2007-03-26 18:42:23 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
if I were lucky enough to have a child I'd be as supportive, affirming and encouraging as if he/ she were straight...
2007-04-02 07:46:29 · answer #1 · answered by tomi27410 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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16 - I'm proud that they feel comfortable enough to tell me. It reflects that they trust me not to reject them. I would then ask how do they discover that they're gay and will then preach to them about safe sex (hey, all parents should do this.. ^^) and discuss if there's a possibility that this is just an experiment phase (typical of teenagers, right?). However, I have to do my duty as to warn/tell them about the 'wrongness' of it by our religion's perspective (sorry, but I have to do that). Personally though, I would support them as best as I could. And just love them as much as any other parents would for their child.
21- pretty much the same answer as above. Though by now, I'm pretty sure they're more matured and more sure of their sexual preferences. I won't worry quite as much about them having to deal with the world outside.
30- Not so much of preaching, just acceptance and perhaps a bit of advice. I would however, pester them to find their partner quickly so they can adopt some grandchildren for me *evil grin*
45- I'll ask 'why now, after all these years'.. and I guess, i'll be a bit sad that they didn't tell me about this before. It just shows that maybe I failed somehow to let them know for sure that no matter how, they can always count on me to accept them as they are. After all that angst, I'll ask 'so.. who's your partner now? bring him/her for dinner next week'.. see, I'm such a cool parent ^__^.
But again, whatever age they may be.. they'll always be my baby and it'll hurts me to think that they won't have an easy life even in this modern time where prejudice should be less than in the old days (I sound like I'm from the 50s or something..and to think I'm only in my twenties now ^^)
2007-03-27 02:10:57 · answer #2 · answered by Criztalinz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be remiss to say I wouldn't worry at any age but to not "get it " as a parent when your adult child is 30 / 45 is to say it never rains in Oregon.
Not saying straights don't choose celebacy either for those who want to argue. Gay life isn't as gay as some would have us believe..There's plenty of heartache and the double edged sword of non- acceptance is at your throat everyday.
So....I would worry that my child would go through the pain that is out there .All parents worry but this would add to the burden. i would always be there for that child too no matter what his age.....
2007-03-27 01:54:46 · answer #3 · answered by cesare214 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If at age 16, i will be shocked,at age 21,still shocked,at age 30, still shocked at age 45, who cares!
2007-03-27 03:03:17 · answer #4 · answered by javo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 16, I would wonder if they were experimenting or really knew.
At 21, I would think they really knew who they were.
At 30, I would wonder why they waited to long to tell me and be hurt that they wouldn't trust me enough to tell me.
At 45, I would wonder if they were going through some midlife crisis-- but still be hurt they waited so long to tell me.
No matter what age, they would always have my love and support.
2007-03-27 01:49:58 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa the Pooh 7 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Logically speaking, the younger they are.. say 16 or 21.. I will be shocked..and probably I will go through a state of self-denial... asking if it is my fault... why didnt i notice his inclinations and all... perhaps at first I would also be angry and insist he change his ways
But after that, I will go be more accepting, though I hope he finds the right way after some time.
2007-03-27 01:52:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anna D 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
I would be a bit sad because the world today is so intolerant and worry about others treating them poorly. Other then that I wouldn't care, I love my kids, and the most important thing to me is that they are happy, healthy, and have good values.
2007-03-27 01:48:57 · answer #7 · answered by curls 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope that I would say this:
"You have been brought up to trust God and believe what He says. So my advice to you is to love God and be whatever it is that you are. In that order. If you are Gay, then be Gay. But know that God loves you, as He loves me. "
And then I would want to hear about the man or woman that they are in a relationship with, and meet them. It would be a meeting where people are gentlemen and ladies: Everyone as comfortable as possible.
2007-03-27 02:44:09 · answer #8 · answered by Christian Sinner 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I honesly would not care at what age my child came to me and said they were gay, I would be there for them and support their decision.
2007-03-27 11:40:35 · answer #9 · answered by kanei 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would start freaking out, but since they would be my kid, I'd love them regardless. but a age 18, they can be whatever they want, as long as they don't get like surgery or anything.
2007-03-27 02:00:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
At whatever age they felt comfortable coming out would be best regardless, I would support tehm through it.
2007-03-31 06:38:19 · answer #11 · answered by kissaled 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋