No Friends in School =(?

Question

Im a 13 year old boy with no friends =(. People get used to the fact that i dont talk a lot but i dont want them to! i just want someone to be friends with. ALSO, i have a friend but HIS friend always makes him avoid me on purpouse what do i do for this? That friend wants to be my friend but his says No i dont want to dit over there every time he says lets sit next to me... HELP! please any suggestions? MY SCHOOL ONLY HAS 20 ppl in 7th grade! And no after school activities or clubs at the school =( Im always sad. i used to have friends all the time then they all left..

I just feel so bad from all this it seems like i can't do anything anymore and i never want to go to school =(. I just cant force myself to talk to people ive never talked to before noramlly

The Bad thing is everyone else already has friends, and i cant fit in anywhere =( if there was only another person

the sad truth is also that i live in Santa Monica, California in LA County =( our school is the BEST and safest around but with only these many people and EVERY one of them has friends.. i feel hopeless.. i have nothing to do at recess i just sit somewhere for 10 minutes doing nothing i just want someone to come up to me!

Answer 1

...first off, please no this...you will not be 13 forever. People grow and change and life definitely gets better. The next thing is this old saying - in order to make a friend, be a friend. You sound like you see yourself as a bit shy (ie: "People get used to the fact that I don't talk alot.") Why not make some short term goals to reach out...even if you start out easy like saying, "Hi!" to 5 new people this week (they don't have to be just 7th graders:) Then "graduate" to, a little bit more with a couple of the people you said hi to the first week...things like - "Hey - what'd you think of that history test?", or other comments about things in school that you know you have in common with others....and so on. Another idea is to volunteer in your community....you're still too young to meet people through work, but there are lot's of volunteer opportunities out there & if you find a place/or something to volunteer for that interest you, you will meet other people with similar interests. It sounds like you are a little isolated...so you may have to work harder than this then other people might...but hang in there...you can do it - oh- and also remember - as self conscious and shy as you may feel sometimes...everyone else is truly feeling the same social and personal discomfort...they just show it/don't show it differently...it goes with the territory of being 13....hang in there :) You are in this world for a reason - it's a big world with lot's of potential friends out there....just try and look beyond you & instead slowly involve yourself/and get interested in the people and world around you.....best of luck :)

Answer 2

I could cry for you when I read this. My grandson made that same statement to me when he was 8 years old. He started crying in the car and when i asked him what was wrong, he said, " I don't have any friends, when its recess time, I am always all by myself on the play ground, no one likes me." I would do anything for my grandson, love him dearly, but I could not get friends for him. He was and is also a quiet kid and does as the saying goes, "marches to a different drummer." Which is good, always be your own person. That, I'm sure does not make you feel a whole lot better now but I promise you, in time you will have friends. My grandson is now almost 17 and he has 3 good friends, they fish and hunt and hang out together.
Do your parents know how you feel, maybe they can help or a teacher could maybe match you up with someone at school. Remember this, its only temporary, in time someone will realize you are a neat person and become your good friend. Always know you are loved and are here for a reason.
Look around and see if you see someone else that looks lonesome and befriend them.

Answer 3

Um, sorry dude, I used to be the shy one too, know how it feels, but until u open up, thats just the way its going to be, maybe part of the reason u don't talk it maybe u have nothing to talk about, take up some Hobbies I got into cars, but, rifle shooting, bow shooting, hunting, it sounds like ur from hicksville USA, no pun intended, but 20 ppl, my class had 120, in a town of 4500, and I thought I lived in hicksville, so in that situation, I guess fourwheeling, off roading, (little young for that, need a license) I don't know what the finacial situation is, but maybe ur dad could buy u a truck that u could start working on, lift kit, modified engine, big tires, chrome drop bumbers, roll bar, nerf bars, so on and so fourth, that would get u the girls when u where old enough to drive, well it does in my area of hicksville. Go, to the local gas station and buy 4wheeler and off road, there are a couple of others, get some ideas, or u could go sport compact, get a honda put a vtech in it, some 17"s, custom body kit spoiler, neon lights, turbo timer, custom paint, vinyl graphics that will get the girls too.

Answer 4

I'm sorry about all of this bud. Unfortunately, I really don't know what to tell you. You can't make someone be your friend of course. Ah! I have an idea! Think about your hobbies and interests are. You could get more involved in your church or participate in city events. The main thing you need to do is to socialize outside of the school. I'm not sure where you could go exactly, buy try to find a place you could go that people with some of your interests go to. As the old saying goes, "When in Rome, do as the Romans do."

Answer 5

Sometimes the best friends are those you aren't looking for. Just by what you described, maybe you might notice a girl that nobody else talks to, or leaves out. Maybe make a friend with her, or him, if there are others that are left out.

I went to a magnet school. That means I was bussed over to another school just because I did well at sports. I was so alone, though, I lived in a different community than those kids at the high school. The friends I had were from the softball team or track team. I never had a chance to be their friend though, since I lived so far away from them. I didnt' want to reach out to other people because I guessed (in my own mind) that other kids there didn't want to talk with me.

Find people like me by reaching out and sitting with them at lucnh, or hanging between classes, or being a study buddy with them.

A friend is a great treasure, so you should seek to find them sometimes.

Answer 6

I know exactly how you feel. Making friends can be tough so many of mine moved away and i had to drop some because they treated me like crap. So the only friend I have is in completly different classes. Meh 7th grade is hard I'm living it right now. Find people in other grades too. Just cuz soemones older doesn't mean there arn't great. There's a 8th grade kid at my school who i have "poke" wars with well whenever we see each other in the halls we try to tag the ther person first >.< Hey if you never get a friend there you have people here who would love to be your friend, like me. So keep your hopes up be yourself but tak to people try to get them to know you and show what a wonderful person you really are to them.

Answer 7

You're eventually going to have to get over your shy-ness right? Why not now? Sooo... It may seem pointless or what-not but you know you could like make small-talk with someone new everyday-- or try to.. be like ..awwhh man i didn't study for this test, the weather is so suckish today, hey do you have a pencil i can borrow, did you see that (sports thing) last night? etc. you know conversation starters :)

For different classes-- maybe pick someone who looks nice and chit chat with them and get to know them-- that way you'll meet more people and maybe even make new friends =D They won't bite your head off :) just approach them, be confident and SMILE

Sound corny? ..Heh sorry then..
I was shy once too eh? *hugs*
Hope it all works out for you-- goodluck!

Answer 8

Are there any other kids there that don't have friends? If so reach out to them. If not and you see a particular group that is nice then start talking to them about something you may have in common.

Answer 9

that's sad. but that's life, i totally understand how you feel. i use to have absoulutely NO friends, but start talking to someone that you can relate to and have lots in common with. if not, just be yourself and laugh and have a good time and just be super nice and cool and people will like you, just don't let people step all over you.

Answer 10

the only thing i can tell you to do is to just break out of your shell and make friends.
be outgoing, be yourself.
my friend used to be really quiet in all her classes and she always wondered why she couldnt get friends in her class.
when she got more self confident later on, she found that shed made friends with everyone in her class because they loved her personality and they loved her confidence.
its very hard trying to make friends, especially in middle and high school.. but if you just be yourself, theyll appreciate it and hopefully make friends with you :]
good luck with everything..!