I'm looking for a new job, and I am wondering what is a reasonable search radius if I am in a relationship?

Question

I'm in an exclusive relationship, but we aren't engaged, so what is a reasonable search radius for a new job/career?

In my career field, it is hit and miss for job openings in the area so I'm looking at generic jobs to bide my time.

My boyfriend has family and daughter in the area, and he (we) have visitation late in the week. My family is over 1000 miles away, and my friends are starting to leave the area for better jobs too.

The part that is frustrating me is that he moved close to 200 miles to be with his daughter's mother when they first met. His job is (I hate to say it) mediocre, but he has worked to get to his position, and it isn't readily available other places.

Visitation with his daughter is very important, but he has made so many concessions for his daughter's mother, am I being petty to ask him to move closer to me once I am established? I have worked hard to earn my degree, and I want to use it, but our relationship is important too?

Any advice? Any?

i'm not trying to break up the father daughter bond

neither of us has been married

not the answers i'm looking for

Answer 1

I've had one-hour commutes each way that were horrible because I was driving the whole time. Very hard on my car too - 1,000 miles a week added up fast.

I've had one-hour commutes each way that were by train, and I could get a lot done (read the newspaper, type into my laptop, relax, etc.) during the commute because I was a passenger.

So, it depends a lot on what the commute would be like - riding or driving - and whether the job would advance your career to be worth it or just marking time in a generic job.

An hour-long commute take a big chunk out of your day - 2 hours gone, turns an 8 hour day into a 10 hour day. 40 hour week becomes a 50 hour week. It was a wonderful gift changing jobs to one with a shorter commute and getting those hours back.

Another option:

It MAY be possible to work for a company where you work part of the time at the office and part of the time at home, in your home office. It depends on the job - if it can be done outside of the office. And, it depends on the employer. If the job can be done at home, do they allow that, and under what conditions do they allow it. It's worth asking, perhaps near the end of the interview process if things are going well.

FWIW, time goes by more quickly that you think. My recommendation is to spend as little time in "generic jobs" as possible. Focus on building your resume and career. As you said, you worked hard to earn that degree, and most degrees have a "shelf-life" after which they don't count as much as your experience does. If all your experience since earning your degree is generic is "generic," the experience won't count much either.

Good luck!

Answer 2

Legally (within the US), they can not NOT rent you when you consider that you are pregnant however they are able to arise with a host of different factors anyhow. They can not ask you if you are pregnant however I realize they ask if in case you have any upcoming day without work that you simply plan to take. To be sincere, if you are five a million/two months, can not they already inform? PS The US handed a regulation so being pregnant isn't a "pre-present condtion" so coverage may not subject.

Answer 3

You should not, can not, could not ask him to move away from his daughter. His daughter should be #1 in his life. He made the child and she is HIS responsibility to be there for her. If you try to break the father and daughter bond, you will be doing a selfish, immature act. Maybe he's not the one for you. Accept the situation or move on.

Answer 4

if you have not been married before this guy hAS to much baggage for you. go for a free man who has a good job and make your career a priority until you feel well established