2007-03-26 16:47:25 · 15 answers · asked by fruitsalady2003 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It depends on each individual. Some men learned to live with what they have and they don't want anything to disturb the comfort zone. Others want a relationship and it doesn't come their way.
2007-03-26 17:50:47 · answer #1 · answered by Paul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you a story:
I caught my wife cheating. But she is NOT sorry. She says that it is MY fault for not giving her enough attention. She blames me for her having a steady boyfriend on the side. Even when I told her NOT to see him any more, she was still sweetly whispering "I love you" on the phone to him. That drove me NUTS, so next day I left a message on his answering machine that I'd break his arms if he screwed my wife again. When I told my wife about this, she Screamed at me that I was a crazy man, a dangerous man, that she was afraid of me and she demanded a divorce immediately. Next day she said it could wait (I pay the rent and it was the end of the month). 2 days later I went to the lawyer and started the divorce. Now she says that I am so cruel, I am treating her so bad for divorcing her like this, that it is " I " who wants the divorce, not her. She's nuts playing with me like this. And, we've been together for 7 years and she still doesn't even want to talk about having children some time in the future. I'm getting OLD and I want to find someone who loves me enough to want to hold my hand while I walk and not screw around with any guy that she finds "HOT".
Her excuse for extra-marital affair is that she is "HOT". She said to me "I'm HOT, and you want to stop every guy from looking at me? Your nuts, why do I need you." She's finishing her accounting schooling in 4 months and she still needs support till then. I still love her and I promised to help her as well as let her have my brand new Mazda 3 car and $50,000 in cash after we split. I hope that I find someone who appreciates my kindness and desire not to cheat on your loved ones.
As for trust: I cannot trust anything she says. She said that she was going to call him and break up with him, but when I walked by, I heard her telling him that she loves him and that they would meet tomorrow at 1:50 pm. How can I trust her, she lies again and again and again?
Once you're over 40, and you've been through a few experiences like this, you realize you're better off with a nice furry and purring cat.
2007-03-26 18:38:52 · answer #2 · answered by honesty_counts 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
(giggling) Because a lot of them are suffering from what is called "Peter Pan Syndrome". Where a lot of older men don't want to grow up, they want to repeat the young day's.. blah blah blah.
If they haven't figured out what they want by then. I'm afraid there may not be any hope?? lol
What amazes me.. is.. they say they have loved, and loved, and loved.. but why is it they always look for someone 1/2 there age? lol Sort of setting themselves up for failure over and over and over.
Good Luck
2007-03-26 17:11:38 · answer #3 · answered by Lo Lo G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Last chance and don't want to make a mistake ?
Too much to lose ?
Been burned before ?
I am over 40 and I am not afraid to commit again.
2007-03-26 16:50:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what you mean. the girlfriend and i have been together 18 years next month, engaged since 2/92. it couldn't be the families could it? of course my divorced friends and hers, haven't stayed married as long as we've been together. and the only ones that aren't going through the wringer with a new relationships is the one couple that has been dating for 12 years. it seems to us that the sins of the ex's are visited upon the new person in these relationships. one girl is all about the money, another guy is suspicious of where she goes without him and who see is seeing and for how long.
2007-03-26 17:03:49 · answer #5 · answered by car dude 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Not me dear lady! I just need to find the right woman! I am NOT willing to just "settle" just for the sake of fulfilling this God given desire for ROMANCE AND INTIMACY!
Trust me, there's nothing I desire more, after almost 20 years of marriage that ended in divorce, than to have that VERY SPECIAL SOMEONE that I can be 100% committed to!
"Afraid to"? Believe me, that's such a foreign concept to me! I am literally STARVED for the affection and attention of a GOOD woman, someone I can LOVE ABSOLUTELY as my "one and only"!!!
2007-03-26 20:28:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all are. I'm just more cautious than I used to be.
Once bitten, twice shy, Many times bitten, wary as hell.
But if someone decent came along, I'd get commited.
2007-03-26 16:52:26 · answer #7 · answered by redman 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
FINALLY, got rid of the first one. She proved to me beyond a shadow of a doubt, that my judgement was not worth a damm when I chose her. Now, I seriously do not trust my own judgment and I would never, frigging ever, go through that lifestyle again! No, Never! Life is so good now and truly worth living!
2007-03-26 16:59:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
After several relationships that didn't work out for whatever reason , they tend to build a wall against letting their emotions be known and afraid of another let down.
2007-03-26 16:53:19 · answer #9 · answered by artic ranger 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Because my poor old heart can't take another beating like that. Some of those broken hearts can kill a man and my last one almost did.....just can't take the chance....I wanna be here for my kids as long as I can.
2007-03-26 16:53:21 · answer #10 · answered by ZeeZyx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋