I think one of my closest friends has a problem with my bisexuality as well as bisexuals, gays and lesbians. Every time I mention something like "I'm going to WeHo (West Hollywood) with some friends" or something she totally changes the subject. What should I do?
AND PLEASE NO NEGATIVE ANSWERS!!! I NEED ADVICE NOT AUDIENCE OPINIONS FROM THE JERRY SPRINGER SHOW!!!
thanks! :)
2007-03-26 14:49:50 · 21 answers · asked by ♥sista 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
most people who openly have problems with bisexuality and homosexuality privately have personal issues with their own sexuality. perhaps she is sexually repressed and uncomfortable discussing her feelings about such matters. when you open up to her she prefers not to go there in an effort avoid expressing her deep feelings on the subject. many people like this grow up around people who are not open about such matters. she may be bi or homo herself . if she is really a close friend you should talk to her about it. take a different approach though! tell her you hope you aren't offending her by being open about it and see where the discussion goes. ask her how she feels about you being bi.
2007-04-03 05:22:36 · answer #1 · answered by Rey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I d would be honest about it and ask him, her
and i m sure he, she will answer
I have many friends and I m not the type that is gonna assume stuff and for the new people I meet if I hint they have a problem with me being gay I ask and if they do i do too so thats it, now sometimes u have old friends that didnt know about your current sexuality well i d be honest about and they support u 100% if they are real friends if not get rid of t hem
they are never gonna be good unless they change and I would not expect too much from anyone
2007-04-03 03:19:00 · answer #2 · answered by yety21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is against it, then so be it. if you want her to accept your views, then you have to be accepting of hers too. perhaps she has a problem, does that make her a horrible person? not everyone jumps for joy when they are confronted with these issues. give her some time to get used to the idea instead of judging her so quickly. clearly she is still your friend so she must be willing to work with the idea. why not meet her halfway and talk about your lifestyle less since you know it upsets her? you dont have to talk about these things 24/7. does being bisexual define who you are, or is it just one aspect of you? if you can't be her friend without talking about your sexuality, then forget about her. but if she is a close friend, then understand that not everyone is comfortable with homosexuality and try to talk about it less around her.
2007-03-26 14:56:53 · answer #3 · answered by Matt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's having a problem, it's her problem.
It is not easy to change people's point of view specially with regard to these things. For some, it'll take time and a lot of persuation but for others never at all.
You just have to understand that people have their own limitations, too, just like you and friendships are for overlooking them as well as their differences.
2007-04-03 03:02:50 · answer #4 · answered by Cheng 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously she is uncomfortable with it , maybe you should give it time and find a discrete approach to it, or just let it go and not share that part of your life with that person. I have a friend who is 53 years old and at her age she still can not deal with the fact that her brother is gay. They have a very good relationship but his homosexuality is something that she tries to ignore.
2007-03-26 14:59:03 · answer #5 · answered by beali03 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friend can not accept who you are, how good of friends can you be? My best friend is gay and she is the coolest person I know. Maybe the topic just makes her a little uncomfortable, I'd say your best bet is to nicely confront her and ask her how she feels about it, then at least you know if your friendship is worth while. You want friends that love you for who you are, and apprecitate the great qualities you bring to the friendship.
2007-03-26 14:55:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront her. Ask her whats up. You don't really know if she has a problem with gay people. west hollywood, or the fact that she's not invited or any other reason. Have it out with her...that's the only way you're gonna know:)
2007-03-26 14:53:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm my terrific friends specific, yet even nonetheless i admire the females I grasp out with, I wouldn't completely have faith them. It sounds terrible yet i understand for a actuality that they each and every so often gossip approximately one yet another. the two way is say I even have some friends who're the two undemanding climate friends and a few who're like sisters to me.
2016-11-23 18:06:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come right out (so to speak!!) and ask her if your bisexuality makes her uncomfortable. Did she know you were bisexual when you met? I know this sounds bad, but maybe she's afraid you'll come on to her or something. Maybe she just needs to be reassured that you're only interested in her friendship? Good luck dear!
2007-03-26 14:59:07 · answer #9 · answered by Dodger's mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she doesn't decline your invite, see if she goes with you and once she see how much fun it is, she may feel differently later.....my sister is a lesbian and i sometimes go with her to some shows or just to the club and i always have a great time.....good luck and I hope that you 2 remain friends
2007-03-26 14:58:30 · answer #10 · answered by Jessica C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋