My fiance, which I love very much, has allergies really bad. The steroids are making him gain weight.He also has been eating alot lately. Were always arguing over him eating to much. But he seems to not care. As a matter of fact, he's eating rite now. 10:58p.m. We plan to lose weight before our wedding. He lost faster than me, but now I'm passing him. I think he giving up. I don't want him to lose weight for the wedding. I want him to keep it off. It's all for our health. He used to weight like 450lbs. Now he at 375, but it's all fat. Please I need help.
2007-03-26 16:04:02 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Men's Health
you are trying to change him when its obvious he doesnt want the change
are you are marrying him for what he is, or what he can become?
big difference
back off and maybe he'll decide to lose it on his own
2007-03-26 16:08:39 · answer #1 · answered by Mopar Muscle Gal 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Weight gain with medicinal steroids is all but inevitable. I was on prednisone a few years back because of an auto-immune disease and really ballooned up even though I ate very little. So there may be nothing he can do to lose weight until he is off the meds. It's not really fat; it's mostly water weight.
It is obviously unhealthy to be so heavy, but being nagged is an even greater health risk. he already KNOWS he's overweight; he doesn't need you to tell him that. You can't control his life. You get one and only one life to live, and his is not it!
You need to either accept him as he is or get out of his life. "I love you. You're perfect. Now change!" is a great title for a show, but it's also a formula for a disastrous marriage. Just continue your own efforts to get fit and don't say one more word to him about his weight -- ever! -- if you want a happy relationship.
2007-03-26 16:20:56 · answer #2 · answered by Maple 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should listen to your boyfriend. He sounds like he cares about you for who you are. If you are wearing a size 0, you do not need to lose any more weight. It sounds to me like you have aqcuired a distorted body image over the course of your dieting. You may still feel fat, but you are far from it. Anorexia and bulimia are serious conditions which distorded body image is the main factor.They can make you very sick both mentally and physically. You will continue to lose weight untill you also lose your boyfriend, friends, hobbies, and focus all of your attention on losing weight. Trust me it's a miserable existance. I went thruogh it when I was 16.It landed me in the hospital.The best thing you can do right now is write down all the things about yourself that you love. If you can't name too many things, ask your boyfriend what he loves about you. Then go out and do something that makes you happy (that is not related to diet or excersise) Instead of focusing on diet food, eat healthy food, lots of fruits and veggies. Ease back into high fat foods and you won't feel guilty.And most importantly, LEARN TO LOVE YOURSELF. When you can do that, others will feel the vibes and they will love you too.
2016-03-17 02:53:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel, I had a boyfriend that gained weight and I didn't quite know how to tell him....but I told him that I was worried about his health. I asked him to go for a walk with me, and I started helping him make good food choices - having him over for dinner and making a huge salad and low fat chicken breast broiled with spices, etc....anything to help him get started.
Then I told him that looks do matter a bit even though you really love someone, they do matter...and I said that it was so great when he lost weight last time, he looked so good and I wanted to be with him...it was hard to say, but to put it delicately as possible, but driving home the point how much it means to me seeing him trimmer and healthier.
And doing the weight loss as a team is a great idea - make a bet who can lose the most has to do something for the other person...or working together and when he isn't doing his part, tell him how hard it is for you to keep on your diet.
Talk about your wedding and how good you both want to look and feel for that special day....
I hope it goes well....if he really doesn't seem to care what you think, you may want to reconsider the marriage - postponing perhaps??? That might be a sign of how he will be in the marriage? I don't know him at all, but boost his self esteem about real things about him that are great, and if he still doesn't care about himself or what you think, then you might want to really think about the relationship. But, on the other hand, if he is a great guy, then stand by your man, and help him as much as you can...you want him around for a long long time...Tell HIM that too!!! ; ) I wish you well!
2007-03-26 16:17:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can we assume the steroids are for allergies? And can we assume these are prescribed medications, including a prescribed diet? And can we assume that you are both good with exercise? He has obviously done a great job losing so much so far, so I can relate to the idea that he may have "hit the wall" but he has to push through it.
1) Make him chase you around the park every day for 45 mins and then give him a big reward.... use your imagination every day. No food. No candy. No sugar filled soda.
2) Buy some low fat pretzels, low salt too, for snacking on at 10:58p.m. Throw out all processed foods and never shop at the supermarket again. Buy fresh. Only fresh. Fresh fruit, fresh fish, fresh vegetables, fresh steak. No packaged food. No take-out (well ok... but only on Friday night).
3) Enjoy the wedding and plan something really delicious for the meal.
4) This one is conditional, on the basis that he rejects item 1) above. BTW, women have maintained control over their men this way for thousands of years, it's no real secret......... Introduce a ration on his sex life until he can comfortably perform in the missionary position for at least 25 minutes.
5) Show him all of these answers and opinions but ask him for his before you do.
2007-03-26 17:52:27 · answer #5 · answered by Icy Gazpacho 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it may be time to go to a couples therapist. He may have underlying emotions that cause the eating....
Be open to conversation however difficult....be supportive by
listening and not being judgemental.
You must help by creating the environment that will allow him to talk about his issues.
Once communication is opened, invite him to the gym with you and workout together.....he will feel better about himself...and look better...and you will get what you want, a leaner man and better communication for the both of you.
2007-03-26 16:11:14 · answer #6 · answered by tito_swave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the stairs
2017-04-08 09:07:53 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
while on vacation also don t forget your diet and exercise plans
2017-03-06 04:28:30 · answer #8 · answered by Jayson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don t go back to old eating habits even after you lose weight
2016-04-18 19:10:16 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all...if you plan on having a sex life in a few years I'd suggest getting him off steroids....and eating late isn't bad as long as it is healthy.
2007-03-26 16:09:24 · answer #10 · answered by auapc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suprisingly, men are very sensitive about their bodies. If he is using steroids, this will be much more likely. You must say that he is getting fatter in a nice but serious way. Also tell him to try legal supplements instead of steroids because illlegal steroids will harm him in the long run. i duno thats wut i would do.
2007-03-26 16:09:45 · answer #11 · answered by ChocoTaco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋