I have just found out that I am not pregnant.. For the last 2 weeks I was sure that I was because I was having symptoms and my period was also 2 weeks late..
I wasnt planning on being pregnant or having a child this early in my life (I'm 20) but during the time I and my partner of 3 and a half years knew it was a possibility I was really getting used to the idea and now I am really wanting a child.. and was strangly dissapointed when I realised I wasnt pregnant..
We both have good jobs that we work full time at, own cars, a house together and have lived together for over 2 years.. We are planning on getting married and having children.. but I dont know how to tell him that I really want a baby and I dont want to be waiting years down the track to have one.. we are finantially able and emotionaly able.. and I just dont know how to tell him that I want to start to plan to start a family now.. earlier then we had initially planned..
What do you think..?
2007-03-26 19:59:17 · 12 answers · asked by *edb* 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
My partner is 23.. :)
2007-03-26 20:22:39 · update #1
These are testing times.
If you are going to live together, you need to be open, frank & talk to each other.
Please don't spring any unexpected surprises on each other.
Let the first child be a planned one, born inside of a wedlock and one who is greeted by both mother & father with equal joy.
If a child is so important to you & if he loves you, he will place your feelings before his career or freedom etc and together you can start a family.
Trust me babes .... Love always finds a way , but first we need to clear the path of our unfounded fears.
2007-03-26 20:09:05 · answer #1 · answered by Tim 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that your not pregnant. If you feel that strongly about having a baby then tell your partner how you feel about a baby and how upset and disappointed you was when you found out you wasn't. He may even feel the same way. You sound like you are ready. I had my first at 17 and i wouldn't change her for the world. If i can look after a child at 17, I'm sure you can do it at 20. Good luck
2007-03-26 20:12:47 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really think you are ready and if your partner feels this way to I don't see why you need us to tell you to do it. If it feels right go ahead. I had my first child at 19, I love being a mum and wouldn't change it for the world, but I do miss feel that I have missed out on a lot of fun with all of my child free friends. Just remember once you decide to do it, it changes your life forever.
2007-03-26 20:06:11 · answer #3 · answered by bvan_25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When are you planning on getting married? I know you've lived together for two years, so you're committed to each other, but it might be better if you got married first.
You do need to tell him what you've told us, and see where he is at in the scheme of things. How old is he? If he's 20, he might not be at that stage yet.
2007-03-26 20:20:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best way to do it is to just come out and say it. Plan a nice dinner and tell him that you would like to discuss something that is really important to you.
2007-03-26 20:12:33 · answer #5 · answered by Bethany 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you all are as emotionally stable as you say then it won't be a problem just being open and honest and he should be the same way.
2007-03-26 20:04:46 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take him shopping in the baby area. he may just get the hint if you do it enough, and watch baby shows on discovery...maybe he will end up wanting one too!
2007-03-26 20:08:59 · answer #7 · answered by bluejeanwifey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him, you never know he might be thinking the same thing.
2007-03-26 20:14:40 · answer #8 · answered by Casey13 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what you just told us. It pretty much says it all. Good luck!
2007-03-26 20:04:03 · answer #9 · answered by mandiliz06 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yea i think you just nead to tell him wat you told us and i think its cool to be a young mum im 19 and hav a 3 year old and im pregnant with your 2nd due in 3 months i think its nice to b a young mum so yea just tell him wat you told us!
good luck with it!
2007-03-26 21:07:13 · answer #10 · answered by kirsty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋