2007-03-26 18:52:23 · 17 answers · asked by Strawberry_One 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Can I tell you that this question is generally baffling to most men? I still know the answer though...
Men don't usually 'plan out relationships' or really even give them much thought as to where they're going and what the next logical step is. A wise man recognizes a good relationship and wants to 'finalize' it so to speak by getting married. But most men have a 'if it's not broke don't fix it' viewpoint for relationships. They enjoy a good relationship but don't think much about how to make it progress.
Women usually see a relationship as a series of steps, the culmination of which is marriage and then babies, etc... Some of those later steps can be a little frightening to men, especially as there are so many many many MANY examples of loveless marriages.
If you're looking to 'move things along' to the next level with your man you might be best served tying a sense of deepening love to what a marriage vow really means. In other words, make him understand that things will get better, not worse, after marriage. Most women are fixated on weddings, but don't think about the after-effects of what it means to be married, so please be sure this is the right guy for you and don't push for a marriage just because 'we've been together a while now'.
I warn you most men don't care much about a wedding one way or the other and may even be intimidated by all the ceremony surrounding it (guest lists, choosing cake, etc). A wise man will still soldier through because he'll realize that most women put great importance on the wedding ceremony - it's sort of her show.
But after the wedding remember that the real meaning of marriage is the sacred vows and the deep and pure love that can be established. Take care of your men ladies and they will take care of you.
2007-03-26 19:08:22 · answer #1 · answered by Jon S 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There could be a lot of things that might keep a man from marrying a woman. You know your guy the best here are some more well thought of things:
1. He is living with her and he is already reaping the benefit why get married ( In other words why buy the cow if you get the milk free) such a old expression but kind of truthful.
2. He is one of those noncommittment types and wants to live with the woman forever but never sign the paper.
3. He is afraid that getting married will change the perfect relationship.
4. He is afraid of a more permanent status with his partner.
5. There have been to many problems in the relationship, he is afraid to committ.
6. He likes to feel like he is a player and not settle down.
I think alot of problems not wanting committmentare due to fear and due to a lack of communication between what the expectations are for the relationship. Make what you want know dont sit back and expect him to read your mind. Good luck dont be passive or you wont get married
2007-03-27 02:20:26 · answer #2 · answered by oceanqueen1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he has children by a previous marriage a lot... most of his income goes to child support, and he barely has funds to date her. If he does not have children, alimony will suck the life blood out too... Another reason will be apprehension... once bitten twice shy... if not married before, then just worried that she is not the right woman, or too clingy or bitchy... not knowing then how can I tell you?
2007-03-27 02:05:28 · answer #3 · answered by jujubeings 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be alot of things. A past marriage that didnt work out, to commitment issues, to you just not being the one.
The best thing is to ask him, what he thinks about marriage. And if he says hes not there yet then you know. How long have you been dating?
If its 5 years or more, then express to him how you feel. Wait another year, then decide whether or not you can live your life without marriage. If you cant, then you need to leave.
2007-03-27 01:58:16 · answer #4 · answered by Zenthae 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Really not enough info here, how long have the man and woman been together? Religious reasons? Money issues? Family issues? Location issues? (where each wants to live or where they live now?) Maybe there is a disagreement about the future involving kids/pets/housing??
2007-03-27 01:57:47 · answer #5 · answered by Rosanna 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not having sown wild oats. If he didn't have sex with enough women, then he will not want to marry you yet.
Otherwise, he'll be like a caged animal always on the hunt for some STRANGE.
2007-03-27 01:56:31 · answer #6 · answered by Joe B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually it's immaturity - not wanting to settle down.
Also, if the girl is living with the guy, he has no need to or want to get married; she's made it too convenient as it is.
2007-03-27 10:04:37 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just about anything...most likely the fact that he doesn't WANT to get married.
2007-03-27 03:59:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it would be the fact that the guy would only have that one woman to have sex with for the rest of his life so she better be good in bed...lol
2007-03-27 01:55:37 · answer #9 · answered by tropical_sweety2587 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Fear of commitment, because he want's to keep his options open...Usually means, he's using the girl....
2007-03-27 01:56:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋