Today she asked me if I think an abortion would be right for her. I don't know what to tell her. She is really scared and she knows that she can't afford to have a child. She has a great boyfriend and he supports her decision either way but she can't decide if she should keep the baby or not. She has no job and no money saved in the bank. Having this child would be very stressfull on her and her boyfriend. She told me she needs help deciding. What should I tell her?
2007-03-26 13:16:19 · 11 answers · asked by roxyalienchick 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Direct her to a couple of agencies:
Planned Parenthood
Lighthouse
These places help young unwed mothers make decisions regarding their pregnancies, including abortion, adoption, or whatever. I would just let your friend know that you will support her no matter what she decides, and also, to encourage her to realize that abortion is a huge decision that can never be reversed, and a lot of young women who do this out of fear, regret it later in life...
2007-03-26 13:20:46 · answer #1 · answered by It's Just My Opinion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While she wants your advice this is something that she will have to live with for the rest of her life. Abortion is a big decision that she may regret later in life. Let her know that you also support her no matter what decision she makes. While having a child before you are ready is scary and expensive the rewards are awesome later in life.
2007-03-26 20:26:07 · answer #2 · answered by spaztastic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Support her but you need to tell her that the person she needs to talk to is her boyfriend sorry but that is going to be their decision, They can always get jobs and work really hard to become parents, having a baby is stressful on anyone even if you have a lot of money. It is the way you handle the situation that makes you strong. Good Luck to your friend.
2007-03-26 20:21:42 · answer #3 · answered by TM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should tell her the pros and cons about abortion. there is always giving the baby up for adoption. physically and emotionally it may not be a good decision to abort. just help her do a reseach on abortion goods a nd bads and let her decide after she has all the information.
2007-03-26 21:07:02 · answer #4 · answered by Deana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to put the baby up for adoption there's no reason that she should abort it. It's her and her boyfriends fault that she got pregnant so the least she could do is give it a life and put it up for adoption. There are places that charge nothing for prenatal care or she could go to the welfare office and apply for foodstamps, cash assistance,medical etc... Tell her to go get a job just because she's pregnant doen't mean she can't work.
2007-03-26 20:30:46 · answer #5 · answered by lem 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If she can't decide, then she needs to talk to boyfriend and then decide what to do. I would contact an attorney and see if anyone knows someone who is looking for a baby tat can't have one. They should take care of everything, Dr. bills and meds and hospital. And you would know for sure what the parents were like.
2007-03-26 20:26:35 · answer #6 · answered by frostyw47 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear friend, just listen and love her no matter her choice.
Tell her in her eyes, whatever choice you make, I'm still here for you. I can not tell you what to do with your body or baby.
Don't offer any thing....seriously.
ANY thing you say will be held against you later or even end a friendship because you "know too much".
Best wishes.
2007-03-26 20:23:03 · answer #7 · answered by Denise W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It won't cost her any money to have the baby and give it up for adoption. That's the least she could do; lots of people out there would love a baby. Good luck.
2007-03-26 20:21:20 · answer #8 · answered by green27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess the only thing you can do is support her in whatever decision she makes. ultimately the choice is hers. maybe a pros and cons list to point out the fors and againsts for either choice. i know it sounds silly but it can help to explore all the ways either decision will effect her life
2007-03-26 20:26:50 · answer #9 · answered by purpleorca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Research her options with her....adoption (open or closed)...government help...etc....if she still wants an abortion then support her it will be tough for her
2007-03-26 20:23:49 · answer #10 · answered by Love always, Kortnei 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋