I am in a strange situation I am a goodlooking lady married and of late i have found ladies getting attracted to me but i am not into them they try to touch me and keep looking at me and praise me for my work and recognition that i have received recently from my superiors,. One coworker even professed her love to me saying that she loves me and she owns me . I refused telling her that such relationships are stupid and people dont approve i dont talk much to her only professional talk if required . She still keeps srtaring and once or twice she even tried to touch me too ,I can see the lust in her eyes. I confided this in one of my friend who is her friend also. she told me to stay away from her as she doesnot carry a good repport and is very arrogant. but on my allofness and distancing she still tries to look into my eyes and smiles whenever she gets a chance she told me she loves listening to me and that i speak so eloquently ,shre once cried and in front of me opened up her heart .
2007-03-26 17:40:11 · 5 answers · asked by simpleveera 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
report her to your boss it sounds like she is harassing you and won't stop until she gets what she wants, she sounds like she has some problems and needs a professional, not you, if it wee a man what would you do? do the same
2007-03-26 17:46:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the best thing to do is to sit her down and have a very long talk with her that you do not have feelings for this woman, and that you are not that type of person. If all that fails then the best thing to do is to go to your superiors and tell them of the sexual harrassment that you are recieveing at your job. Male or female sexual harrassment is not acceptable and should never be overlooked. She is only arrogant cause no one has ever had the guts to turn her into the company. If you want this to stop you need to take a stand and make it stop.
2007-03-27 00:45:04 · answer #2 · answered by Bootylicious L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She should not be coming on to you it is inappropriate. You should tell her you understand her feelings and that you are sorry but you are not interested. You should tell her that you are flattered but that being a married woman you are uncomfortable with the comments. If it goes further you need to get someone else involved this is sexual harassment. She should not be touching you in an uncomfortable way. I've had women come on to me and the best way to handle it is to talk about your husband (or wife) whenever possible.
2007-03-27 00:48:18 · answer #3 · answered by Regina L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You set the boundaries for all of your relationships by what you allow and don't allow. If she looks deep into your eyes, look away. If she touches you inappropriately, tell her that it makes you uncomfortable and move away. If she pays you a compliment, say "Thank you" and change the subject or leave the room. Keep things always professional. If she keeps crossing the line with you, tell her that she must stop or that you will report her to her superiors. Be specific about what you want her to stop doing.
2007-03-27 00:46:29 · answer #4 · answered by happygirl 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first of all it sounds like you work with a whole bunch of lesbians second of all tell the supervisor what she is doing if she's trying to touch you and it makes you uncomfortable then you can accuse her for sexual harrassment and it probably won't be good for her but then you won't be as uncomfortable do so and things will change
2007-03-27 00:46:41 · answer #5 · answered by .*♥sHeR♥*. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋