what should i tell her...
her is what she sent me via AIM:
"i want to be happy, i want to kno that we are gonna be perfect, i wanna live a happy life, i never wannaa have sex agaian until im married, i wanna go to church every sunday (not the greek church but grace chapel) i wanna have a ring on my finger, i never want u to get jelouse (dont take this mean)- but i want u to take care of ur face.. i want u to take me to dinner, and the movies, and shopping, and ice skatting. i want you to come over to my house instead of me going to urs, i want to go outside and through a football or a baseball.. i want flowers in school just cuz u love me.. i wwant you to get a hair cut when it gets long.. i want you to wear preppy clothes and jeanes that are fadded and have a lil hole in them.. ... i want you to put ur arm round me in the hall.. telll everyone im ur gf.. i want everything ot be perfect"
2007-03-26 13:18:00 · 11 answers · asked by BoSox 007 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well, I think you should talk 2 your g/f. It's o.k. that she really wants 2 be with you, and she wants everyone 2 know who she belongs 2. But you have 2 tell her that everything isn't going 2 be perfect. You guys can work "together" 2 make things right. And she can't just expect you guys to make such drastic changes. I can see what she means by wanting a little more romance, and Im sure you can give her that. She also needs to know that being in a relationship is about a "team" effort. Not "he" or "she". The both of you have 2 agree on some of these things. It isn't all about her. Because then you will get tired of pleasing her, while you aren't happy.
2007-03-26 13:27:54 · answer #1 · answered by S4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's all good accept the Haircut ,
Don't Compromize the Hair , Long Hair rules , LOL
Actually on the No sex before Marriage
I Know its tough , But if Ya do Have sex before Marriage you could curse the relationship before God,
If ya already did it then just repent , Ask forgivness & if ur hearts rt, he'll forget about it
But if ya really want it to work long term w/ Gods Blessing
Ya Think You'd want to give it the Best Chance
She Sounds Like the type a Girl Ya wanna marry
As Apposed to Just Do em & screw em
But she needs to be Not so Demanding & if ur like not up for the mall everytime , live & let live a lil
Usually Ya Can't change ppl much, But God Can,
So on the Rightiousness stuff
She's got a point
To Bad she didn't let ya think of some of that stuffon ur own though
Kinda takes the fun outta it if ur doing it outta obligation instead of cause ya want to,
But take notes for the next one & try to think up something she didn't mention here
I Let my last G/f Give me a Hair cut But it was pretty good & she left it long, But when she asked if she could, I said go ahead, ur the one thats gotta look at me
But if she woulda wanted to cut it to short, dunno if i woulda let her, as for some of the other stuff, it depends on how inportant it is or isn't for you to do,
If its to important, you may resent her if ya gotta change to much, After all, the guy she liked when she 1st met you is the guy she liked huh ;-)
2007-03-26 13:38:04 · answer #2 · answered by forgivenbadboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are kidding right? That is all about what SHE wants!! It's all about her being happy, and wanting everything to be perfect for her. I want you to do this, I want you do that, blah, blah, blah.
I hate to be rude, friend. I love romance and I hope you have a good relationship someday, but I don't think it's gonna be with her. YOU have to be happy too. If she wants you to change, then that means she doesn't want you for the person that you are. The fact that you are asking for advice shows that you care enough about her to ask.
Relationships are all about sharing, to me it looks like she wants you to do all the giving. Do you really think that if you do all that stuff that she asked, that will make things perfect? No way, it means she wants to control your life, and the more you give of yourself, the more she will want. You have to ask yourself "What am I going to get out of this? Will I be happy too? Relationships work both ways.
2007-03-27 16:45:36 · answer #3 · answered by Jeffrey S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people are in a constant state of testing the boundaries of a relationship . i assume that you have been together for a while and yours didn't start out quite this way. as time goes on you will both have a vital need to experience communications of the highest order or your relationship will fail. you seem to be a perfectly intelligent,articulate person who has pretty much described your issues but now you need to sit down with the person that matters and discuss them. tell her ahead of time it's because you care and that it's important that you both air your thoughts. if it doesn't work out at that time, then let it have some time. it sounds like with the direction you're going you have nothing to lose. good luck!
2007-03-26 13:31:40 · answer #4 · answered by tennis4746 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
staggering! now must be your possibility to seal the deal because it have been. All you ought to do is seem to welcome the area and be considered in the corporation of yet another woman, ideally one she is jealous of or despises or seems as much as or otherwise has good thoughts approximately. She will on no account be waiting to take it because of the fact it rather is going to look as though dropping to her ego and so she will ought to posses you. If on the different hand you seem sitting like a lost puppu waiting for her you will look needy and susceptible and un appropriate
2016-10-20 00:15:10 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Al she is asking for is you to love her. She is giving you ideas. She is not going to take notes to see if you d each of these things. Think about what she is saying. Can you learn to be more loving? My husband is a little cold, but I know he loves me. I have to admit sometimes, as much as I love him, I wish he would be a little nicer. I think she is giving you food for thought and if your are asking for opinions, you must care.
Good luck honey!
PS....just for kicks and giggles, don't tell her anything.......just go to her house...take a glove and baseball and ask her to come outside to throw the ball around. ;O)
2007-03-26 13:29:48 · answer #6 · answered by pooty36 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I want a new girlfriend because your a control freak.
2007-03-26 13:26:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you serious.if you are just wait until your married the list will get bigger.tell her you are who you are. i mean she must have liked the way you are shes been with you wright?
2007-03-26 17:42:18 · answer #8 · answered by luv babygurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should change also .
Change your girlfriend for another one .
She sounds like a controlling BE atch.
2007-03-26 13:24:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her nothing's perfect and why is she with you if youre not good enough for her...
2007-03-26 13:22:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋