hello my name is amanda and im 15 years old ...........ok well my parents are split up and im living with my mom but me and my mom are fighting all the time like everyday 5 times a day. and i am just getting sick of it just sh acts was to youg or something i no it dosnt make me sound like a nice person because shes my mom and everything but she has been mean to me since she moved in with her "boyfriend".. and i was just wondering if i should try to live with my dad for a while ?????
2007-03-26 14:42:41 · 15 answers · asked by amanda m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
that decision is your and yours alone to make maybe talk to your mom about all this and go from there
2007-03-26 14:46:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a few questions for you?
Have your parents been seperated for a long time or is this recent? If it's recent then I don't think your mom should be living with a boyfriend in the first place. She needs time to get over your dad and be on her own. She owes it to herself.
And if you're 15 years old she should be concerned about you also. She should be talking to you and trying to work things out with you too.
Are you close with your dad? Maybe if you and your mom can't work out you differences may it wouldn't be a bad thing for you to live with your dad for a while. Sometimes it's best to be where there isn't any conflict and you can have time to think things over. Time to clear you head. Can you do that at your dad's? I don't know how close you are to your dad!!! At 15 years of age I would think that you would be able to decide where you want to be. Would your dad allow you to be there?
Also being 15 is very hard. I'm not sure there are too many 15 year old that don't argue with their mother's. It's an awfully hard world out there and it makes it even harder when your parents aren't together. Only you know the situation at home and only you can make it work along with your mother.
Good luck to you on whatever works best for you!!!
2007-03-26 21:55:29 · answer #2 · answered by garden2007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl, girl, girl!!! Umm Umm Umm! You sound like me! Wow! I had some similar problems. Okay, in this case you really need a mediator (cause mama ain't listening). If that was the case she would have heard you in one of your many arguments. Sounds like you have been trying to talk to her and she gets defensive. Offense is just about the only thing that starts an argument. 1st try the sit down listen approach, like hey mom lets have girls night out and got to the movies (i use to even let my mom pick her stuff--ask me how I saw biscuit--please don't tell anyone).. And then we would grab a bit to eat and I would ask her questions about hows everything? how did grandma & grandpa meet? When you were a little girl what did your room look like? Believe me you probably won't be able to get her to shut-up.. Plus it makes her feel like you are interested in her and that her life matters to you and give her hints about you. You are changing as a person and becoming a woman. My mom wanted me to always be her little girl and she didn't want me to grow up. Because her little girl was so precious. You have to get to know each other on a different level. Now my mom and I are closer, but boy did we fight. It took God to change our relationship. Cause she tried to put me out but I wasn't going no where. Nothing against my dad, I am still his little girl. But I needed my mom. If all else fails get one of her friends to sit down with her and talk (be careful who you pick get someone that will be neutral and not take sides)
2007-03-26 22:00:23 · answer #3 · answered by kissdestinysangel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to your mom about living with your dad? I have been in the same situation. I think you should try discussing your issues directly with your mom. Also, talk to your dad about what's going on at home, or have you already? It is very difficult moving back and forth between parents. It is easier resolving the problem at hand. If you want to talk more detailed just send me an email
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2007-03-26 21:53:27 · answer #4 · answered by Sharon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living with your dad might not be a bad idea for the time being. Just remember that fighting with your mom is pretty typical at your age. She is probably just confused because of the divorce. So try not to take it too personally and try not to leave being mad at her.
2007-03-26 21:50:30 · answer #5 · answered by I_hope_I_know 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hard to say, sounds like your mom needs some professional help. she's lashing out and take it out on you. for your own saftey (she could have even gone crazy due to the split, or already was and that's why there was a split - it has happened). it may be better if you did move in with your father.
only because meaness can lead to aggression and that can lead to physical violence. until she calms down, it might be the best thing, atleast for a while.
2007-03-26 21:48:46 · answer #6 · answered by mike s 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that maybe the whole thing is taking a toll on her and shes feeling the pressure or she wants her new relationship to work out well if your not feeling comfortable with the arrangement and feel its not working maybe you should tell her and get her side of the story or just say I want to try living with dad and leave it at that.
Hope I helped,
God Bless
Brianna
2007-03-26 21:48:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk toyour dad about it and see if you can just live with him for a little while until thing calm down on the homefront and if you end up likeing you father's place more live with him. but you sould not leave a broken relationship with your mom you could end up regreting that. try to fix your relationship with your mom and try you dad's place. but maker sure you don't hurt you mom by moving out for the time being
2007-03-26 21:50:07 · answer #8 · answered by limegreen1@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends.
-- have you tried talking to your mom about these problems?
-- do you know how your dad feels about the idea of you moving in?
-- do you have siblings or anyone else living with you? how would they feel about you moving out?
-- would you be able to go to the same school? if not, how might that work?
good luck...
2007-03-26 21:48:04 · answer #9 · answered by Amanda 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the same thing happened with me.. and i moved in with my dad for 3 years and then me and my dad started to fight and argue all the time.. and then i decided to move back in with my mom.. because me and my mom got close again.. and i could turn to her no matter what.. so i moved in with her again.. and im happy with the choice i made.. moving out gave me the time i needed to figure everything out.. but you wont know until you do it yourself
2007-03-26 21:50:07 · answer #10 · answered by marie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be a good idea to go live with your Dad if he wants you to live with him...The situation there with your mother is not doing you any good...You need some calmness in your life at your young age....
2007-03-26 21:49:14 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋