I seemed to have tried everything with my 12 year old daughter and her homework/study skills.
I keep up-to-date on assignments and remind her of these deadlines.
We made a set schedule and time to do homework.
I give her free time after school before homework is to be done.
I've also tried having her do homework right after school.
I help her by quizzing, making study sheets, etc. for upcoming tests.
I'm good about letting her be independent in getting the work completed. (I don't stand over her shoulder)
I also encourage her to finish homework at school.
Nothing! I mean nothing has worked. My 6th grader is not motivated, does not listen, and is a free spirit.
If I did not remind her to start her homework, she would wait until 10:00 pm or never do it at all.
Do you think I should just 'let-it-go'? At this point I've exhausted all my ideas. I'd hate for her to fail but if that's what it takes I would be willing to try.
Any ideas?
2007-03-26 17:25:35 · 8 answers · asked by westo 2 in Education & Reference ➔ Primary & Secondary Education
I think you are going about it backwards. Come home from school, sit down, do homework. My daughter was the same way and it was tough going until she hit about 16 and then figured out that it was easier just to get it done.
Good luck, you're going to need it.
Add on: Freedom, you folks are talking about a 12 year old girl who has shown a definite lack of self discipline. Yeah, almost 500 THOUSAND kids dropped out of high school last year! Don't do it dude, be the parent not the pal.
2007-03-26 17:59:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there. I got tired of the hassle when it came to getting him(my 6th grader) to do his homework. After sitting down and talking(some yelling), we agreed that he will now be responsible for his homework. I will help(only if asked) but will not provide any help that is more than guidance. This agreement is dependent on him maintaining good grades (A,B). If the grades slip he understands that all privileges will be taken away until they come back up. So far so good. He is maintaining his grades and homework is getting done(sometimes late at night) and there is alot less stress in our house now. Good luck.
I figure at their age a parent shouldn't have to remind them to do homework ,wear a coat, clean up after themselves. These are things we tell 4&5 year olds not 11 ,12 year olds. Its hard watching them screw up but sometimes that is exactly what they need to do.
2007-03-27 00:35:05 · answer #2 · answered by hockey 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is a good quesion and many r having this problem.First we are not giving the real knowledge to our child about the education.We never understand about their needs and the proper time. You must bring down ur vocal to her/his level and say.Show her/him the advantage of home work and the result of it as well.Do all the work in such a way that the child like to do it with full of happiness.Make ur thought and the child's thought about the work same.create the environment to make the work easy.
2007-03-27 01:27:39 · answer #3 · answered by Sunil M 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you should try to let it go for a few months, see how she's doing. If she feels it's her own responsibility she might act on it herself. I tried it with my son, and it worked. You have to explain it to her though, tell her that if she fails it's her own doing, she has to start learning that her actions have concequences. All part of growing up. If after a few months she's doing worse in school, you take action again. She should be in bed by 10 pm though.
2007-03-27 00:42:01 · answer #4 · answered by Nastedani 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
thats pretty common, maybe you should speak to her teacher about extra help or to just inform her that your daughter is having homework problems and watch for any signs that she is confused on the subject and when she does do her homework praise her so much, but not with fast food like some parents do.
2007-03-27 00:32:50 · answer #5 · answered by inwat_89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try the kitchen table method:
Bring your homework to the kitchen table after dinner and we will sit here and work on it. You read while she does the homework. No TV until homework is done.
2007-03-27 00:30:29 · answer #6 · answered by vegas mark 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try and find out if anything is wrong as far as school or her friends or anything. Talk to her about it as an ally. She *might* be doing it intentionally but you can only find out by talking to her. You need to get it under control now while she's still young. Once she's in high school it will only get harder to fix. If you can talk to her now you may even open up the dialogue for future discussions as she gets older.
2007-03-27 01:00:11 · answer #7 · answered by MissWong 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Start taking privileges away. Carrot doesn't seem to be working; try the stick.
2007-03-27 00:34:16 · answer #8 · answered by TheOnlyBeldin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋