Why is it that i always have dreams of my husband cheating on me.Is it because he has been unfaithful to me?

Question

My husband has cheated on me before and i really think that he still has feelings for the girl he cheated on me. Am i too insurecure?

Answer 1

it means anxiety about not being attractive or lovable. it also portrays suspicion and insecurity

Answer 2

My ex also cheated on me and I can tell you from my own experience that most men that cheat will do it again. The cheating has nothing to do with you. It's all about him. He has the problem. My ex had self esteem issues and other women gave him a false self esteem about his self. It didn't matter how much I loved him and thanked him and praised him, he still cheated over and over again. After numerous women and I mean many, I finally left, because I deserved more and after testing negative to Aids, I know now that nothing is ever more important in life, than life. I will never settle for unfaithfulness again. I suggest that you don't settle either. Life's too short and you too deserve more.

Answer 3

No you have a right to feel like that, it is not insecure.I would feel the same way. Cause he has cheated on you before and he has'nt fully gained your trust back. If your having these dreams you should confront him, but be careful don't accuse him ,be smart , play around with him to find out what you need to know. I don't know if these dreams actually mean something,but dreams can symbolize things and it is a coincidence though that you are having dreams of him cheating and he cheated on you before...think about that

Answer 4

It is very hard to tell. You may still be coming to terms with your husband's infidelity. Have you asked your husband if he still has feelings for the OW?

I had numerous dreams my husband was cheating on me. I would get so upset I'd give him a little punch in my sleep. It was kind of a little joke between us. Then it actually did come true! I even had an affair dream the night before I busted him. Needless to say, I pay very close attention to my dreams!

Answer 5

www.dreammoods.com is a great website for studying representations in dreams. It is likely that you feel insecure about your relationship. I think you should first examine your feelings. However, if there are clues in the waking world that you have not mentioned then maybe he is cheating again. But I would never use a dream for evidence of cheating. I hope everything works out for you.

Answer 6

your dreams are reflecting your insecurities. maybe you dont think about him cheating on you through the day but your subconscious might start working at night and that's why you dream about this all the time. i believe you should talk to him about this and tell him you need him to reasure you that he is with you and that he is going to be there for you. after someone cheated on you, of course you'll be afraid that he will do it again but you two have to work on it so it doesnt become an obsession that is going to destroy your life later.
have confidence in yourself, communicate with him and if you see he is not willing to work things out with you, that might be the sign that he doesnt want to change. but i do hope this is just a nightmare and that you can save your marriage.

Answer 7

Sometimes we pick up on things subconsciously and then our subconscious tries to tell us things using dreams.

I would hesitate to point this out to you in fear of 'adding fuel to the fire' if it was unjustified, but his past behavior has shown that he's weak and under the right circumstances will stray.

You elected to stay with him even after the cheating. I'm sure that wasn't an easy decision for you, and hopefully it was the right one. But don't ask if you're too insecure. This isn't about insecurity - this is about his past behavior and what your willing to put up with.

Be aware that your dreams may be trying to tell you something you already know but don't want to know.

I hope not though. Good luck and I hope it works out.

Answer 8

No you aren't too insecure! He cheated in the past! It's only natural to feel that way. But now it is time for you to decide something. Have you truly forgiven your husband for his past mistakes? If not then you need to. It will eat you up everyday unless you forgive him. Taking him back does not imply forgiveness. Forgiveness is in your heart. And then you need to find out if he is cheating. If he is then you need to go because after the second time you know that he will always cheat. If he isn't then you need to trust him. Innocent until proven guilty

Answer 9

No one can honestly answer that except for yourself?

Try seeing a counselor/therapist, etc. to determine if you are insecure.

Try going to couples therapy to determine if your husband does still have feelings for the girl that he cheated on you with.

You could also hire a private investigator to see if he is still seeing the girl, would that finally settle things in your mind? Or would you still be full of doubt?

Getting over that kind of heartache and deceipt can be very hard and painful.

Dr. Phil gives great advice regarding this kind of tragedy.

Answer 10

I'm struggling with the same issue with my boyfriend. I don't think there is any definite way to settle this issue. I suppose it would all depend on circumstances but a betrayal is a betrayal. Not much on earth hurts more. Have you discussed this with him? Does he dismiss your concerns?
I'd suggest, since you are married, the two of you really hash things out. Perhaps a counselor would help. I feel like a hypocrite trying to give advice when my issue is the same. Just wanted you to know I understand the feelings. Hugs to you!

Answer 11

I had similar dreams and they came about.


To dream that your mate, spouse, or significant other is cheating on you, indicates your fears of being abandoned. You may feel some lack of attention in the relationship. Alternatively, you may feel that you are not measuring up to the expectations of others.