That probably isn't the best way to phrase this question. I haven't come out to any of my friends because I don't want them to think I have been secretly madly in love with them or anything. Did anybody else have this concern? I guess it's not so much that I don't want them thinking that, but knowing how my friends are I know a lot of them will think that I must have had deeper feelings for them, which actually isn't true. I think part of my fear is from different stereotypes of the promiscuos lifestyle of homosexuals. I have the feeling that my friends aren't quite informed enough to know that just because I'm gay, it doesn't mean I want to screw any woman in sight. Thanks for any input. If you're going to come on here and tell me to repent or I'll go to hell or anything of that nature, please just save yourself the time and leave me alone.
2007-03-26 21:00:13 · 5 answers · asked by T 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It wasn't so much a worry as that I knew for a fact that many would assume that, and I was right. Straight men tend to be very sexually insecure and with an extremely fragile ego. Most are unable to conceive of the possibility that a woman or gay man would not be attracted to them. When I was in the Navy I was constantly hearing men defending the gay ban on the grounds that gay men wouldn't be able to keep their hands off of the straight men, themselves in particular. The ones who talked the loudest and most often were the one who had nothing to worry about in that regard.
2007-03-27 05:00:50 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It ocurred to me they might think that but it wasn't a big worry. Mostly because the kind of friends I had at the time were very liberal. We were the weird freaky kids so we were all kinda used to us all being different in different ways. Turned out they had already suspected I was gay for a L-O-N-G time lol
In your case it might help if you told them you were gay at the same time as telling them you have a crush on a particular girl or that you have a girlfriend. Then they'll be less likely to think you are madly in love with them. If you are really worried then tell them straight out that just because you are gay doesn't mean you are some nympho slu.t
2007-03-27 04:23:02 · answer #2 · answered by helehelo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The ones I was lusting after already knew : )
It can be hard - you have to be ready for some prejudice, and some silly assumptions. Odd, as a girl expects her male friends to fancy her, and are usually offended if they don't.
You may find you lose some "friends" - but you may also find care and support from unexpected people.
Good luck
*hugs*
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2007-03-27 04:12:49 · answer #3 · answered by abetterfate 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL - yes, it was a small concern. But I just told them they weren't my type.
It also helped that I had a girlfriend when I came out to them - I was "spoken for" and therefore wasn't "on the prowl".
2007-03-27 04:03:45 · answer #4 · answered by Angelpaws 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That never crossed my mind to be honest!!!I was affraid they would hate me but im happy to say...the friends ive told respected my choice and most of them are happy for me!!!
2007-03-27 04:11:17 · answer #5 · answered by (,'')Sweet guy 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋