I'm 16 and pregnant how do stop people from tellin me to get rid of it?

Question

yes i'm young but i'm keeping him or her please help.

Answer 1

You have my admiration dear !! Not for getting pregnant so young but for being determined to keep your baby..You won't stop people saying what they think you should do but if you tell them not to offer anything unless they can offer you support,they may get the message..x

Answer 2

People are probably just worried about you. It is very hard work and it go's on for a lifetime. I have 5 children. I had my first when I was almost 20. My partner didn't work and I didn't have a career. Now I'm with someone else and am struggling to get an education. It's also hard because you can't give your children some of the things that you would if you'd waited until you were more financially stable. However when you're young you have more energy for them. I think no-one should try and pressure someone into abortion. If you tell them to go on the internet and look at pictures of aborted babies they might stop. It can make people realise that it is really a baby and not just a clump of cells. At eight weeks pregnant the baby is already fully formed and moving about. I hope you have your baby safely and enjoy him/her. After the baby is born, people will be too busy fussing about it to say horrible things! Good luck for the future.

Answer 3

First off, I want to say that I admire your courage. There is no way I would have been able to fight and say, “I’m keeping my baby” when I was 16 years old. And I know it sounds like a load of crap, but some of the people who are telling you to not keep the baby, are only doing so b/c they care about you. It may not make sense right now, but it will some day. I went through the same thing when I was pregnant. Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do to make people stop giving you their unwanted opinions. All you can really do is grin and bear it. You can try to tell them you appreciate their concern, but your mind is made up. Or you can lie and say that you’re not really sure what you’re gonna do yet. That may shut them up for a while. Just make sure you do listen to their points, and think everything through.

As far as people asking why she cares what people say. I had to deal with the same comments when I was pregnant, with everyone telling me I was stupid to keep the baby. (And I was over 21 too) For me personally, it wasn't’t so much that I cared what they said. But it got extremely annoying being told the same things over and over again. I already knew all the points they made, and understood them, but some people don’t know when or where to draw the line and they harp on it.

Answer 4

you are 16 years old, which means that u are legally allowed to decide whether or not u have sex, and whether or not u choose to have a child..... i do think u are really young, and i can't even begin to explain how much work having a baby involves, but i respect your decision to keep your baby.... you can't make people stop telling u that u should get rid of your baby - i'm afraid that's human nature, most people will automatically think that u are too young to cope, and the only way that u will change their minds is by proving them wrong, and being the best mother u can be... as long as u keep saying 'i am keeping my baby', and u show that u are mature enough to cope with motherhood, then there is nothing that anyone can do to force u into having an abortion or giving up your child for adoption. good luck.

Answer 5

I think that you are the one to decide about this and I might consider getting as much support as I could if I were in your position.

Ask your doctor/social worker/trusted person at school about organisations that will help support you practically. People could be scared for you welfare when they tell you to have an abortion.

Try and show that you have considered the practical consequences - who will look after this child? Where you might live? Will you be in school? etc. This may calm the worries others have about your pregnancy

Talk to the people around you as calmly as you can about the situation - once others realise you are certain then they may/should respect your decision.

Be brave - we cannot see the future and being young does not mean you cannot be a good mother and have a good life.

Answer 6

Good morning Alix,
To answer your actual question-you can't stop people from trying to tell you to get rid of your child. But i place emphasis on the word 'trying'. These people may believe they have your best interests at heart. They may also believe they are doing your unborn child a favour. Please don't let these people sway your way of thinking.

Yes you are young and i do not know if this pregnancy was planned or accidental....some may say even careless.It is not my place to judge and i do not wish to. Alix you have inside you a new life beginning to form. As time goes on you and your child will form a link, a bond. A silent love will form between you both. Accept and nurture this-being a parent is a beautiful experience when looked at as a whole.

Surround yourself with all the support you can find from family,friends, the father, medical professionals. And believe in yourself as a young mother. Have faith and look forward with confidence.

Keep well and safe. All the very best to you.

Answer 7

Hmm, you can say your not interested in any advice. Be gracious and thank them. Most only want to help you and what would be good for you. Being 16 you'll need all the help you can get. Not because you can't do it but because it's hard to be a parent as you will soon find out. If "dad" isn't in the picture any more make sure that "dad" gets to pay his part in child support for the next 18 years. If "dad" is around make sure he takes some parental responibility too. Believe me it's exspensive raising kids. Hard to grow up so fast at 16 though.
GOOD LUCK.....MOM.lol

Answer 8

I'm really glad that you have decided to keep this baby. If people tell you to get rid of it, calmly look them in the eye and ask "Would you murder YOUR child?" Maybe that will get them to shut up and mind their own business. Dont worry too much about what other people say. The only thing you need to worry about is that little baby growing inside of you. S/he will be the most important thing in your life for at least the next 18 years. It will be hard being a parent especially being that you're so young. But believe me, that baby will bring you so much joy you won't be able to believe that you ever lived before your baby was born. I couldnt imagine my life without my daughter.

Answer 9

I wont state the obvious coz you must be sick of hearing!.
The only thing you can do is prove that you are responsible enough to bring a child into this world and that you have made all the right preparations for him/her.
You won't be able to stop people telling you what they think and you should accept it as advice ( take it or leave it ).
They maybe saying this as they care for you, all you can do is let them know it's your life and your choice.
I think 16 is way too young but you have made your decision and I hope that it works out well for you and your baby.
Good Luck

Answer 10

I am so proud of you for taking responsibility and carrying your baby to term. God will honor you for this decision. You may be young, but you are much more mature then those people who are telling you go abort your child. I am adopted and also have 2 adopted kids who are 15 and 18. I do not know if you would consider adopting or not- it seems you are wanting to raise your child, and that is ok too- You may not be able to say anything to make people stop telling you to abort, but I will tell you one thing- continue in what you believe- your child is growing - she or he is living and you know that. Unfortunately sometimes when you chose to do what is right, it will cause problems with others- one thing though that may help is sharing with those people the risks to you in an abortion- these people love you, I am sure-
There are many my dear-
1- excessive bleeding and cramping
2- torn uterus
3- later miscarriages and problems conceiving
4- damage to other organs
5- failed abortions which you will need another procedure done
6- many more
Emotional risks are high as well - grief, shame etc
You may email me if you want to talk more-

Answer 11

I know how you feel honey, I was only 17 when I got pregnant with my daughter and when I decided that I was keeping her people used to look at me like I was mad. The best thing to do is just to ignore them, and I know how hard that is when it is coming at you from all sides. Just tell them that if they have an opinion that's fine, but they should keep it to themselves as this is not a decision that they are going to influence. You don't say who is telling you this, but I am guessing that it is your family and probably some of you friends to. Just tell them how much they are hurting your feelings and if they still refuse to stop then tell them not to speak to you anymore. I promise that it will ease off soon. Good luck darling.