By the way i'm a pastor at my church. And completly against homosexuality
2007-03-26 14:55:25 · 21 answers · asked by chris s 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
You put your arms around your son and hug him for as long as you both need to. You tell him that you love him, that you will always love him, and that you cherish him. Your son is your son and that will never change. He is exactly who he was meant to be. You have done nothing wrong. Just love him as much as you always have, and in time, it will get easier for the both of you. Good luck to you both.
2007-03-26 15:00:31 · answer #1 · answered by Merika 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Do exactly what you did yesterday before you knew he was gay ... It's as simple as that.
He is still your son. You are still his father. I'm sure he still loves you. You should still go on loving him the same way that you always have.
Being gay is not *who* he is. No matter who he loves, he is still the great person you raised him to be. If you turn your back on him, he will continue to be that same great person.
We can only hope that you won't turn your back on him, but will embrace him and realize that God doesn't make mistakes. He does everything for a reason, and even moreso gave you, a pastor, a gay son for a reason. It's just up to you to realize why ...
(I'm not leaning toward you taking religion on to try to convert gay folks, either.) :)
Best of luck to you!
p.s. - You obviously raised a mature and courageous son who loves you and feels comfortable enough with your love for him to be able to tell you this. Good for him!
2007-03-26 22:14:11 · answer #2 · answered by Shawn_Sunshine 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is still your son and you should love him no matter what. Think about his feelings. He's probably having a difficult time because you are a pastor and against homosexuality. Leave your ingnorant thoughts behind and accept your son for who he is. He is still your son no matter what. Do you really want to do anything to lose him?
2007-03-27 09:41:09 · answer #3 · answered by thathockeychick23 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi there mom...
Most important: be nice. don't forget a lot of kids suicide for feeling that way. it is very hard to be gay. I'm sure he had a hard time before he told you. Listen, you can tell him the facts: it says in the bible not to do the act, but it doesn't say you are not allowed to feel anything. really, and it's not only me. a lot of Rabbi's agree with me. Just tell him you can't agree with him going to live hat way (your a pastor), but you wouldn't abandon him.
2007-03-26 22:26:32 · answer #4 · answered by Jack D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though you might not like the fact that your son is gay (my parents hate it too) try as hard as you can to love him anyways, because it's really not worth it to lose your son is it? There are far too many people in this world who are against us, and its hard to deal with as it is, but it makes it 1000 times harder for us if we know that our own parents hate us!! You don't have to like it and you certainly don't have to accept it but please please please try! Just love your son UNCONDITIONALLY and take it one day at a time!! Talk to your son, let him make his own choices, let him live his own life, it's the best thing you can do!! Try to be understanding even if you don't agree, you will make a difference to him you really will. Some things are uncontrolable, and some things cannot be changed. Hope this helps you out. Good luck with this!!!
2007-03-26 23:37:35 · answer #5 · answered by fairyluvr79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Know this, what ever you decide to do its really not about you. when I came out to my mom all I heard was I don't know how to take this and the only thing that I could think of is, why is this such a big deal to YOU, YOU aren't gay. That was really selfish of my mom and realizes now because all I wanted was her support. Remember that regardless if you like it or not its not going to change the fact that hes gay.
2007-03-26 22:21:42 · answer #6 · answered by shay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm glad my son told me he was gay rather than tell me he had cancer and we would have limited time together or he had murdered someone........ Maybe a person in your position can lead the way in showing love and acceptance without prejudice to your congrigation, but more importantly, to your son.
2007-03-26 22:04:43 · answer #7 · answered by Leah 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tough one because if you reject him as a person than you may turn him against the church yet if you say nothing than it looks like you are condoning the behavior. I say let him know how much you love him as a person, it does not change how you feel about him but his lifestyle is not something you condon. If he is living at your home than set ground rules about his "friends" visiting if he is not living at home don't refuse to meet his "friends" but tell him you want no physical contact in your presence. good luck and my prayers will be with you
2007-03-26 22:02:02 · answer #8 · answered by 'lil peanut 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find it hard to believe that a Pastor is looking to Yahoo Answers for help with his gay son. Shouldn't you be praying about it?
Regardless or whether this is a serious question or not, if it is...you should love him just as you did before he told you. He's still your son.
2007-03-26 22:01:52 · answer #9 · answered by Dodger's mom 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
he is your son you should love and respect him and no matter what your views our blood comes first when he walks into a room you should say that is my gay son and i love him and if you have a problem with it well that is just your problem accept him dont be ashamed and i dont see how christians can call themselves christians when they judge gay people and the bible says do not judge god put us here the way that he wanted us and he wanted some of us gay or we wouldnt be here just think about it!!!
2007-03-27 00:29:19 · answer #10 · answered by lookinhard 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋