How do I get rid of this really annoying guy?

Question

So there's this guy at my church who likes me and asked me out a few months ago, but I said no. He still likes me though, and although he hasn't asked me out again, he still tries to act all tough and cool and flirty to me and it is REALLY, REALLY ANNOYING!! he acts like a jerk whenever i'm around and it bugs me. plus whenever we walk past each other he always mumbles, "see you later", and kinda brushes past me like we're going out or something, and my friends LOVE to tease me about this. I've dropped about a million hints that I don't like him back and never will, but he is either ignoring it or is too dense to understand. How can I make him understand that I will never like him and want him to leave me alone without being totally mean to him? By the way, the "I just want to be friends" line won't work for me, because I don't even like him as a person. He litters dr. pepper cans all over the church and is really loud and obnoxious at school.

Answer 1

Set him straight , girl.

If everyone likes to see you embarrassed, they are not helping the situation.

Tell him there is always EHarmony. if he needs a girlfriend .

Answer 2

Honesty really is the best policy. Even a total dimwit will respect you for it. You don't have to be mean or hurtful to him. Try and respect his feelings...he is immature, but he has a heart and you don't want to be blamed for breaking it. Just ask him if you can see him for a moment alone. Don't lie, and don't be apologetic....just tell him you are aware that he has an interest in you, but that you can't help him with those feelings. Be patient and make sure he understands that you are not considering him as a boyfriend. The annoyance you are feeling is probably because you aren't putting a stop to his attentions. Approach this with maturity, talk to him the way his mother would about the littering.

Answer 3

Obviously this guy can't take a hint. I've been there before & here's what worked for me - give the guy a COLD shoulder. When he talks to you, act like he doesn't exist - you can't hear him; when he's showing off, act like you are seeing right thru him; when he tries to brush into you when you walk past, make it REALLY obvious you don't even want to touch him by giving him as much room as possible. After all that, if he still doesn't get it, you are going to have to say something to him & not care about being mean.

Answer 4

Tell someone in authority at your church that you think it would be a good time for your group to have a session about acceptable social behavior. Church is a place for (insert diety name her) and not a singles bar to pick up people. Make sure they address one or two of the things he does that you don't like and make sure you loudly aggree that the behavior is unacceptalble.

Answer 5

Guys like this cannot get a hint, so you are going to have to tell him off. I've done this a couple of times before. Like you, I was more patient than I should have been, just continually getting annoyed until after a few more months, I just had enough and got fiesty. Doesn't mean you have to be a b-word, but be succinct, clear, and dead serious.

Answer 6

Take him aside when you get a chance at school or church and just tell him how you feel. Ask him to please just leave you alone. He's being stupid when your around because he's showing off trying to let you know how "cool" he is. Make sure that he understands that you are not interested in him in ANY way. His feelings will be hurt, but he'll get over it.

Answer 7

so, i had a friend that was really hot...and one day he sent me a couple of pics.

when ever i had annoying people not getting the point. i would pull my wild card out. his name is brandon. and i would show the pics as my boyfriend. it really makes guys jealous. and if you can get your friends to play along, you can have conversations about him particularly when you are at school either around him, or around people who will take the gossip back to him. my friend lived in the state next to mine so it was perfect, i didn't have to have him show up or anything.

print some cute model guy's photo of the internet if you don't have a cute friend.

that worked for me when i was a kid. and i still pull that once in a while even thou i'm a grown up now. it works.

or if you have a brother or cousin you should have them have a little talk with him

Answer 8

Tell him straight out that if he does not stop harrasing you that you will be forced to take legal action, ie; protective order. You sound like you have tried everything else a normal person wouold do. On the other hand if in fact you are just uncomfortable because he likes you, then you need to get over it. As long as he is not doing anything , such as touching you, threatening you, or singing outside your apartment window, there is not much that can be done. You may not like it, but there are no laws protecting you from someone liking you, hell i like you too.

Answer 9

Take him aside and tell him exactly how you feel. something like
"i don't want to be mean, but you really need to stop what you're doing. i don't think of you in that way, and i just would appreciate it if you stopped. i don't want to be friends, just acquaintances. So i will see you around.

also sometimes when you tell a guy to leave you alone, ya end up missin him buggin ya all the time. this might not happen with you, but it does happen. Good luck!

Answer 10

Quite simple actually. If you don't want to be mean, tell him that you want to talk to him privately, but act like you like him. Then when you guys are alone, say in your sexiest voice, "___(his name)___, do you maybe want to... like... leave me alone!!??" It'll surprise him because he might've thought you were gonna ask him out. It's not mean because people have done it before in the nicest way. But if that doesnt work, try annoying him by following him everywhere and do what he does to you, just dont get too into it or he might think you like him!

Answer 11

I hear a lot of anger and prepubescent superficiality -- which is itself maddening -- in your post. You are not attracted to him. Fine. Don't trash him as a human being just because you are not interested. Everybody has a worth, even those who are not outwardly dazzling to the eye.

Please don't be so hard on this guy. And please don't be so caught up in what a bunch of ditzy girls pick up to tease you about. Bottom line, people are people. Don't give him reinforcement by acting in the least interested. But don't be another rude, nasty voice in the world. There are enough of those.