I Been dating my girlfriend for a while she lives in Germany we have the long distance relationship. Shes very nice and i love her, and i always go visit her, Shes sopposed to come and see me in May and see where i live and meet my friends and spend one month with me, and eventually decide to move here with me.
My problem is that i'm very wealthy in the Millions, because of my parents i'm in my mid 20's like her, she knows im confortable but i never talked about what i have, and i never spend tons of money on her, i wanted her to love me for me and not for my money, and she does but when she comes to my apartment and see the cars i have shes going to ask more questions, how do i explain everything and how should i act?
thank you
2007-03-26 17:31:48 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
all in good timing. if you're as rich as you say you are, and you havnt told her, and you are going out with her, then it shouldnt be hard to explain to her your situation and how you want her to love you for you and not your possessions or what you can give. she'll understand if she really likes you or loves you, and you can finally put that behind you when you tell her. really. dont fret about it because it's not something you should worry about. at least you know you'll be able to provide her when necessary, and she'll be thankful for that. it's always a hard step moving to another country, and she would need to know that you will be there for her always. remember, if she's your girlfriend, she'll not only understand but will appreciate you for telling her your circumstances
2007-03-26 17:41:30 · answer #1 · answered by kristyb872001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK... do you have friends that can borrow those cars for a while when she is visiting? Can one loan you their junk car? Can you stay at a friends apartment, to make her think you are not so well off? These are all things you can do...You should also plan simple things to do together... take long walks hand in hand in the park, make love to her, talk to each other about what matters to you most in life....act yourself, but do not flaunt your money as you have been practicing.... do not explain anything about the money until you are sure she loves you for you and not the money... the Internet is funny... you can find out lots about another person for close to nothing... I hope you did not give her your real last name... if so, she probably knows everything if she is a gold digger... sorry... but true... I hope that you were secretive and gave limited info...that will help you... I wish you the best in your love and life.
2007-03-26 17:47:12 · answer #2 · answered by jujubeings 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell her until she is there with you. So that way you will see how she will react knowing that you are wealthy. If she asks you why you didn't tell her, then that is when you tell her, well you never asked. If money wasn't in her conversations with you, then I am pretty sure she has already accepted you for who you are and not what you have.
Just be polite and honest. If she sees what you have, just tell her that you are a hard working man who makes a good income.
The best way to act is to be yourself. Be that person you are over the phone with her. Be honest, polite, and show respect for her, be a gentleman. The question is, does she love you?
Are there going to be any arrangements on where she will be staying? You two are not married yet, so it is best to stay in different quarters.
2007-03-26 17:42:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are on the right path finding someone who cares about you, and loves you for your personality and not what you have. If I was her I would absolutly love the fact that you are very humble and grounded. It is so hard to find someone like that and you should feel proud that you did. She has no reason to feel weird about anything. Just like someone who is not very well off, be honest and if she's the girl you think she is, she will stay by your side no matter what!
2007-03-26 17:48:05 · answer #4 · answered by kittypunx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sure hope that you know for sure that she loves you. She don't need to know that your rich since you will be making her an American, That is what she is banking on. Once she is here she is going to change, i have known many people whom have done what your doing and all have regretted it. Think... Why have you not found someone here? I think you can find a love here that you can really get to know..
This girl knows she is coming to America and that your going to fix her and soon all her family and then she will leave and leave with all your money...
2007-03-26 17:40:28 · answer #5 · answered by LittleDaisy. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why would you change the way you act? If this is how you are then you should just keep on the way you have. If she has questions answer them honestly and without reservation. If she doesn't like what you have to say now she won't like it ten years from now either.
2007-03-26 17:35:40 · answer #6 · answered by Amy N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her Basically what you just told us....I mean if she loves you enoigh shell understand you only wanted to be loved for the person you are and not the $$$ your parents got....So how many cars are you talking???and the kind???
2007-03-26 17:35:58 · answer #7 · answered by jenny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be Honest and true... She already cares about you for you not your money so act yourself everything will fall into place if its meant to. Good Luck...
2007-03-26 17:36:27 · answer #8 · answered by Hello 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the truth, and act like yourself.
2007-03-26 17:36:38 · answer #9 · answered by joe b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't make assumption yourself. Just be frank with her if you really want to be yourself and you love really love.
2007-03-26 17:36:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋