Am I the only college student?

Question

Am I the only college student who dosn't drink, sleep around or smoke anything...I'v had alcohol before but it dosnt make me have a "better time" and I dont really enjoy drinking and partying. Im afriad one day i'll be old and wish I had experimented becuase this the the step in human development where you do that stuff. All of my friends drink, smoke and party. Am I the only one who dosnt?? I like to have fun, but making myself sick or harming by body isnt fun to me. i know....nerd

Answer 1

Good for you!!!! Continue enjoying yourself without alcohol and smoking. You'll be better off. (No, you are NOT a nerd). You seem to have your priorities straight.

Answer 2

Wow I feel the same way as you. I am not a very social person. I do not feel that sleeping around is a good idea. There are times I say well maybe while I am single and young I should experiment with things such as getting drunk and partying and gaining more experience. I just turned 21 and have the occassional drink but I never take it too far. I often wonder if I am missing something and if I will regret it later on in life. I mean you can only say to yourself I did what I thought was best and who is to say because I didn't want to get wasted and stoned that I'm not a normal college girl. The world is filled with different people with different opinions and that's what makes it a beautiful place. Just because you don't surcomb to what other college students do and you set high morals doesn't mean that there is something wrong with you.

Answer 3

Hahaha, Kitty, I go to the University of Michigan... just thought it was a little ironic that your post was above mine (well, at least when I read it, it was the last one)
Cybele, you sound like me - about making acquaintance type friends in classes...
Anyway, yeah, I'm in college and I don't do any of the above... and yeah, when it seems like everyone else is doing it, you tend to question yourself, but that's just because you feel like you're the only one. Check around on facebook, I'm sure you can find some groups that are made up of people who don't drink, etc... I've seen a few. There's also a student group at my school that gets together and does things that don't involve alcohol, etc (although I'm not sure if I'm remembering right... my brain's a little addled right now from hair dye fumes) ... just keep doing what you think is right, and think about it this way - in the long run, you're helping yourself - the reason you're really at college is the academics, so while half the party kids are in rehab, you'll be on your way to a job... (I'm probably going to get attacked by party kids for saying that... but yeah) ... anyway, there's tons of stuff to do that doesn't involve drinking, partying, and smoking. Also, I don't know how big your campus is, but whenever I'm feeling a bit socially retarded, I remind myself how many people are on campus - there's no way that EVERY SINGLE ONE OF THEM parties twenty four- seven... So yeah... just do what you believe.

Answer 4

No you're not the only one. I spent my four years in college and law school concentrating on my education. I had an occasional drink here and there but I didn't and still don't need alcohol to have fun. Now that I have graduated and beginning my life outside of school I realize I don't regret anything. I have had all the great experiences (ie, parties, dances and spring break) that the other drunk students did. ONLY I REMEMBER THEM! You're not a nerd and you're not only one, find people who want to succeed and are confident and happy enough with themselves that they can have fun without being wasted. These are the people you'll want by your side in long run. Not the ones passed out on the front lawn. Best of luck to you.

Answer 5

I'm in college and I don't drink, sleep around or smoke. You're not the only one. There are a lot of people who don't do that. In my experience, I find it hard to party and keep up with my studies and since I'm paying an outrageous amount of money for an education, I would like to get an education. Not that people can't keep up with partying and studying. But I just have a hard time. Also, like you, I don't find harming myself fun. It is possible to have a good time without getting wasted. So don't worry. Keep doing what you are doing and enjoy your life.

Answer 6

You're silly. You know the answer to your question. Don't experiment just because others are doing it. You do what you feel like doing (this is not intended to inspire you to become radically liberal with your actions, but to tell you that you really must do what YOU yourself actually FEEL like doing).
You know what you are doing with your life. Just do whatever will make you happy (consider what will make you a happy college student, a happy 30-year old, 40- and 50- and 60- year old... you get the point). Just make yourself a happy person.

If you are afraid of missing something in life that you will regret not experiencing later because you did not live to the fullest, experiencing and growing in this way, well, you will miss something. But drinking and sleeping around is not what gives you what you are looking for (I don't think that's what you're looking for.) It is the way you decide how you will be inspired/affected by the things you experience. You can live a fulfilling life without being a huge party animal. You just have to learn how to perceive the absolutely wonderful things each thing in life has to offer.

EDIT:
I disagree with DC360. You are not wise beyond your years, you are normal. All those people who sleep around and party and drink just for the sake of the "experience" are ingenuous and immature for their years.

Answer 7

Trust me, you are not the only one. I don't never, never have, never intend to. When I go out with my friends, we go to clubs, hang out, and people watch. They may have a drink, but that's it. You just have to look in the right places for groups that are into more than just drinking and sex. I go to Michigan State University, known for partying and drinking. I know of/met about 10-12 people on campus that don't drink, and we never have a boring weekend. These years are about experiencing, but that doesn't mean you need to regret what you've experienced. In my opinion, nothing good comes from alcohol or any other form of drug, and having sex just for pleasure almost always leads to something one will regret as well, so why bother. Also, so many people do these types of things purely on peer pressure, regardless of what are you're at. There's always people out there who have fun without risking their lives.

Answer 8

Lol, I dont like to go out much either because my friends end up drunk, passed out, and etc. I think sleeping around or doing drugs is overrated because it is not all that. Although I have experimented I wished I didnt because it just makes you feel dirty in the end. Sometimes I feel like i'm the only college student who doesnt do that stuff too. Nerds Rock! lol

Answer 9

I'm a sophomore at OSU, and i haven't drank anything in 4 years, never even held a lit cigarette, and i have been in a steady relationship with my boyfriend for the last 2 years.

I have a great time being how i am. Its great you're strong enough not to be he stereotypical college student. For some people, theyneed that experience, it's possibly just not your scene. it's surely not mine. I'm proud in myself for being able to steer clear from the stereotype i think i'd regret someday.

I'm proud of you too. Keep your morals. Don't do anything cause you think you need to experiment cause your friends are.

Answer 10

Sounds like me. I used to through things at people who wanted me to party in rez and tell them all to "f*ck off and die". There really is no good solution for this. For me, I just stopped making real friends and only make aquaintance type friends in classes. Then again, we get to miss hangovers, alcohol poisoning, rez fees from damage caused, citations, cops, aquaintance rape, and all the costs of going out and drug and alcohol. Whatever, it's your life. Do whatever you want. If you need to experiment, dye your hair pink (that's what I did)