im going to a family meeting tomarrow ,where 6 people are going to be asking me questions and coming down on me. i need my back up what things should i say??
2007-03-26 18:31:48 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
If 6 people are going to hold an intervention, maybe they feel they have good reason to. Are you doing things you shouldn't be?
Don't be too egotistical into thinking you are too good for your family. Once they give up on you, you've got nothing.
I say, listen and think about it. Everything you do effects them too. Your parents did what was best for you for years, I think you owe it to them to give them an hour of your time and to listen to what they have to say.
You've only got one life. Don't mess it up prematurely.
2007-03-26 18:42:12 · answer #1 · answered by TrixyLoo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this might be something you need! What you were saying is that you are trying to develop some sort of ARMOR such that what anyone had to express or discuss you**IN** your world would have the Armour to deflect any thing they might bring against you. If that's all you want out off it,, well...O.K. BUT (A big BUTT!!!)You Can Get Better. Not all at once but every time you can get to be an open an accepting person. I know it takes a while. (I was like this a looong time) now I am doing much better. Thank you for reminding me of my initial struggles...GOOD LOOK !!!
2007-03-26 18:46:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are trying to "out smart the therapist and those around you" (in your own words), well you are not ready to change. It sounds like they are trying to do an intervention of some sort.???? Well, instead of manipulating everyone, just be honest and tell them you are not willing to change your behavior at this time. Why lie? Its a waste of time.
2007-03-26 18:54:52 · answer #3 · answered by gloria k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start by responding to questions with intelligent, carefully thought-out questions. The Socratic method. Ask for clarification when needed and when appropriate, begin sentences with "I feel" so as to gain sympathy from the other parties. Also, say "I understand" to show the others that you are listening to them and considering what they are saying seriously. Just try to be calm, rational, and pro-active. Good luck.
2007-03-26 18:40:06 · answer #4 · answered by Meowzer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say drop your pretense, otherwise you'll be heading down a slipperly slope. Either face reality or risk feeling more miserable than you already do. Also, I would suggest you speak up and honestly describe what is bothering you about them...they are not perfect either. Time to get real....with yourself and everybody esle.
2007-03-26 18:45:44 · answer #5 · answered by Rain 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whenever they ask you a question just answer an easier question that you want to answer, take like a keyword and use it but evade the question. Like if they as you, "Why do you get so defensive when I just tell you my feelings?" You say, "I know, its important for everyone to let their feelings be known". If they ask you more probing questions just give variations of the same answer in different words and act like you don't understand the difference between the two questions. :)
2007-03-26 18:38:20 · answer #6 · answered by dentalflossbush 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, don't be defensive or argumentative, just answer questions honestly. It's okay to express your feelings, to say what's on your mind, just don't attack or insult others. Therapy sessions aren't to get down on you, they are to help you and others understand what is going on with you. Don't go into this expecting it's all going to be an attack. It isn't. Relax, enjoy the experience, learn from it.
2007-03-26 18:39:28 · answer #7 · answered by sparkletina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why try to outsmart them, tell them what they need to know, and if you are the butt of it all then apologize, say you're sorry and that you'll never do it again. If you're open and honest you'll not have to keep making up things. If this is something where you will be kind of on trial, then secure an attorney who will tell you what to say and what not to say.
2007-03-26 18:38:37 · answer #8 · answered by sophieb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you need back up on things that might be said that says you are scared of the truth and dont want to face it.
You don't need back up, tell them exactly how you feel at that time.
2007-03-26 18:37:17 · answer #9 · answered by Forbidden1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't talk, but do listen. After all these people have spoken, then you take apart their theories, beliefs or whatever and politely throw them back in their faces. If you haven't really done anything to harm others, I don't see what you would really need to defend yourself about, though.
2007-03-26 18:36:23 · answer #10 · answered by knight2001us 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋