2007-03-26 17:09:12 · 14 answers · asked by conchitacg 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
you should always be happy when bringing a new life into this world my friend had 2 miscarriages before having her first daughter. she was happy for all three, its unfortunate but if you worry about each miscarriage you may have its not fair to you child
2007-03-26 17:13:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
This is a tough one. I have the same problem. I had a miscarriage very very early (less than two weeks after I learned I was preg.) --- back in December. Now I am 6 weeks pregnant again. I am getting pretty darn sure now that there isn't going to be a problem this time. The percentage of women who have a healthy pregnancy directly after having a miscarriage is extremely high. i felt better after my first appointment. But I am still not extremely excited. It sure took the fun out of that positive pregnancy test! It was like... ok... we are going to probably have a baby... again? Anyway.. think positive!
2007-03-27 00:20:00 · answer #2 · answered by QuiltyGirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had 2 miscarriages within one yr yet it didn't stop me from wanting a baby nor trying. Both my miscarriage was painful physically and mentally. I seek for help through a specialist to make sure I am okay and capable of having a baby. I am now 4 months pregnant. Every one deals with miscarriage differently. Give yourself sometime to heal and when you are ready to try it again than you'll work the courage up to do so. Best wishes to you.
2007-03-27 01:25:19 · answer #3 · answered by uniqaznmeg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's appropriate exactly when you find out you're preganant again. I don't mean go around shouting it from the roof tops, but it's exciting no matter what. True - you may lose the baby again, and that's always hard, but hope, hope is the most important. You have to keep reality in mind, that you'll probably be very upset if you do lose another baby, but you can't just say 'okay after this many weeks I'm going to be excited' and then just flip a switch. and there's always the possibility of complications in any pregnancy. Just hope for the best and be happy now.
2007-03-27 00:16:13 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Aw, I'm sorry for your loss. I bet if it were me I'd get excited right away...I wouldn't be able to help it. But as far as the chance of miscarriage dropping, that happens after the 12th week, when you're almost 3 full months pregnant. I guess that would be the best point in time to get your hopes up and spread the news and start looking for baby things!
2007-03-27 00:12:58 · answer #5 · answered by grayhare 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is hard to get excited when you have had a miscarriage. you feel it may happen again and you don't want to go through the disappointment again. be excited as soon as you feel comfortable to be excited. hold the special secret close to your heart before you tell everyone so you can savor the moments. when you are about three months along then start telling people. miscarriages usually occur within the first three months. the fewer people you tell until then the fewer times you have to say you miscarried in case something would go wrong.
2007-03-27 00:21:39 · answer #6 · answered by alida 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
After I lost my first baby I was so heartbroken, I was a wreck for over a year... until I got pregnant again.
Yet even though I was pregnant, and excited and thrilled I felt scared to get attatched to her. Big milestones were making in past the scary 1st Trimester (when most miscarriages occur), Making it past the point I had lost the previous baby, feeling her move, finding out she was a girl....
I would sing, read, and talk to my her.... that seemed to help me feel closer with her. It got better and better over time. I don't think there is a magic point to get excited. I think you just need to be optomistic, but also prepare yourself for anything. HEAVEN FORBID. I know it's hard.
Good Luck, I'll be praying for you.
2007-03-27 00:19:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's appropriate to get excited when you find out! Realistically, most women should wait until they are 12 weeks (3 months) which is the first trimester. Most women who have miscarriages proceed to have happy healthy children.
2007-03-27 00:14:02 · answer #8 · answered by axix9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your loss! I've had 4 miscarriages and 1 still birth and 1 preemie. Honestly, our preemie, who is 21 months now, we waited until I was about 4 months to tell anyone, just to be on the safe side, but I was excited, just more scared. good luck and god bless!
2007-03-27 00:17:20 · answer #9 · answered by marylynn1984 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having had a recent miscarriage myself, I can understand how you are feeling.
I know if I were lucky enough to get pregnant again I wouldn't be telling anyone until I was about 19 weeks and had had my major scan.
The disappointment would be too hard to deal with again with everyone knowing again. Do whatever you have to do or want to do to preserve yourself. If that means telling everyone now, then do it! If you don't want to share the news yet, then don't. It's your feelings that matter love.
And, anyway WELL DONE!!!
2007-03-27 00:15:18 · answer #10 · answered by Kylie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not an expert, but my mom told me you should wait until the 2nd trimester to get excited and to tell anyone, I guess there's a greater chance you won't have a miscarriage after that, I don't know
2007-03-27 00:19:14 · answer #11 · answered by I_am_Meg_Griffin 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋