Doctors???Scared???

Question

im 13 and i got my 1st period a year and a month ago and since than i only had it 3 times (the last one was 5 months ago). im going to go to the doctor to see wats up but im scared. i still have a pediation (little kid doctor) and it is a guy i dont want to talk about that stuff with him ewwwwwww my mom and sis have a different doctor and its a woman but i dont no wat doc i will have cause i heard their doctor isnt taking new people for a while. so will probably have him

wat is she/he going to do?
will i have to take my clothes off?
wat r some other things that will happen?

im not pregnant

Answer 1

you are 13, not sexually active..

what will happen is that the doctor will ask you some questions... probably feel your tummy..(you won't have to take your clothes off, so don't worry) and the doctor will have you go for blood tests... when those tests come back, they will decide on the course of treatment, if a treatment is needed... there is no reason to go to a ob/gyn at your age unless they suspect something really serious.. irregular periods are very common with young teens..

my suspicians are that you may have pcos... if that's the case, the doctor will most likely put you on the birth control pill along with metformin, which is a drug made for diabetes,but widely used in the treatment of pcos..

don't worry, and good luck

Answer 2

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Answer 3

It's normal not to have regular periods at your age, and the doctor may not want to do an exam. In today's legal climate, it isn't enough that you aren't pregnant, they'll probably want a test to show you aren't.
If they decide to do an exam, which I hope they don't, it shouldn't bother you whether the doctor is a man or a woman. It's routine, and the normal rules of society don't hold. (And that "what do male doctors know stuff is just ridiculous, there's no nicer way to put it.)
For the pelvic exam, if you have one, you'll have to trade your clothes for a drape. It can be done in other positions, but the usual one is for you to lie on your back with your feet up in special stirrups and your legs spread apart. It isn't very dignified, but one does what one must. They'll insert a speculum (either metal, preferably warmed, or plastic) into your vagina. If you can relax, it shouldn't be painful. The doctor can then take swab samples from the cervix (for cultures or Pap smear, neither of which is likely to be needed in your case) or the vagina (again, not likely needed). They remove the speculum and do a manual exam by feeling the cervix, uterus, and adnexae (ovaries,etc.) between the finger of one hand inside the vagina against the other hand placed outside above the pubic bone.
I personally think the doctor won't want to do an exam at your age if you've never had sex.
And this may be a "Ewwwww" to you, but it's pretty boring stuff for the doctor, so there's no reason to be embarrassed.

Answer 4

It is extremely common for 13 yr olds to not have regular periods. Your pediatrician sees girls with the same problem as you all the time, so don't worry about. He will not be taking your clothes off (there is no reason to). He will ask you a lot of questions though (when was your last period, how many have you had, are you experiencing a lot of stress, do you have any other medical problems). The doctor will take your blood pressure, listen to your heart, and weigh you. He will probably then explain to you that it is common for you to have irregular periods. He'll probably explain that you are still developing, and your hormones are not "fine tuned" yet. Birth control is a common treatment for PMS as well as irregular periods

I have listed some websites from reputable sources, like the FDA and Univeristy of Michigan. They can help you learn a little more about irregular periods and development.

Answer 5

I wouldn't be too worried about it...you're only 13, and your body is still growing and changing : not only on the outside but also the inside.
I'd say you'll mostly be talking about your period when you do get it. It might be a good idea for you to think about the flow, cramps (if any), how strong they are...where they are, if there is an odour, the colour of the flow, any blood clots (don't worry they're normal for most women)
Write it all down, and any questions you may have, and make sure you bring them when you go to the doctors.
You can have your mother go in...in fact it'll make it a lot less scarier for you.

Remember : if you have ANY questions ask!!!
If you take and active part with the doctor about what's going on inside you'll feel soooooo much better. Don't be shy either, O.K? Getting an answer - any answer, good or bad - is always better than what you might imagine it to be.
Good luck, and don't worry. :]

Answer 6

Because you are just starting out with your period it is very common to have the periods be irregular and it can take more than one year to do so. Where the concern lies is if there is still no period by 16.

As for going to the dr about this issue I would definitely let your mom know that you would rather go to a woman dr about this and you can have it set up with this female gynecologist that you would like to talk to her while still in plain clothes. That way it won't be as scary. If it is decided that she must do an exam (and yes you will have to take your pants and such off) if she's really good she'll explain everything she's doing as she's doing it.

The first step to the exam is that of inserting a speculum (a special instrument that allows them to look inside your vagina, and they have a small sized one for virgins). The speculum looks like the bill of a duck.

The dr may do a pelvic exam and what that means is that she will feel your organs to make sure there are no abnormalities such as masses like a cyst or abnormal shape to them. As for the pap smear she may or may not do that but if she does, she will use a special brush to take some of the cells from your cervix to put on a slide that gets sent to the lab for analysis to check to make sure they are normal.

The exam should not hurt but if it does it's either because of one of the following 3 things:

1. Being tense (normal because of nerves about a new experience so it's important to relax)

2. If the dr is too rough (in this case you can ask that they stop)

3. There is something wrong (such as an infection)

As for what else will happen she may ask you some questions about how you felt with the last period, may order some tests to help figure out what is going on in addition to that exam.

But because this is such a new experience for you and the fact that you feel uncomfortable with the male pediatrician let your mom know about your concern. As for getting in to her dr as some of the others said some drs will make an exception but your mom can ask for a recommendation for a female gyn from your pediatrician that can take you.

Answer 7

Most doctors will make exceptions and add a close relative, if they dont add you then they werent a good doctor anyways... The doctors have ALL the control!
Your going to have to take your clothes off... Like the doctor told me we see this everyday and it is normal...
The doctor will probably give you a pap... dont be scared... as long as you are totally relaxed it wont hurt... if you are tensing up it hurts... The will take like a cotton swab to the inside of you and you are done...
I know it sounds stupid... but I had a doctor tell me they see them so much it is like a face. Dont be scared... you will be fine... SOmetimes stress can cause you not to have a period... And if you have been sexaully active then you may be pregnant... u need to tell your doctor if you have had sex, or are planning on it... He or she can help you, and they can not tell your parents becasue of the great HIPPA law...But seriously IT WONT HURT IF YOU RELAX!!!!
Good Luck Sweetie... I know it is scary but you will be ok...

I am not saying you are pregnant... I was just saying that kids are at that age sometimes do get pregnant and dont realize it since there preiods arent regular yet... Just make sure that your doctor knows if you are sexually active... either way you should not be embarresed... just always be honest with your doctor.

Answer 8

lol, guys aren't all that bad. He's probably just going to ask you some questions and schedule some blood work. he might press around your stomach but I'm sure you won't get naked and have him check out our vagina and stuff, that's what gyno's do, not pediatricians. If you do go to a gyn doctor than they may, but if it's man or woman it doesn't really matter, they're professionals and they went to school for years to learn about that stuff. Don't think that all guys are just morons and evil and we don't know anything about female biology, that's being a bit ignorant and sexist., like Kay below saying "a lot of times men doctors don't know how to handle a woman" she doesn't really have any facts or stats to back that up, it's just the way she feels about men, which is sad since we are 50% of the population. We are people too, we're not all that different from you, it's not like we have 2 heads and a tail or something, sheesh.

Answer 9

Hey, there is nothing to worry about. Hopefully the doctor your mom and sister go to has an availability (they don't usually take NEW patients but if your mom is an established patient she may take you on as a patient.)
All the doctor is going to do is ask you some questions, maybe do a urine test, and possible a PAP test. If at anytime you feel uncomfortable just let the doctor know. Your mom will be allowed to stay in the room and a female nurse will also be there. I have two kids, I'm an old pro. It's nothing just relax and find out what is causing your problem.

Answer 10

First you need to understand something, EVERY person male or female has had their clothes off in front of a Doctor, often times of the other gender. Doctors are professional and are very understanding of teen issues especially OBGYN's. It is not at all unusual for girls to have irregular periods especially at first so try not to be alarmed by this. You will have a examination. You really need to talk with your mother about your fears and concerns because she has been there first hand and can calm and reassure you like no one else can!