How has bullying effected you?

Question

With the new news about the governments pitiful attempt to stop bullying it makes me wonder about the effects it has had on people so far. I am very unconfident and try hard not to get into certian situations due to being bullied. How well have you dealt with it in later life?

Sorry, maybe I made that sound as though I am being bullied now. I left school a long time ago but I was bullied enough then for it to have a lasting effect now.

Answer 1

I suffer from social anxiety and low self-esteem. I get nervous over any public or social encounter.

I never finished school, and still having problems trying to go back

I also became a serious drug addict, trying to hang out with people that don't bully, doing drugs eased the emotional pain, but now I have a disease (addiction) that I'm going through what seems like a lifelong rehab battle

luckily I hide this very well and I'm still able to work nights and take care of my wonderful family. but deep down, I'm scared!

Answer 2

Bullying totally ruined my life- I have always had thoughts now I'm big and strong not fat with contacts I'd like to get revenge- I bumped into one of the bullies the other day/ he looked old sad bald scruffy and downtrodden- he said hello to me and he looked ashamed - I just said hi and kept on walking- I think the bullies were trying to overcome there own inadequacies- I really felt quite sorry for him- although it affected my life my talents still managed to rise to the surface and im obviously doing better than him - that helped me quite a lot- im learning to let go snd leave the past where it belongs

Answer 3

I think it made me quieter, I generally hate confrontations but with the ability to really lay into someone if they upset me! I definitely had lower self esteem and more anxiety that I should have. I gave up college and went to work instead of doing what I wanted. Have you noticed that most well- educated, interesting people had excellent parental support?! That's' no coincidence!
I generally hate confrontation, as my Dad was a bigot and a bully. I am sure it has screwed me up to a certain extent!

Answer 4

I left school 6 years ago due to bullying and it still affects me now. The mental health problems I have now are due to all the bullying I went through.

Answer 5

Was bad in elementary school which led me to become withdrawn. Being quiet also led me to be bullied, it was a vicious cycle. If you look at me now grown up you can't tell as I am confident and love talking to people, but I still feel as I am behind socially and I have missed out on so much.

Answer 6

I'm eighteen. I've never really been a victim of constant bullying, but I know that it is a problem. I stand up for kids who are being bullied. I can't just stand there and do nothing, I would hate myself for it.

Answer 7

I feel angry at myself at not fighting back and not knowing what to do. Although this isnt justified as I dont feel anger at the bullies at all, I just think they were oitiful and needed help.

Answer 8

it made me sad inside
and with a combination of sadness and hatred
i fought him and beat the hell out of him
ahahahaha but i was suspended for a week

i thought that fighting him wasn't worth it

and you should stand up for your self but avoid violence

Answer 9

I have put a similar answer on another bullying question, as follows:

I had harrassment from one of my lecturers at uni. It started with general flirting (she was a lesbian and so am I, but I had not come out then) which went on for months. I went to see her to question the issue of power relationships and told her some private stuff about previous abuse I had recieved whilst young. Then he threats started, because it was a counselling lecture, she used my abuse as an example and explained that I had been abused via sexual harrassment. In private she made threats that I was to sleep with her or I'd fail my degree. Luckily at that time, I was using the university counselling services as I denied who I was and was depressed from the whole situation. I graduated but went home with depression and ended up being diagnosed with severe depression.

I started a new job but was bullied there to by the management and by this one girl who had severe control issues. Thoughts of stabbing people crossed my mind and suffered constant anger, but with adequate help from my GP I slowly recovered and gained confidence via the use of medication and counselling from a psychiatric nurse. Then left to work for an agency which boosted my confidence more.

Last year, I started a job and had to see occupational health, as I have a history of depression. I was ushered into this room and was told to wait and someone will be with me in a bit. When the nurse came in, I looked at her and was instantly attracted to her, but I think she misread me looking at her for hostility. She decided to go on a power trip, and invade my personal space and shot arrows from her eyes into mine, intimidating me at first. This forced me to out myself to her, saying that that I hadn't meant any offence. Things got very intense and she made it obvious that she was expecting me to crumble as I was on treatment for depression, but luckily I didn't. She finally backed off realising that she wasn't intimidating me. (To out myself, I looked deep into her eyes to convey the message) Then the session ended. I felt humiliated, violated and felt she had abused her power and I found the whole incident very stressful as I had been in th other abusive situation 8 years ago, resulting in the depression.

I saw her 4 months later and saw that she was nervous of me being around, and felt I was not to talk. I lost it and jumped out of my seat and began to aggressively flirt, and she turned a nasty grey colour and it was obviously showed that there was fear. I laughed and walked out reacclaiming my power in which she stripped from me 4 months previously. Not the correct way of dealing with it, but made me feel better. Trouble is that this has left me with occuring feelings of previous abuse, swinging between lust and hate for her, but feel I did this to scare her and indicate that I will not accept intimidation. In fact, she seems to more frightened of me now.

I feel as a lasting result, I do not trust people still and Im always on the lookout for people to take advantage. I feel a lot strong and willing to fight anyone who abuses me now.

Answer 10

Lowered my self esteem