my wife margret cheated on me..i treated her bad at times but does that deserve unfaithfulness?what should ido

Answer 1

ok, first off, tell her you're sorry, even if she doesnt forgive you @ first. try to understand her more, talk less often and listen more. marriage is all about giving not getting. you guys are ONE, and try to keep it that way. dont give up when things get tough. and try having sex, that usually helps alot too, so that she knows you still got it.

Answer 2

I'm not going to say that you *deserved* to be cheated on, unless by 'treating her bad,' you mean that you cheated on her as well. I will say that if she stepped outside the marriage, there is *something* she found in another man that she's not finding in you. Forgive her and chalk her straying up to payback for your past mistreatments, then get into counseling. Both of you.

Answer 3

Depends on what you mean by "bad", I think. I'm not the cheating type but after my ex beat my self-esteem into the ground, if the opportunity had come along, I might have fallen into that trap myself. That was my 2nd ex...the first ex left our daughter and me for a slut named Margaret (no, I'm not kidding:)

After two failed marriages, I recommend couples counseling and trying to make it work. It really doesn't seem like the grass is any greener anywhere else. I wanted to try to make it work w/both husbands but they didn't want to put the effort into it.

It seems like if people would put as much effort into relationships as they do into their careers, all of us would be happier.

Answer 4

First off, don't let her make you feel like you made the mistake. She did. If you have screwed up in the past, remember that 2 wrongs don't make a right, so both of you have a bit of blame to share. If you are willing to work this out, then you have to be sure that she is just as determined as you are. If not, get out.

Answer 5

First, interpreting this, I ought to think of... what's your definition of cheating? speaking to different adult adult males is nice, there isn't something incorrect with that. THere are limits to what one talks approximately nevertheless. keep in mind that it is your fringe of the story. Guilt even nevertheless one feels it for "[being] the cheating spouse" does not advise that "[one] deserved it." It i assume could be the violence. Your husband seems to be the type which will exchange his techniques-set on an identical time as below the impression of alcohol, even nevertheless that's on no account a justification. Violence is on no account the thank you to settle arguments. And if it replaced into an motive to kill that's even worse. What i think of you're feeling to blame approximately, is which you "led to this" or which you envision others thinking that. think of roughly it, does calling different adult adult males do this? i don't think of you're telling the full tale... and consistent with possibility you ought to be elementary like "any woman might desire."

Answer 6

Being treated badly is one of the causes of having an affair -- especially with women. I'm not sure about what you can do but having a conversation with her is a start. We you two go from there depends on the situation.

Answer 7

Yeah right, bad boy you don't deserve unfaithfulness like she doesn't deserve to be treated badly...What you should do??? Try to be a good boy, and see what happened....

Answer 8

Regardless of the Situation one should always maintain faithfull Or get out..simpl as that! 1 or the other...

Answer 9

Forgive her, seek marriage counseling together--in order to avoid this behavior again in the future & love your wife.

Answer 10

It is your personal decision as to forgive & forget or divorce.
If it was a simple one night stand indescretion and she is
sorry then you should consider forgiveness...