I love my boyfriend but I have been supporting him for about 2 years now. There is always a reason why this or that job ended - and most of them end up plausible, but he is a complete hedonist so when he's not working he does nothing to help domestically (unless he is given a list and then he's mostly brilliant), except "fun" stuff. I have asked him to move out and learn to take on some responsibility. Finally, after months, he is doing it, but now something else has come up which will put him in difficult circumstances when it comes to paying rent & bills etc. But I don't want the burden anymore. I have had my life on hold because all my savings end up funding expenses we should both be sharing. I also don't want to dump him in the street. If I were in his situation, I'd appreciate help. What do I do?
2007-03-26 16:14:02 · 6 answers · asked by HerbGal 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just so you know, the relationship didn't start out this way. He was the owner of a successful business in the first few months of our relationship. He wasn't a "stray puppy".
2007-03-26 17:25:22 · update #1
we all need help at some time or another, but you haven't been helping your boyfriend. you've been raising him. why do you want to be with a man who doesn't have a problem with you doing everything? i'm going to be bold and bet that he was living with his mother or his last girlfriend, when you came along. he sounds like a leech. you can love him, but don't break the bank doing it. i'm also going to bet that you haven't taken note of his half of the bills that you've been covering. you're not married to him, so you need to be looking at your situation as if he was a roommate. would you pay all your roommate's share of the bills? stop letting love get in the way of reality because at this rate, he won't be the only one living on the street.
2007-03-27 00:35:50 · answer #1 · answered by Tasha D Gemini 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmm. You man is a user and you have been accepting this based on the first few months when he was employed. You have bought his excuses so long that he can just about tell you anything and you take the bait. He will survive, believe me. Put him out. He will go and use someone else then. Get your life on track and go be the best you can be. Do not be dragged down by this predator.
http://www.predator-awareness.com
2007-03-26 17:44:56 · answer #2 · answered by Healthy Lifestyle Geek 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look if you didnt love him you wouldnt put up with his bullSh!T
you are babying him too much - let him take his own responsibilities and act like a man and get a decent job that will last and help you out financially and domestically
otherwise stop whinging - you have put up with it now for over 2 yrs
2007-03-26 16:37:26 · answer #3 · answered by boonoora 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you took the stray puppy in and condoned the behaviour mommy, now you have to take care of it, quit complaining
2007-03-26 17:16:27 · answer #4 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Time for you to cut him loose - you have done enough for him. He will ALWAYS have an excuse.
2007-03-27 03:18:28 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's crossed the line, time for you to be a b*tch and tell him it's not your worry, he needs to figure it out.
2007-03-26 16:17:19 · answer #6 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋