My wife got mad at me in December 2005 for going to Hooter's. We argued over it to the point where she was ready to leave me. She brought it up again last week and I told her I thought she was rediculous and wrong for making Hooter's an issue. I told her I am embarrassed to tell people that Hooter's is off limits for me. She has never been to Hooter's and I could care less about going back, but am I wrong for going to get lunch or is she over the top?
2007-03-26 12:03:11 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A married man has NO buissiness at a place like hooters.There are other places to buy your lunch.The MAIN reason ANY man goes to hooters is NOT for the lunch.They go for the waitresses and you KNOW that quit playing dumb and innocent son.Yes she has a right to be mad.Now if you have told her "Im sorry I was wrong forgive me I will never go there again, not because you told me not to, but because I realize I was disrespectfull to you and our marriage by going to aplace like that.." then she should never bring it up again.
2007-03-26 12:10:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It may be that she just doesn't like you patronizing a restaurant where the intent is to ogle other women. Kind of a no-brainer to me.
Also a lot of women find the idea behind Hooters demeaning. It's not so much about whether or not you're checking out the girls, it's whether or not you're comfortable in an environment like that, and what that says about your attitude toward women.
From your question it seems that you are more concerned with what your friends think than with what your wife thinks - or even what you personally want, if you're not even all that crazy about going to Hooters.. Maybe you have some growing up to do.
I find Hooters to be a sad, pathetic place for men who don't have the guts to go to a strip club!
2007-03-26 12:12:15 · answer #2 · answered by SB76 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
HAS SHE EVER BEEN THERE! GOD HELP ME! i am a women who has been and let me tell you Lady's its not all that i went there and a flat chested buck toothed bad haired girl helped us and she was in the majority at that place there were some better looking girls but nothing to talk about a year and a half later! i went to the gift shop with my husband and saw the calender and told my husband where are those girls because they sure don't work here! it sounds to me like her issues are more from insecurity about why you even went there her not knowing that the hooters girls are not all ways like in the calender and that you need to ask her do you really think i am going to go get food and then just leave you for some girl at a restaurant?i mean can you go to the beach? girls there dress with less and you might find a better looking one then the girls who work at hooters sometimes! and personally my husband eats there sometimes and even if the calender girls where there does she really think(like i tell my husband) they want a guy with a mortgage some kids and a really bit(hie ex-wife who would never give her a moments peace! i don't think so! so hope fully she will lighten up and its good that at least you have honored her wishes and never gone back!
2007-03-26 12:26:29 · answer #3 · answered by peterpansdate 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She was going to *leave* you for going to Hooters?!!
Sounds like you're in a nearly abusive relationship with someone who's got some real control issues.
If I were you I'd turn it around on her and tell her that if she values your marriage committment *so little* that she would leave you for your choice of restaurant that maybe the two of you need to reevaluate your relationship.
There's so much implied in your question, I feel very badly for you. She's telling you by implication that you aren't trustworthy (and bear in mind that statistically those who are suspicious about their partner's trustworthiness are usually far more likely to be cheating themselves), that you aren't adult enough to make decisions for yourself (really, what's next? She get's jealous of a certain female actress and now you can't watch movies because you might see an attractive woman?), that your opinion means absolutely nothing in an argument, that to win even the pettiest argument she's willing to play the 'I'll leave you if I don't get my way' card... there's just so much bad stuff going on here.
There's no way you can be happy in a relationship where you're a prisoner. You make no mention of you cheating or having affairs or having some addiction to porn or anything like that - *those* would be at least semi-valid reasons for her to be so outrageous. But just because you went to a Hooters? Come on!
Personally I hate the food at Hooters, but if I had a girlfriend who made an issue out of me going to a Hooters (especially to that outrageous degree) I'd consider it a huge red flag and would end the relationship - no kidding.
You're married so that's a different thing. I don't know if there are kids, but if there are then you have to do everything you can to save the marriage. But this should still be a huge red flag for you.
Good luck bro.
2007-03-26 12:15:53 · answer #4 · answered by Jon S 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Ha Ha Ha!! I can't believe this is even an issue. Hooters is a restaurant. I wouldn't care if my husband ate there every day. It's not like you are going to strip clubs and bars every day. And you said that this was over 2 years ago. Your wife is over the top. And that is coming from a happily married woman. Save your time arguing over real issues not lunch.
2007-03-26 12:33:18 · answer #5 · answered by Kimmie 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your wife has a bigger axe to grind than Hooters. What's troubling is that she wants to use it to beat on you about 4 months later. Even robbery has a statute of limitations. Wings at Hooters, unless you were bending over the waitress across the table shouldn't be a problem this long without a prior act of some sort. Is there anything else that has happened in the past?
2007-03-26 12:12:36 · answer #6 · answered by Deep Thought 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Try to understand where she's coming from. Obviously she feels that the WAITRESSES are a threat to her security (with you). What she really needs is some self esteem. Nothing wrong with taking her to lunch for a few wings & drinks. Hopefully in years to come she'll look back and realize how silly it is to have made an issue of it. Hey doesn't Hooters sponsor off shore racing and a race car?
2007-03-26 12:25:55 · answer #7 · answered by Nick Name 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think your wife is over the top for bringing up the issue after all this time. I think you're over the top if you continue to go there after your wife voiced her clear displeasure (which isn't happening, if I'm reading this question right?).
Now, speaking for *MYSELF:* I'm a married man. Not only do I go to Hooter's on occasion (well, I used to until they stopped showing WWE events), I can be walking someplace with my wife on my arm, see an attractive woman, and I have no problems looking at her (I do try to avoid staring, because that's just downright rude). My wife will come down on me for a few seconds, and that's it. She knows me; she knows I like looking at other women, which is why I don't begrudge her for looking at other guys. We know at the end of the day who's going home with who.
2007-03-26 12:31:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is still an issue years later? I think that's more of a problem than going to Hooters.
2007-03-26 12:07:28 · answer #9 · answered by Van 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So over the top that she fell off. I agree that there has to be something else for her to keep harping about Hooter's over a year later.
2007-03-26 15:48:43 · answer #10 · answered by Leather and Lace 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋