I was married for 5 years, we divorced in 2005 and stayed apart 15 months, and have been back together for 9 months. During our time apart we did still see each other every once in a while but nothing serious. We both started dating other people. But then decided to try again. Things were good at first. All the problems from our marriage he was trying to make different. but now he is back to the way he was. He does work and provide for us. But we spend no time together as a couple, unless he wants to somewhere, no time as a family. He is gone from 7am until sometimes 9pm. 7 days a Week. dont have a joint checking. Every thing is in his name. Our sex life is a quickie every couple of days, with me left out. When he does come home we dont talk, nothing he just falls into his chair and there he stays until bedtime. I dont work but do take care of our kids, house, cleaning, bills, cooking, feeding his animals, trash, everything. All he does is work. Can this get better?
2007-03-26 16:06:21 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds like you have different values. You seem more affectionate and like the companionship of a partner, whereas he feels that he plays the role of provider. Ask him if he is happy with the way things are going. Find out why he stopped working on the issues in your marriage - see if you placed expectations on him too.
If I were you, I would get a job. A part-time job that gives you a little of your own money, freedom from your house and domestic life and different surroundings and people. With you taking on this role, he may loosen up a little and become more balance.
It does look like he doesn't want to be there though - and why do you want to stay with someone in an emotional relationship if they don't feel the same? This looks more like a relationship of convenience - he earns the money and you use it to provide him with food and services.
I say talk to him about it - then GO.
2007-03-26 16:24:29 · answer #1 · answered by HerbGal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say, things have got to change or I will not have sex with you anymore. I am your damned wife and you married me for better or for worse. I am your friend, you best talk to me like I am and not talk to me like i'm some sort of biatch. I do all the damned work around this house and I deserve to have a husband that will do for ME. Where is MINE? Why the hell do I have to provide all this for you if you arn't even grateful. I am your EQUAL and things have got to change I want joint checking joint ownership I am a WOMAN and this is 2007 I have control of MY OWN LIFE.
2007-03-26 23:14:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
how are you?I hope fine.I have no answer for your question as I am suffering the exact same situation except divorce.
But I know life with such type of persons is continuous tension and life without him will be more miserable.No one life is perfect nor easy.The best thing you can do is ignore him and have your own life and routine while living with him.Focus on you and your kids,get some degree if possible,do job and earn more than what he does.
2007-03-26 23:32:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No - it wont get better by the sounds of that
LEAVE NOW - before you regret it
just because he works does not mean that he can treat you that way - you are not happy then LEAVE
2007-03-26 23:20:08 · answer #4 · answered by boonoora 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him theres noway you should allow him to treat you this way.
2007-03-26 23:16:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋