My mom is going crazy and making me do everything b/c my brother is a boy and dont gotta do nothing!
My brother stoped helping me and we're fighting non stop.
My dad is getting very sick and still wont stop smoking (thats kiiling him)
My friends are getting high and becoming crackasses
My pets get on my nervers
My heart has been broken into many little peices
Now you tell me what do I do next?
2007-03-26 15:28:16 · 22 answers · asked by Pookie! 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I know I've lost my mind, but listen to my philosephy (I know I can't spell....).
You will not die, unless your yin and yang are even. If you are overbalanced in yang, you will not die, until somehting wonderful, (representing yin) comes. You will not die if your yin is over flowing, and your yang is very little.
Something wonderful is coming your way, I don't know what, I don't know who, and I don't know when or why, but look forward to the future.
1) I'm sorry about that, you will be a very experianced woman when you get older.
2) You're brother is a boy, right? He'll just be like that, all brothers, (that I've met) are like that to their sisters
3) Do not. Do not ever follow your dad's example. Just leave it be, he has chosen his life, and now you get to choose your's
4) Your friends endanger your life. You need to find someone new to hang out with, because as long as you are friends with those people, your life is in danger.
5) Pets are pets, love them, hate them, they still love you.
6) Your heart needs time to mend. Someone will come along, and mend it even more throughly than time could ever. Just be patient, but also be cautious.
What you need to do now, is find a clean chat room, and people who will listen. For a few days, let them hear about your life, and give you advice, then start looking for new friends
I've very sorry about what's happened to you, something good is coming, I know it is.
2007-03-26 15:41:42 · answer #1 · answered by Crappy Haircut Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a teenager, and it is natural during this time of life to question all of life. Every teenager I know has been convinced in one way or another, that they would not live to see their 18th or 21st birthday. Then they do, and go on with life. Some have a meaningful job, some are in college and some have darling children.
Life is what you make it, but since you have come through such difficult times, why not see it through? It sounds to me like you feel nothing worse can happen, so everything from this point on is uphill. Good luck, and I'll race ya to the top!
2007-03-26 22:37:12 · answer #2 · answered by Too Curious 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you tried talking to your mom? if she'll listen tell her about all the things you are going through and that you cant take much more. if she wont listen go to a school counseler and talk about it. i cant really help yoiu with the pets all i can say is they do that from time to time. and i am very very sorry about your dad being so sick and from smoking too that is really bad. and with your friends i have had a few who dropped out of school so they would have more time to do drugs. you could talk to them and tell them all of your concerns for them and if they dont stop then theres not much else you can do. i know how you feel with your heart being broken mine has been this year and i know its tough but you can survive it. to sum it all up DO NOT DIE YET its not a real good thing to do stuff like that. and you need a relationship with god he will help you through the toughest of times. if you arent into the christian religion thats ok just find someone who you can talk to and who can guide you through life on the right side. i hope i helped you and i wish you the very best of luck with you and your family. you will be in my prayers.
2007-03-26 23:24:52 · answer #3 · answered by plopper p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start out by being by yourself and take some deep breaths to relax! Inhale deep and exhale slowly saying relax, relax and deep breath again. You are not responsible for your dad's actions......he is! You are not responsible for your friends choosing to due crack......they are! I disagree about your brother not helping you, and ask your mom again to have him help with some of the chores, because its hard on you to do everything, and he is not sugar he won't melt if he does laundry, and dishes and take garbage out. Keep practicing your deep breathing in a nice quiet place and decide to let go of all your pain and worries and love your dad no matter if he is still smoking. Your friends are not good for you they will pull down more then you already are, you need some very strong and supportive people around you right now.
2007-03-26 22:41:28 · answer #4 · answered by auntkarendjjb 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe start writing all of your frustrations in a journal. Or talk with a counselor. It sounds like you have alot of stress going on in your life right now. You should be taking care of yourself during such times. Rest up and try to find some sanctuary even if it's in your room with the door closed, pop in some earplugs and meditate for 30 minutes.
2007-03-26 22:33:54 · answer #5 · answered by Kate M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cindy:
Sit down & TALK with mom. If you approach her in an adult manner & stirke up a level-headed conversation (without your brother around, mind you!) and lay out the facts in front of her; if you truly do have more chores than your borther, simply ask her why & ask politely if she could even things out a bit? Parents USUALLY talk better whnen you act like a "big kid" as opposed to a pouting kid.
Brothers suck. You're going to fight, siblings always do! Same thing applies here; be up-front & ask him when he's in a more low-key mood, Is anything wrong? Can I ask why you won't help me anymore? If you TALK & don't ACCUSE, you'll get a much better response.
*Sigh* Your dad is like my mom. Smoking like a chimney & not trying very hard to quit. And when you bug them, all it does is piss them off. His mentality is "Im a grown up, and I can do what I want." I would say sit with him one night, give him a big hug & kiss & tell him that you love him. Let him know that you worry bout his health & you'd like to keep him around for as long as possible. Thats all. You can't MAKE him do anything, and as painful as that is, it's the truth.
Loose the crack-heads. In the long run, you'll be better off w/ less drug-addicted friends.
Pets can be dropped off at a local shelter if you can't handle them. Better that then let them be neglected or go un-loved. Either than, or tough out their more unsavory moments & love em for all their good ones.
Part of growing up is getting your heart broken at LEAST a dozen times, it seems. It's so hard to see past the end of your own nose after having your heart broken, but all things heal with time, my dear. Trust me.
Pick yourself up, dust yourself off & try to rise above all this & keep smiling. Lean on your most trust-worthy friends & try to do as much as you can to keep yourself happy.
best of luck, hon!
2007-03-26 22:42:48 · answer #6 · answered by Spiral_Dancer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont listen to those idiots telling you to do it. It's not worth it. Do you know what the Law of Attraction is? When you think negative things, you get negative results. Take a look at the things you have and be grateful and content. Then start thinking positive. Go to this website and take a look at what it says. Take care and I hope everything woks out.
http://www.thesecret.tv/
2007-03-26 23:26:15 · answer #7 · answered by eternalblueyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just keep ur head up and stay strong...dont let things knock u down cus that will get u no where
tha rough will come in life but u just got to get urself threw it....i no its hard and sometimes u feel like it would be better if u werent here but memeber ur not alone theres lots of people out there going threw tha same thing ...
just keep ur head up
2007-03-26 22:40:28 · answer #8 · answered by SHYGIRL 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your mom to get your brother to help out
ignore your brother or try to make amends
do your best to convince your dad to stop smoking tell him you want to spend as much time with him as you can and smoking won't allow that. let him know how much you care about him and how much it hurts you
accept your friends behaviors and hope they better themselves or get new friends
get new pets
you're young you are bound to get your heart broken alot. don't let it bother you too much. find stuff to occupy your time and distract yourself from that element.
i just told you
2007-03-26 22:34:45 · answer #9 · answered by mlkirchgessner 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Girl, your life is not bad!
Mine sucks!
My parents fight constanly, hit each other!
My friends dad, who I was friends with commited sucide.
My grades are all F's.
My friends are fake.
I lost a friend to Drugs.
My car is wrecked.
And my mom smokes, and is sick in the hospital.
It's worse. But I hang on, Knowing one day it will get better.
Where are we to go from worse?
2007-03-26 22:33:40 · answer #10 · answered by jEfFeRsOnAiRpLaNe 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋