My best friend doesn't approve of gay people. I'm bi and she doesn't know. Should I tell her? I am married and not interested in her at all like that. We are very close friends and she is pretty much my only friend where I live so I would be devestated to lose her but I don't want to hide it from her. What should I do and how should I tell her?
2007-03-26 13:22:04 · 11 answers · asked by mommy_2_little_man 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Hi there. I hope I can help you out with this. Through personal experience, I've come to realize that many homophobic people are homophobic for the simple fact that they can't put a "face" with the word "gay." All they hear is that word, and because they aren't close to anyone who is gay, they cannot understand it. Remember, people fear what they don't understand. If your best friend were to associate you (her best friend) with the word "gay" then she would have to reconsider her opinion...especially if she loves you as much as she claims. I would definitely tell her and try to break it to her gently. If she is your best friend, then she will love and accept you no matter what. Hope this helps, and good luck to you!
2007-03-26 13:31:50 · answer #1 · answered by Merika 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she's truly your best friend it shouldn't matter what your orientation is. After all, what does that have to do with your friendship and how does that change what kind of a person you are? Even if she doesn't approve of gay people if she's your best friend she should understand.
2007-03-26 20:29:18 · answer #2 · answered by myrtle s. 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Im 19 and a male. My friend doesnt like gay, bi, lesbians either...like at al he makes fun of them alot. I am bi. i told him and he was shocked but he has since accepted it. y not tell her the truth dont hide it.
2007-03-27 00:34:18 · answer #3 · answered by EJ 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just tell her. If she doesnt approve than she isnt a good friend. If she does approve, you might convince her to like gays.
2007-03-26 20:25:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldnt tell her if you think she will flip out...but if u feel you really need to tell her go for it and if shes a true friend she will be fine with it!!
Good luck:)
Christy
2007-03-26 21:24:20 · answer #5 · answered by ceecee800 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell her. you can't judge a person just because of their sexuality. and keep it in mind, that your only "half" gay- but i mean, your married...so why worry now? shouldn't you have told her sooner? hopefully, it didn't cause this marriage on just this point...
2007-03-26 20:27:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly, just tell her. A true friend will stick beside you whether they agree or disagree.
2007-03-26 20:27:35 · answer #7 · answered by ☮ wickey wow wow ♀♀ 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well you answered your own question...."I would be devastated to lose her but I don't want to hide it from her"...so you are going to tell her. Good luck.
2007-03-26 21:03:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
yes
2007-03-26 20:25:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep it to yourself.What you do and who you do it with between the sheets is not her business.
2007-03-26 21:43:28 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ liz ♥ 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋