I've been living with my girlfriend now for two months who I've know for a year and a half. She was bi-curious when we met but since then considers herself bi-sexual. I'm understanding of it and don't have a problem with that aspect at all. She told me of a lady friend of hers who she knew for over a year and told me she would love to get together with her. Her friend has a boyfriend living with her and they have no kids, on the other hand we have three kids between us. My girlfriend wants to have a sleep over with her new friend to explore her new found sexuality. She says she can't have her friend stay over night because of our kids (kids are 17, 19, 20) being there. She wants to have a sleep over at her friends place. She assure me that her friend only seeks a female friend for herself and it doesn't involve her partner even though he lives there.
I'm left feeling uncomfortable about the situation. I trust her, doesn't make me feel any better. Should I keep my feelings to myself?
2007-03-26 15:51:26 · 3 answers · asked by Handyman Dan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
you always have the right to your feelings, you should definitely talk to her about it, you can explore your discomfort together, it often helps to talk to someone you trust when you are having a hard time understanding why you feel the way you do, far better to discuss your feelings before anything happens than have a secret guilty resentment that you feel unjustified about. If you can't figure out why you feel the way you do, and fear it may damage the relationship, your gf should respect that, feelings don't always need tangible reasons, if you can figure out why you feel the way you do, you will have more concrete ways to deal with the situation.
Good luck!
2007-03-26 15:59:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her how you feel about the situation. It's fine to feel uncomfortable about whats going on & it's fine to tell her about what you think about it. You two are in a relationship & it's a good thing to tell her that you feel that way because it shows that you care. Suggest to her about them two rentting out a hotel for a night if you don't mind her being with her chick friend. Thats all I've got. Good luck!
2007-03-26 23:04:55 · answer #2 · answered by Jenna Snow 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
See if the boyfriend would be willing to hang out at your place whine your gf and his gf go at it.
If he is unwilling, then he expects some of the action.
2007-03-26 22:57:40 · answer #3 · answered by Vegan 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋