What is the best way to get over a friend who was like your brother?

Question

So for about five years I had a good friend who was younger then me. I am an only child and over time I came to really care about this person as my own family and he was a brother to me. We seemed to fight all the time as the years went on and as he grew up and so did I all that seemed to happen was frustration and irritation. Now of course it is never a good situation to be in; I guess I just cared about him alot and tried to be protective...which led to pushing us apart, stupid things said and ignoring the phone calls. Its been a year and for some reason I cant shake not only my guilt and stupidity; but also the fact I never got to say I am sorry. Of course I also miss him as well and wished our friendship worked out. I am having trouble focusing sometimes and I can get a bit depressed over it still from time to time. Any thoughts people?

Answer 1

best way to get over them?

wow. thats sad, i can tell this must haunt you a lot. i am going through a similar thing right now though.

I have bad news for you though, there is no magical pill or spell or even a recital that will help you. People will tell you "dont think about him", but in trying not to think about him you are doing just that.

When I miss somebody the only thing that really helps me is to be with my friends, and begin to grown new memories with them and grow new relationships. It takes time, time, and more time, but eventually you will have more memories of the good times than of the bad.

Hope that all makes sense.

Answer 2

1) acuna matata.
He is your past, and that's all.
If he don't care about your friendship , why should you?
2) If you care more, call him and say that U ARE SORRY.
If he accept your apology then stop depressing and relax with him.
What else, ...
3) sometimes happens that after quarrel, u think that everything is ok and when u have happy times, u feel that something is missing in our heart.
U look at the person and feel, he is your past. He shouldn't have behaved like that. Even if we are together, something is bad and never can be returned.
PS; I am honest!!! I am serious!!! Could you please see my question about ex-best friend sitation and respond to it.

Answer 3

Call him up to meet up for some drinks, get wasted, go meet some chicks and go paint the town red. Then in the morning when you both are hungover you'll forget about all the B.S. that happened before and become good buds again.

Good Luck.