Am I right to be mad about a friend "dumping" us?

Question

I'm not going to refer to the gender of the person just for the sake of anonymity.

Ok, I am in a group of friends who all used to hang out together all the time. We had really good times and everything, there were no problems. Well one of the friends of the group got a new job, and he/she works a lot. So at first we all understood him/her not being around much anymore.

Well days went by, weeks went by, and now almost two months have gone by and we only talk to him/her once a week if that through text-messages. Its a part-time job, so its obvious that the person doesn't work every single day, nor work more than a 8 hour shift.

So he/she must be doing other things with his/her time. But he/she just says "i work" or "I'm busy" or some other way to brush us off. And we know he/she is spending time with "new friends".

**SO** my question is, do I have the right to be mad at this person (which i am)? And I already confronted them about it, was that the right thing to do? Thanks

I would just like to point out that I am not mad because he/she MADE new friends, I am mad because we are being lied to and avoided.

Is it unreasonable for us to expect him/her to share time equally between us, instead of just leaving us altogether?

Answer 1

It was the right thing to do confronting them and questioning them as honesty in this situation needs to play in your favor. People grow apart and find new interests with new people; the job may be new and they are looking to keep the new friends they have obtained. Most people who do this though of course forget about there other friends and think nothing of it. They only know what is the here and now. They will not get why you are upset or why you wish they could be there! All you can do in this case is what you did and if they do not want to give you the time of day then tell them if you cant give me time and understand why I want to see you then I guess I should focus on the friends that do and if you need me I will be there. You can only be patient and let the new job fitting in syndrome wear off! Good Luck!

Answer 2

No it wasn't the right thing to do and No you don't have the right to be mad over this.
Dumping us is actually called moving on with your life,growing up or whatever you'd like to call it.
It happens millions of times aday all over the world where possible.
Sounds as if your group of friends went mostly through school together and all the stuff that goes with that.
Since your friend is just at the part time job age,I would guess you are still in school.
If that is the case you have alot more of this coming,friends applying for different classes(harder) spending more time really doing homework instead of hanging out.
Then comes moving to different towns and states,your group is getting smaller.
Finally comes applications for colledge and graduation more of your group move to attend.
Your group is very small now just a few hanging in town who didn't do any of that stuff.
So for them it is now part or full time work,maybe even a family,you remain friends but they are very busy trying to make ends meet for the family and just don't have time to hang out.
So what about you,instead of being happy and glad for your "friend" they were growing and trying to improve themselves,you get mad(very selfish).
Try moving on yourself,you too will make new friends improve your future and not carry such junk around.
Good luck hope your choices are for the better.

Answer 3

If he/she could walk away from all her old friends just like that, I don't think that he/she was much of a friend to all these people in the first place. He/she was probably just a hanger on cause there was nothing better to do at the time.

Answer 4

He probably considering a few matters: one million. You wish him again! two. You wish to strip him of all peers to get even (Turn his buddy towards him) three. These peers are each you and his and he simply wishes you out of this existence altogether. four. Keep in brain his peers obviously remind him how quality, humorous, and so on. you're. And that will get him mad to be reminded of what ache he brought on to yours and his existence. Just a few strategies!

Answer 5

You should BE mad at her/him for dumping you as friends.
But you should be happy she/he's made new friends.
I suggest you ask them why this has happened and talk it through.