If you were to ever get married to your partner, would you want to adopt a child? Lesbians, would you want to get artificially insemenated to give birth to a child? Would you raise your child to be gay? Do you think its fair for a child to be raised in that kind of environment where other people will judge and make fun of the child because the child has gay parents?
2007-03-26 16:00:30 · 13 answers · asked by moneybagsgrl 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I'm too old to adopt a child. And I wouldn't raise the child to be either gay or straight, but instead accepted.
I grew up as the son of a minister. I was made fun of for that. People are made fun of because their parents speak with accents, work as police officers, or have one arm. Ridicule is part of growing up, as is learning to deal with it peacefully.
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2007-03-26 16:06:36 · answer #1 · answered by NHBaritone 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am a lesbian and my partner and I are married. She brought a child to the relationship, as did I. My child was 11 when we started dating, now she's 16. Her son was 3, now he's 8. They have not been raised to be straight or gay, that is preposterous, however, they are raised in a loving, wonderful, environment. And my daughter, or my son, has not been picked on by other kids. People naturally assume that will happen and it hasn't. Our children have been raised quite fairly. And we plan on having a child together. We have parenting skills and the love to give, why not share it??
2007-03-26 16:06:28 · answer #2 · answered by ☮ wickey wow wow ♀♀ 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I will be legally married to my partner one day, but we have no plans to adopt a child. we're a little old for that now. but adopting, or having biological children, whether through artificial insemination or surrogacy is great for those who want to.
you can't "raise your child to be gay." it's not something taught, learned or chosen...it's genetic. we do have a lot of gay/lesbian friends who have children (biological, not adopted) and those children are happy, healthy and well-adjusted. what's not fair about having loving parents and a roof over your head and being happy? only ignorant, close-minded bigots would be juvenile enough to make fun of those children...and those bigots, thankfully, are in the minority.
2007-03-26 16:06:27 · answer #3 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally I have no desire to have kids, but gays should be allowed to adopt like everyone else. If people make fun of the child, that says more about the parents of the kids who make fun and the kind of prejudiced abuse they raise their kids under.
2007-03-26 17:03:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We would adopt if given the chance. We are planning artificial insemination for next month to have our fourth child (the other three are biologically mine from a prev marriage). NO we do NOT raise our children to be gay. We don't make that decision. We encourage our children to be who they are- regardless. Our three boys are straight and we are happy with that but we would be happy if they were gay too, we are just happy to have 3 healthy, wonderful boys.
As far as children getting made fun of for having two moms, kids get made fun of for lots of things and my kids have never encountered anyone who blantantly said anything about US. Kids get made fun of for being short, heavy, too tall, older, younger, short, having freckles, having long hair, having short hair.... etc etc etc. We are a family and we are all proud of that and I think that kids who grow up to have pride in their family grow up happier.
2007-03-26 16:09:23 · answer #5 · answered by rainbow_writer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
we both came into the relationship with children, but neither of us would get artificially insemenated, or raise our children to be gay. You are who you are....just because we are openly gay doesn't mean our children would be.
2007-03-27 05:32:37 · answer #6 · answered by MS.MOCHA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I myself doubt I could ever have kids through adoption, unless they were teenagers (getting a lot of the awkward phase I dislike out of the way). But I believe it should be allowed. Two dads are better than none. As long as the people are competent parents, who cares?
2007-03-26 16:31:20 · answer #7 · answered by bishonenofcacophony 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I enjoy being a baby too much to enjoy having one, so no. But I think that GLBT should be allowed to adopt, yes. And if it weren't for bigots, there would be no teasing or bashing, yes?
Also, consider: If you were to die tomorrow, leaving behind two kids, would you want them to go to a gay couple who would love them, send them to college (assuming your kids would so desire), and offer them a model of a healthy and loving relationship and all the support and love they will ever need, or a heterosexual couple who'd pretty much ignore them - when they're not being yelled at, that is?
Seems like a simple choice to me.
2007-03-26 16:04:29 · answer #8 · answered by living_in_a_bell_jar 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well me and my partner realize that we can't be legally married, and we don't want to at this time in our lives we aren't that old yet but we have two boys one is mine and one is her's and we raise our children to have the power to be whatever and whoever they want to be, our boys are still a bit young but our 9 year old understands alot about our relationship and accepts it he accepts us as his two mom's, now i think it's fair to raise our kids in a loving manner and that is all that matters, we love them they are ours and it's no body else's bizness to judge us. I don't care what others think and we are raising our kids to have pride in themselves and the family they come from, if you teach them love they will know love!!!
2007-03-26 16:23:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fortunately children raised by gays are not raised gays. But ignorant people raise ignorant children.
2007-03-27 04:02:40 · answer #10 · answered by jasgallo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋