how do i manage going to college, raising 2 and a half year old twins by myself and keep my sanity?

Question

I thought i had met the man of my dreams. come to find out so did every other woman in town. well, 5 years to late but i am on my own with 2 beautiful babies, and going for a degree to help me to be a better parent. i am feeling overwhelmed with all the stress of doing this alone and would love any advice !! thank you!

Answer 1

You are on the right track...make sure you sacrifice now for the future for you and your kids. Its that simply stated. Now putting it to use is another story. Look everyplace you can to build on your support system...family , close friends etc. Look for affordable daycare or babysitting maybe through your church. Anything that can make life alittle easier would be great. Invite a sister over sometimes just for a visit but maybe while she is there she can help with laundry. It is monumental but it is doable and it needs to be done for your future and your kids. You need to be self sufficient. Oh but we aren't done. And I hope this doesn't sound like I am preaching. The biggest stress reducer is to not any longer be cavalier about the kind of men that are in your life. You thought you met the man of your dreams but the truth probably is that you found some superficial things that were compatable but you never really took the time to deeply...deeply now...get to know him, and as such you had the ole sex thing going and now.......this is where you are. So I applaud you because I think you realize that you kind messed things up but are willing to take responsibility for the result. I do salute you for that, but please do yourself a favor.......it won't be any good if you do all this stuff to get a degree....raise your kids...get a good career to care for the kids etc, if all you do is repeat the same mistakes in choosing a guy. Promise your self and for the sake of your kids that you will be extremely choosy when it comes to men in the future. And I honestly wish you well.

Answer 2

single mom of 2 going to school and working 2 jobs here. I know how you feel and I wish I could give you an answer that would make all the anxiety go away, but it's not possible. All I can suggest is that once you get the babies to bed do some homework then get a nice hot bubble bath. It always helps relax me. If you have family or friends that are willing to take the angels for a night then you should let them. Give yourself a break even if it's just for a few hours. I'm sure between homework, cooking, cleaning, taking care of the kids, and such you have lost track of yourself. Don't fret cause someday you will be successful and when the kids are grown up and moved out you will wish they were home again. If you need someone to talk to you can e-mail me at [e-mail]

Answer 3

You should be commended for at least wanting to better your life with your kids without staying in the drama of a guy who could keep you down. If you have any family members who can help you now and then with the kids for you to have a break to relax or study without interruption. If not, maybe you can take them to a friend who can assist you for a couple of hours every once in a while. It won't be easy, but in the long run with prayer, this will all pay off for the better.

Answer 4

First of all, congratulate yourself. You are doing the best thing that you can do for your kids, by going to college. You didn't choose the easy road; you chose the best road. You should be proud of yourself for that. Now, to the real problem- time. Going to school, spending time with your babies, taking care of the everyday needs of the kids, studying- it doesn't leave time for you. For the most part, that's something you'll just have to sacrifice for right now, but you can't sacrifice all of it. You're going to need to learn to appreciate what little time you get. Every time you get a moment to stop and grab a latte without rifling through the crumbs in the bottom of the diaper bag for your wallet, you need to celebrate that moment. Every time you look over and both of the kids are asleep at the same time, say "this moment is for me." Every time the professor is late and you get to spend two minutes staring at the teeth marks in your pencil, enjoy it; it's your time. You have to celebrate those little moments you get to yourself, because they're all you're going to get for a while. And when it gets hard, on those really stressful days that we all know you're going to have, picture graduation day, either yours, or the twins', it doesn't matter. Picture the success that you are striving for. Or picture the day that you're going to have that you get to take the twins to the zoo, laughing, smiling, pointing at the giraffes, and spilling ice cream all over yourselves. It will all be worth it. Good luck and congratulations!

Answer 5

was a divorced mom of two daughters myself, raised them from the ages of 5 / 2; they are 18 and 21 today; I DID IT!!!! You can too.....the best word of advice, don't sweat the small stuff, if you have to pick between dusting and taking the kids to the park, take them to the park; dust on your way through the room! It helps a lot to be organized, saves a ton of time and frustration finding things, shoes, keys....all the little things that you have have.....teach the kids now to pick up there toys, make it a game of itself...you can do it!!!!!! (here's another secret....every second of it has been worth it!!!!!)

Answer 6

If it were me i would cut back on my college and focus on my kids and being the best mom that i could be to them. I would get a job to better support them and i would go to college later. The best parent you can be is what you are to your kids right now. It is very hard being a single mom Kids first and then college later. Good luck to you and here comes lots of hugs your way. Also go after the guy for child support as well. Does he see the kids at all?

Answer 7

Scheduling.

Really, that's what it comes down to.
If you have to program every minute of your day (aside from restroom breaks and enough time betweens for 5 minute situation handling), then do.

Schedule time for school. Enough time to study. I'm guessing you don't go to school every day, and you don't work every day. When you're not doing things for school or work, time for your kids and time for yourself.

I'm not saying in that order, but keep things balanced. Try different ways of de-stressing, like yoga or meditation or just going for a walk with the kids in tow, or relax with them at the park while they play.

Answer 8

One Day at a time !!!!!!!!!

Or Your Right

You Will Get Overwellmed

AA uses that, but it's Also Biblical

"Don't worry bout tomorrow for to worry Profits Nothing,
You Have enough concerns For Today"

I'm Not Saying Don't Schedual

Answer 9

You just need good time management. If i can handle 4 girls, my husband, work, girls dance classes and volleyball games for myself then you can do it.
I have my girls to keep me going , your babies are your strength to keep you strong. in the long end it will all be worth it.
I know we all probably hate to get up an hour early, but do try to get up one hour early and have time to yourself. It does make a difference. Make their lunch the night before, get their clothes ready. Then you will have a good morning to start off.

Answer 10

I admire you for your determination. You only have one life to live and you should do whatever you think would fullfill that life.To me your motiviation is to give your kids a good example. To show them that no matter what life throws at you, you can still make it worth living. My mother went to school and had a full time job and always managed to show us a good time and give us some good memories. I appreciate the things she had to go through to give us a better life and i think your kids will too! Keep it up!