Hey, I love my wife. Every part of her. I like looking at every part of her. I love and respect her as a person and cherish her. I love looking into her soul. She thinks that is dirty when I go down on her. If she's not happy then its no fun for me. I'm happy with that if she is uncomfortable for me to do that on her. But I really like it. I like being intimate with her. She has let me do that before but she doesn't want to kiss me later on. She doesn't do that on me and I'm fine with that. It's not fun if she doesn't want to do that. I'd like us to go see a s*x therapist but am kinda embarrassed about calling one up. I haven't brought up the issue with her b/c she is gonna get mad. Should I just drop it? Has anybody been to one. What was it like?
2007-03-26 15:51:58 · 3 answers · asked by bigdaddy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would NOT call a sex therapist before talking to her first. She may just be self consious about herself. Keep reassuring her that you love doing this to her and tell her you love the taste of her body. She maybe feeling guilty because she isn't recipricating on you?! The best thing to do is to talk to her about it. She may not even realize how important this is to you. I'm sure she would enjoy both the giving and the receiving of oral sex if she would just give it a shot and relax.
2007-03-27 15:10:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think s*x counseling would be great. The thing to remember is people are comfortable with different things. What concerns me is this lack of intimacy will eventually lead to bigger problems. Your wife could just be very shy. Is she young? I would suggest trying things with her slowly, introducing her to new things. Maybe even show her how some peoples s*x lives are different. HBO has an old documentary called "real sex-the best of s*x bytes" it's only on vhs format but there are many others just like it but it was about different kind of s*x lives. Maybe you can start by reading her erotic short stories? I say this because it just sounds like she needs to bring out a part of her that she's resisting. If your not getting oral s*x-I'm telling you that will eventually become a prob. Don't let it get there. Talk to her. Is it because of religion? I'm curious. Let me know.
2007-03-27 10:53:51 · answer #2 · answered by gemini 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't undo the culture upbring. Its sad some women have these hangups.
2007-03-27 10:34:25 · answer #3 · answered by SEOplanNOW.com 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋