry to hear that,my friend had a daughter that died and she applied to bring her grand daughter up,but social services took her and gave her to the other set of grandparents which abused her. in the end my friend got a very good laywer and is in the process of gettingher back.keep fighting and you willwin!!good luck x
2007-03-27 04:54:23 · answer #5 · answered by donna b 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
its terrible that your daughter was adopted by child abusers and I'm very surprised to hear that your daughter is still with them,if i were you then i would get the police involved and let them deal with it
2007-03-27 06:14:45 · answer #6 · answered by hobbiegirl@btinternet.com 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is so sad. I'm so sorry for what happened to you both.
Skip the social services for now. You should contact the police.
I hope it's over with now. Take care.
2007-03-27 04:59:07 · answer #7 · answered by 👑 Hypocrite 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you need to get back on your meds.
In your last question you said your oldest daughter (she was 27) just died of breast cancer.
2007-03-27 05:12:09 · answer #8 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Talk to police
2007-03-27 04:40:17 · answer #9 · answered by AdultMale 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋