Any ideas on how to leave an unhappy marriage with a young baby and no money?

Answer 1

Depends on what you mean by 'unhappy'. I think the biggest thing that our generation is missing is staying power. When things go wrong we split. Every marriage goes through its ups and downs. Sometimes those downs can last a long time. You have a young baby... you have even more of a responsibility to work this out. When your kids are little, marriage is TOUGH. It really does get better. My hubby and I went through some extremely volitile times. There was even one time that I went to the courts and filed for divorce. I withdrew it before taking it any further. We have now been together for 15 years. I wouldn't change anything for the world. All those hard times brought us closer together and now... he is my best friend. I could not or would not want to live without him.
Marriage isn't a fairy tale. It is a lot of compromise and hard work. There will be times that not only will you need to swallow your pride but darn near choke on it to resolve an issue. You have involved a child now also and so preserving your marriage is very important.
You can over come any issue with your hubby with time and patience, and yes I mean any.... Unless your life or your childs is truley in danger from abuse..... That would be about the one thing that you do need to leave for. Other than that.. you can overcome addiction, financial problems... so many things. Instead of jumping to the end and asking how to end your marriage... Ask for some ideas on how to approach a solution. Trust me, it is well worth it in the long run.
Good Luck.

Answer 2

Are you my sis-in-law? Why do you guys have kids together? Did you think it would make it better? I kinda did the same thing, I guess... I suggest you tell your husband exactly how you feel and don't leave until the kid is at least 2. Suffer - stick it out - I don't care how you look at it. WAIT. Things should get better. Do not give up until the stress of baby-days are gone. Do you work? That would be the first step is to work more than 3 hours a day and get an income going. Save your own money so IF you have to do it - you have money. And 2 years is a good amount of time to save that nest egg... just in case. And if you don't need to leave then - good down payment on a car or house. :)

Answer 3

You seem to be a guy who has certain expectations in life for the decent comforts in life (we all desire) I think the issue here is that you sadly discovered your wife cannot live up to or will never live up to your standards, I think you saw a hint of this early in your relationship when you said she enlisted then had a change of mind, also that she has always sought to PT employment instead of FT. From the root of the relationship if you dont support eachothers wants & needs, respect & encourage each other you only allow yourselves to slide downhill as a couple. In addition to that FB chats with other females??? (an affair is the last thing you need) feelings of guilt, feelings that your marriage is a dead weight, feeling depressed, feelings of life wasting away are all symptoms of current unhappiness. Depending on what you want, I suggest marriage councelling. Your wife is not a bad person, she just probably has different ideas and expectations from you. A professional will be able to sort this out and you will get the assistance you need. best of luck.

Answer 4

Well, here is a novel thought? Why dont you both do what your vows require of you and work it out? Plus, it isnt about what you or he like and want anymore.

That kid is the first priority now, and you both need to do what is in its best interests, not your own. That choice would be for you two to fix yourselves and your marriage and provide the home and family the kid deserves.

Dont be another one of those who claims it all in the interests of the kid, when it is really about you using them as the excuse for what you want.

This whole idea that you deserve to be happy or that you should get a do over or something in order to be happy is more of that silly liberal crap. If you shoot your own foot off, see if you have a right to have your foot grow back. You dont and it wont, no matter how unhappy that makes you. You have a right to bear the costs and consequences of your decisions, your own doing, your own promises, etc. Learn that now and stop the nonsense.

Yes, we have a right to be happy, provided we do the right things and so forth. But dont ever think you have a right to do whatever you want, however you want and to still be happy with the outcome, for you dont.

Answer 5

Family supports, do you have any? Medicaide, local family services... ask for help there. File for child support ASAP, and know that a baby is not a good reason to stick around. However ask yourself why you are unhappy and if there is a chance to keep the relationship going. Sometimes a relationship get's too scary or too difficult and someone bails out, but if you choose to work on the relationship there is help for that too.

Answer 6

Hopefully you have some Relatives that will take you in until you can get on your feet, if not first thing you need to do is start saving money so you can leave. Find a Part-Time Job and a babysitter and start saving if possible. ASAP go see a Lawyer, maybe you can get Alimony and Child Support.

Answer 7

Just leave, you probably have some family members you could stay at until you get on your feet, or if you already haven't tried, see if there is still a chance to work it out then get lawyer, because maybe then you could get child support b/c on down the road it will be handy for ya

Answer 8

Well we certainly wouldn't want you to be "unhappy" would we? How about giving your husband the baby and walking out the door and getting a job and paying him child support. Sounds like you need some growing up to do. (Hmmm I wonder how happy your hubby is with you)

Answer 9

Which sounds better? Sticking with your husband, opening up communication and bettering your marriage, thus making your child a happier life OR leaving, going on welfare, moving all of the time into worse apartments, getting evicted, never getting ahead in life and your child ending up a trashy slu* who gets pregnant in high school?

Answer 10

Just walk away dear... It is the hardest thing you will ever do, but you will be happy in the long run, been there and done that. My son is 22. And the best part, I never looked back. The best part? I found someone who made me happy!!!!!