Why do certain black women complain about white gals "stealing our men"?

Question

OK, just because an individual black man dates an individual white woman, how does that mean that all white women are forming some conspiracy to steal all black men from us? And aside from the fact that there's black men that will obviously still date you, what makes you think that black men are your only options? Also, just because he finds a white woman attractive doesn't mean he won't find you attractive too. I mean, I find white men attractive that doesn't mean I don't find black men attractive too. Stop being so insecure.

Interracial marriage isn't impure or a sin.

Answer 1

I have to agree with brownradyo. This judgment doesn't just come from black woman. My husband and I get a lot of those 'looks' from white men, or even white woman. I have become blind to such ignorance. I don't understand why people can't just live and let live. If you don't want to date outside your race, then don't. Mind you own business, and let us be. I love my husband with all my heart. And it's not because he's black and I'm white. It's because we have a strong bond.

Answer 2

As a white woman who has dated black men (among other races), I have to say that this is occasionally an issue, but it is not just black women who may have a problem. I have been looked down upon by white men and women, as well. I think it is ignorance or a lack of understanding that love is colorblind that makes some people say mean things. I think where in the country you live makes a difference, as well. My boyfriend lives in California, and there is not nearly as much of a problem with people saying something about it as there is here in the South where I live.

Answer 3

This is a good question and I have always thought this myself. I don't care who dates who, and who's married to each other. I do find that some black women label black men as if they own them and what they don't understand is that they make themselves look really racist too. We don't own anybody, except for the things we buy! These type of woman have issues that they need to get in control of. Black men are free to date whoever they want to date, and just because it happens to be a white woman doesn't mean that he doesn't like black women. What happened to two people being compatible and in-love with one another??? Does it matter that they happen to be two different races???

Answer 4

im gonna let you in on a secret: black men prefer white women over black women, for several reasons 1. black men see white women as being easy(probably from the girls gone wild videos) 2. don't have backbone 3. are more understanding and accepting(it's said that black women are nothing but drama, when in reality the drama is coming from issues with the black man) 3. are not argumentative 4. say that white women do things in bed that most black women won't do(unless you watch flicks) 5. black men might feel that having a white woman makes him better then everyone else 6. self-hate 7. doesn't want a woman with weave8. wants tanned babies with light eyes and better hair 9. their mothers or family may be prejudice and does it out of spite 10. can get over easy without the hassles

IF YOU LISTEN YOU ALWAYS HEAR BLACK MEN SAYING SMALL THINGS LIKE HOW THEY WANT SOMEONE WITH AN ACCENT, OR THEY COMPLIMENT A WHITE WOMANS HAIR, BUT WON'T COMPLIMENT A BLACK GIRLS, IT'S ALL IGNORANT, BUT I SAY LET THEM HAVE THEM.

Answer 5

well, i have read more than enough of this topic, and i must say, i honestly dont have this conversation with other black women, i dont think its such a big deal as many white women /black men would like to think.

it seems as though white women and black men in relationships view us as their "arch nemesis" the angry jealous black woman, well this is arrogant to me. first of all, with all the racism and obstacles against black people in this nation, a black man/white woman get the hardest time from black women? thats a load of crap.

what about all the white people who dont want them together, u never hear them complain about them, white parents have disowned their daughters over this kind of thing, iv'e never known a black woman to tell her son to never speak to her again.

black men have been lynched, beaten up and pulled over by the cops for being with a white women, did black women do that 2?

portraying the black woman as the insecure party who has the "problem" with their love is just an excuse. i guess people feel black women should feel inferior or jealous, and that in itself is racist.

i have no probs with interracial relationships, but i am very tired of some very insecure people blaming black women.
if these relationships are based so much on love and mutual respect for the person they are with , this wouldnt be such an issue.

Answer 6

basically put, these certain black women,are messing with sorry black men and though not all the time, they'll see a handsome black man with a white female that looks good and he has money and they might say why couldnt he be with me? whats better about her? I dont think the white women is stealing black men,its the notice of certain black men who got things going right that bothers them more than anything. youll notice they wont care if its an ugly white woman OR an ugly black man. and happens alot, alot of black women chase SOME of the good black men toward white women or any other woman,you know I think about it,alot of black women get mad because certain ones need to get their own act together and they lose the good men to not just white women but good black women,asians,latinas,it has alot to do with those women themselves, they need to quit complaining and do something about themselves.

Answer 7

It happens the other way around too. I have dated white men and I have had white women say, "Can't you find a black man?" I have also been with my date who was white and had black men give dirty looks, kiss their teeth, and even hit on me and tell me that I should be with a black man while I was out with my boyfriend. The whole thing is stupid. People have the right to date and marry who they want and other people need to mind their business.

Answer 8

I think its the same reason in fat girls complain about skinny girls, nerdy girls complain about models. Its a stereotypical perception. Black women are not generally portrayed positively in the media and many black men feel the need to justify dating white women by talking down black women. Most black women honestly do not give a ****....lol... The few who do have usually had bad experiences with black men telling them black women are inferior to white women.

Answer 9

I think who ever came up with the phrase should be slapped; first off how can a woman "steal" your man, the man willingly went? And who's to say black men are really ours? People should date whom they want and obviously black men are not hung up on being "devoted" or "sticking to" black women so why can't black women broaden their horizons the same way?

Answer 10

Thank you for being so open minded. It is tiring to see so many quuestion on yahoo answers asking why all of a certain race wil only date members of another. I am like you I find others outside of my race to be attractive. I have dated men from other races. It's personality that counts.