I just found out I am pregnant and don't believe in abortion, but I know I can't have the baby either so I am looking into adoption. Was wondering if it cost anything to give your baby up for adoption? or if there was any good links out there to help?
2007-03-26 16:13:28 · 17 answers · asked by magicgiggle 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Adoption is free just call your local agency. You can also drop your baby off at a local hospital to the safe haven program. This program will have no question ask just a simple form to give the future baby's family the medical history of your baby. Good luck and I'm glad you don't believe in abortion to give your baby a chance at life!
2007-03-26 16:25:49 · answer #1 · answered by Carson's Mom 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes I feel that it will cost you some expense somehow but
the circumstances surrounding your situation and those
of the eventual adoptive parents, as well as the avenue
you go through, will determine the source of those costs.
Personally, I know of numerous couples, who can't have
children, who would be willing to pay an arm and a leg
to adopt a child at birth...an infant they can love, nurture
and raise as their own. They may assume a lot of the
expense you ordinarily would pay.
For your protection, I would make sure I had an attorney
so that your legal rights are protected. His/her services
would of course cost....but I have known the adoptive
parents to be willing to pay attorney fees and court costs.
There will be the medical costs incurred at time of delivery.
Then again, many, many adoptive parents would be willing
to pay the medical costs.
I would consult an adoptive agency or social agency to let
them know of the possible availability of your child for adoption and eventually "register" your unborn child with them. They are in touch with numerous potential adoptive parents....and will ensure a proper "match".
Since adoption laws and procedures vary from state to
state, I would think the best sites or links would be those
in your home state. You can then check out their reliability
with the national accreditation sites.
Having said that however, Internet links are good for finding information and direction. But, in very, very personal matters such as this, I would first turn to someone I genuinely trust and seek direction. There are so many variables involved in matters such as this.
You are doing the right thing re: abortion and I admire you
for this. Your unborn child deserves a future that apparantly circumstances do not allow you to give him/her. Having said that, I do hope you go to what extremes are necessary to see that that future is ensured.
Best of everything during this time.
2007-03-26 16:51:50 · answer #2 · answered by Northwest Womps 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might want to contact an attorney to find out more about making it an open/private adoption. This way you'll be able to find out how everything works ahead of time, and you'll be able to contribute to the selection of parents for your child. It's not going to cost you anything, and usually the parents-to-be will cover your medical expenses, and sometimes they even contribute to your living expenses if the pregnancy causes you to lose time from work. Some insist on even buying maternity clothes. You're not allowed to accept payment for giving them the baby, but they are allowed to provide funding for certain expenses, including the attorney's fees. You shouldn't have to come up with any money at all. Look in the classifieds...there are usually a few parents seeking newborn baby to adopt ads, and they usually have a phone number of an attorney listed. Always go thru an attorney though, never an agency or non profit organization. The attorney will make sure everyone is taken care of appropriately, it's his job since he's getting paid for handling the case, but an agency or charity have hundreds of cases and they tend to try to move things through the system quickly and without the compassion they should really be providing.
I wish you the best! Some lucky woman is finally going to become a mommy thanks to your decision.
2007-03-26 16:23:40 · answer #3 · answered by Madre 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are being a great mommy to this baby by giving it up for adoption instead of aborting it! And you are going to make a lucky couple very happy! Usually any costs associated with adoption are paid for by the adoptive parents. Just make sure you go to an adoption agency that lets you meet and choose who the parents are going to be so you know you will be giving your child the best life possible. Be prepared for the emotional aspects of giving your baby up though. Ask the adoption agency (if you choose to use an agency that is) about any counseling you can take or any classes you can attend to help you deal with your emotions after you give birth.
2007-03-26 16:23:20 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wanted to say don't let some of the messages people leave bother you.
Accidents happen, you may have been using protection and still got pregnant, these people don't know so they shouldn't judge!!
The most important thing is that you are deciding what you think is best for your baby already. It is so much better for someone who isn't ready to be a parent to give the baby up for adoption -(which will be a carefully screened couple obviously!, not just some random stranger off the street as someone implied!)--- than to end up resenting, or even worse abusing the child! I am in no way implying that is what you would do, it's just JEEZ what do people think sometimes!
GOOD FOR YOU. Keep your head up, follow your heart, and do what 's best for that baby!
2007-03-26 16:32:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Adoption is free...Good for you for making the right choice! Just look in your local phone book and call up some adoption agencies to find one that fits your needs.I'm sure they are going to be very sensitive to your feelings and help you out a great deal.Good luck with everything!
2007-03-26 16:21:53 · answer #6 · answered by ♥It's a boy♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO it doesnt cost anything...most couples will pay for all your expenses...they will take care of your every need during pregnancy...there is also some open adoptions if you are interested in that...where u can still have contact with your child after you give them up..good luck
2007-03-26 16:23:19 · answer #7 · answered by Crystal T 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are costs associated with adoption, but in most cases those costs are picked up by the adoptive parents.
2007-03-26 16:18:02 · answer #8 · answered by makin_the_same_mistakes 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that your idea is wonderful! And don't take the 'you should have used protection' crap too seriously. What's done is done and it's how you handle it now that matters.
I know two couples who have adopted and they are amazing parents!
In my state, I know that all adoptive parents must be assigned a social worker through the county, having many criteria they must meet. So, you might consider contacting your county's family services office.They may be able to assist you.
2007-03-26 16:29:30 · answer #9 · answered by lola_falula 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yay! I am very happy to hear you are sensible about this, and not going to murder another human being.
From what I know, I believe giving a child up for adoption does not cost anything. I am not 100%, I'm sorry.
Good luck with everything though
2007-03-26 16:23:17 · answer #10 · answered by macho_bob 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋