I'm 23 years old and in college. I'm going through a vigorous nursing program that will last about 2 more yrs...I just moved out on my own and was going pretty good until today. I've been here at my new place for well over a month now and I just realized something...its kinda lonely. I tried joining a christian club because I do want to know God more but then got disappointed in the club members that were a lil bit on the pushy side if ya know what I mean. My dad has always said that friends are like seasons and real friends are hard to find. If you find just one, your a rich person. So far, I've found flaky, wierd, and pushy people who opposes their will on others. Whatever! I'm just frustrated and don't care about meeting new people anymore. I just hopefully want to find a mate that can be a friend to me...I don't need everyone else. Just a little down, and needed to let things out. Sorry so deep.
2007-03-26 16:59:25 · 9 answers · asked by bettyboop 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I just moved to a new city, too, so I know it can be tough. I tried www.meetup.com they have all kinds of different interest groups and in my new city, there are a lot of participants that are just looking to meet people with similar interests.
The groups I joined allowed meet to meet a really nice group of girls - hopefully, this will help you! Good luck and chin up!
2007-03-26 17:19:06 · answer #1 · answered by Mauisnj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This can be a common problem. I once started work in a new city and after 6 months really had no friends...why...because I was busy all the time. So whenever I had free time I had no plans and didn't know anyone to call or hang out with.
You just have to make a little effort. Join some other clubs, organise some social things (even a study group can be cool) or just be prepared to be social at times. Your classmates can be a good source of friendship too.
Understand the value and importance of friendship. It is really worth the effort.
2007-03-27 00:05:07 · answer #2 · answered by flingebunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's going to be hard to find a mate if you don't care about meeting new people. Even if the people youv'e found are a little weird, flaky and pushy.....just realize that EVERYBODY is a little flaky, including yourself. By hanging out with those people, you are more likely to meet their friends or friends of their friends and maybe you'll actually like one of them.
And yeah, church people can be really pushy. Colleges usually have lots of stuff going on around campus that isn't church related or bar related. Join in.
2007-03-27 00:12:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this wasn't a question, but I felt the need to respond. I know exactly what you mean about there being a lot of "flaky" people that only want to change you. Those kinds of people will do you no good. If you're open to advice, then join that Christian club, go to church, and most importantly, read your Bible. And don't get discouraged. Life is full of disappointment, true, but there will always be people that have it worse than you. Remember that, and be grateful.
2007-03-27 00:05:42 · answer #4 · answered by lejosmcoy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do some paths cross, if only for a fleeting moment? Here you have found friends that give you encouragement, hopefully me too! Ask God to give you a little more patience and to open doors for you to meet and make real friends that understand your commitment to your nursing studies. Be open and honest about where you are in your nursing and what you would expect from a relationship. Good luck, cheer up, and smile a little. Your young and ambitious, good things will come your way with patience, and I think you have that already.
2007-03-27 01:19:45 · answer #5 · answered by bailingwirewillfixit 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your fine sweetie. Now, instead of trying to find both a mate and a friend, just work on finding a friend. You may want to look outside of church since 9 out of 10 times, bible thumpers always want to push their "stuff" on others. Just be picky about other qualities as well. I mean, you dont want anyone who drinks excessivly and/or does drugs either, right. All Im saying is, know exactly what your looking for and eventually you will find it. Good luck.
2007-03-27 00:07:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will change for you, but I find the best way to find true friends is to not try so hard to find them. A true find chooses to be your friend with no ulterior motive, meaning they don't want anything from you but friendship. I wish you the best of luck.
2007-03-27 00:06:26 · answer #7 · answered by Kevin J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spend time doing things you truly enjoy. while doing said activities, be friendly and willing to strike up a conversation. that way, you'd have something in common with the other person, and you could build upon that. good luck!
2007-03-27 00:07:52 · answer #8 · answered by cheeser 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
trying going to a club or a mall or something so you are not in your room all the time. cheer up it will get better
2007-03-27 00:03:54 · answer #9 · answered by mrs garfield 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋