I had a physical affair that I hid from my spouse and my spouse had an emotional affair without physical contact that was hidden from me. By emotional I mean time was spent with another person taking time away from the family, lying about where the person actually was and looking for something that was lacking in the marriage. Same as adultry without the physical contact.
2007-03-26 13:35:36 · 21 answers · asked by schlepp 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
one is just as bad as the other!!
2007-03-26 13:44:56 · answer #1 · answered by inmate3685 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It can be equally as bad. Yes there is emotional cheating. If the spouse was confiding personal information that should be meant for the other spouse then its cheating. Emotions run high and can become more. It can also mean alot to a person that is lacking communication in their relationship. If its extremely personal than its an affair. Also if they were lying about it then it was more than a regular friendship. Anytime a spouse hides information or lies about their situation then it can't be good.
2007-03-26 14:49:57 · answer #2 · answered by smile4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes i feel that an emotional affair is just as bad and hurtful to a relationship or marriage as a physical affair or cheating. You are both in the wrong here. Both affairs were wrong and never should have happened. Yes I agree with you that an emotional affair is adultery just as much as the physical is. He obviously was lusting after the other person as well and this is the same as doing the act itself. You both need marriage counseling and help to try to save this marriage and to get past this together or this marriage will not last. Both of you were wrong in what you did to the marriage and two wrongs do not make a right. You both lied and deceived each other as well and this was harmful and hurtful too.
2007-03-26 13:55:08 · answer #3 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No I think physical is way worse.
Anything with fluid transfer is worse than anything someone else could do with words. If you wanted to get technical, all friends would constitute cheating if you wanted to look into it. I mean friends are different than your spouse or significant other, they share different things, you tell them different things, etc.
I think it also depends on how emotionally attached they were. If they were that attached how come they didn't move into anything physical? Obviously if it was only emotional, they did not cross any lines. Therefore making it not that horrible..
They showed restraint, which is not something you can say about the physical affair.
2007-03-26 13:44:28 · answer #4 · answered by Steffi 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that both are bad for the relationship because you had to lie, sneak and cheat so that your significant other wouldnt find out. You did it, so its wrong, if you cant just stand up and say I am going out with male/females name then its wrong. Regardless of the physical or emotional attachments involved, its still deceiving your spouse.
2007-03-26 13:45:56 · answer #5 · answered by Ms. Q 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no such thing as an emotional affair!!!! Spending time talking to other people is called friendship. Chances are your spouse hid it from you because you're a control freak who can't even allow your spouse a friend? Geez! That's psychotic.
Anyway, I agree with the above answerer. It's deceit not adultery.
2007-03-26 13:41:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
I consider you Sarah , in our moderen society , intercourse is a tad frugal .. and intensely plenty so printed and stated in the process our lives .. in spite of the indisputable fact that while 2 human beings trully love one yet another , intercourse turns into plenty better than actual , and creates a tie between 2 human beings .. yet while that loving prefer isn't there , the tie seems to no longer type .. yet while/if the different learns of that sexual episode's happening , conflictions do/will arrise .. the alternative of interplay i've got faith might desire to be mutual , and saved to yourselves as a private happening .. in spite of the indisputable fact that , hugging is in basic terms a controlled notation of love for friends .. might desire to in no way be considered as actual cheating..
2016-10-20 12:31:43 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally speaking, emotional affairs can be MORE damaging than physical affairs. Not to say physical affairs are not damaging, they are. What I'm saying is emotional affairs are more likely to lead to attachment to an affair partner, while physical affairs can often be "just sex." (They can also be attachments as well.)
If you check out what Dr Harley says at http://www.marriagebuilders.com he can spell it out much better than I can.
2007-03-26 15:12:43 · answer #8 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you stink!...you were the one who did the official CHEATING, if your spouse is with a councellor, talking about stuff (that you probably caused in the relationship) then I do not consider that cheating whether the person is a male or female your spouse is talking to...get a life and be thankfull your spouse didnt divorce your as*
2007-03-26 14:30:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think both are just as devastating to the other partner
depending on your level of committment and time together
just because someone is not having sex with someone else doe snot in any way mean it is not an intimate relationship.
being emotionally available can be more intimate than a roll in the hay!!
2007-03-26 13:41:21 · answer #10 · answered by BlackSwan 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
equally bad, the question is who wanted out more or who was adding things to the relationship because the relationship was lacking in general?
2007-03-26 13:55:05 · answer #11 · answered by HRcutie 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋