I can't get over how guilty I feel. I've always worked to support myself and I was at a dead end job and now I am going to school for my bachelors. I feel like I need to bring some money in but we are more than well off. I don't know if I should continue to go to school to get a better job to support the family we want to have or just go to school part time and have a full time job. The guilt is killing me....any suggestions!!!!
2007-03-26 18:02:16 · 17 answers · asked by kittypunx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I just want to put in my part (financially) in the marriage. My husband is more than supportive but living your whole life supporting yourself and then not...........
2007-03-26 18:17:55 · update #1
geeee, i thought that spouses are supposed to support each other through thick and thin no matter what
now where is this guilt coming from?
if you are well off then perhaps you should have this discussion with your husband, why let a bunch of strangers decide your future for you and your spouse
perhaps we should also decide what you should eat for dinner tomorow?
i know its sarcastic, but still, sit down and decide with your hubby, look at the long term outcome, a bachelors degree will get you the oportunities for a better CAREER instead of a deadend job
2007-03-26 18:07:03 · answer #1 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can do what I did, although it's only a suggestion. If you can qualify (ask at the college you're attending) you could get into the Federal Work/Study program. It's really great. I was on Pell Grants though, but if you're getting student loans then you may still qualify. Check it out and see. Then you can go into the campus offices and see what type of jobs they have open. You may be able to find something in your area of study; ie: same department. That's what I did. I was in for a law enforcement and criminal law major, and they had an opening in the Public Services Department, which I snatched up in a heartbeat. I was allowed to work in the offices for the instructors for 277 hours per semester. It paid $9.00 an hour, but at least it helped me buy gas and food for the time I was in. You never know, you could always apply at the college or university for a position they may have open.
Good luck. I sure know the feeling.
2007-03-27 01:16:31 · answer #2 · answered by chole_24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's what marriage is all about. When one is down the other picks up and vise versa. Go to school, its up to you whether full or part time, understanding that you could bring in some money now and feel good about yourself, or get your degree and make more money. Then figure into the equation when you want this family to start. Lost of issues but your on the right track.
2007-03-27 08:57:46 · answer #3 · answered by steinerrw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest staying in school and forgetting about work fornow. In the end getting a higher education will be best for you and your family. By the time you finish your study, you will get better job offers with better money. As well as being able to be picky about the job you want. A higher education will get you the job you want, and if you do a job you love it bennifits your happynes which benifits the ones you love.
2007-03-27 01:14:11 · answer #4 · answered by (((BRAT))) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be better for you to get your own job so that your husband will not be overburdened if you know what I mean. Although he doesn't say it but I think he would have to work doubly hard to earn the extra cash to support you and the family. So in the long run, finding your own job will help. Just a thought...
2007-03-27 01:09:08 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
part time job and go to school. help support your family.
either that or have your husband get another job or higher paying one to support you through school.
If I were you, I'd go the part time gig. Finances are the top killer of marriages these days and you're asking for aggravation not pulling your weight.
2007-03-27 01:06:48 · answer #6 · answered by Tadow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just feel like you are not productive any more. Concentrate on finishing your degree As long as your husband is supportive and you are not in dire need of money then it's OK. Don't feel guilty
2007-03-27 13:18:37 · answer #7 · answered by Samantha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The person you should really be talking to is your husband. An open conversation between the two of you will clear your guilt and give him a chance to speak.
2007-03-27 01:06:13 · answer #8 · answered by chenelle o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should talk to him and i don;t see any reason to not support his wife. Education is very important and it;s better to have when you are young and energetic. Remember, Knowledge is power" and you will be able to conquer the world later on if you need to but you will be able to raise your kids with much broader and greater approach with an educated mind!
Good luck!
2007-03-27 01:19:44 · answer #9 · answered by Broken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do what's best for you. You will not be able to focus on school with your guilt. I would go to school part-time and work full-time as well. I wouldn't want to rely that much on someone else.
2007-03-27 01:10:21 · answer #10 · answered by Pseudonym 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋