and wants to check it out but wants her husband to watch and maybe get involved...how do you go about helping her find someone for her/them?
2007-03-26 11:37:20 · 20 answers · asked by Mike N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let me speak from experience. First off, let her call all of the shots when it comes to picking a girl out. Secondly, do not kiss the other girl. My girlfriend had no problem with the sex, but the moment I kissed the other girl, she threw a fit. Then she wanted to have another 3 way, but with a guy. Personally, I don't swing that way, but definitely set boundaries before the act!!! Hope I helped.
2007-03-26 12:25:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have done alot of research on when one wants to 'try the bi'. And believe it or not it's not just women. This is where boundaries are tested in a relationship. If the husband thinks it's cool - then freak on. But there must be an understanding that they do it as a couple. No one wants their partner off doing things without them. It can cause problems. You also have to think real serious about it. I know most guys are like 2 chicks - bring it on. But this is your wife and you may think yeah till you get into the situation. If she wants you to get involved - can she handle it emotionally - yeah she wants to try but can she watch you? That is what you two should consider. It's not just her with another woman its also you with another woman.Good Luck.
2007-03-26 18:56:00 · answer #2 · answered by godmamaz 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
first off not here these people ...well at least a lot of them will tear you up! but you go on line and look for a website that will help you find a girl for a threesome or even a two some and will let you watch but talk a lot about it first and then set up all the rules you might think you will need like you can watch and touch but no kissing or penetration etc and any you might have for her also! good luck and get ready for the verbal bashing some of these people around here will give you!
2007-03-26 18:44:53 · answer #3 · answered by palmdale1025 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
When you start involving other people in your bedroom, then you are opening your marriage up to be destroyed.IYour wife may enjoy the encounter but soon afterwards she will become confused and distant to you.She will wonder"well am i really bi?Or a total lez?Maybe I dont like men that much after all and she wants me to leave him for her".If you have kids this would be shocking for them to see mommy kissing another woman and daddy not being jealous,especially if mommy goes away for the weekend with them and daddy , to be alone with HER.She may decided she likes women better and where does that leave you?I dont know of ANY swinging couples who are together for more than about 5 yrs.Usually not that long.You will destroy your marriage if you and her agree to this, even though you may enjoy it at first.
2007-03-26 19:00:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
By defination a marriage is a contract/commitment between a man and a woman. There are vows of being faithful, love and honor.
There isn't a part about adding a partner or being involved in any sort of threesome.
If I were you I would be very concerned about her wanting this fantasy to become reality. This could be the beginning of the end of the marriage.
2007-03-26 18:47:47 · answer #5 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
unfortunately you can start something like that and it can get out of hand real quick. Some people think there ready and can handle the situation only to find out they can't. My recommendation to you is you better think long and hard because sometimes when you turn fantasy into reality it comes back to bite you real hard.
2007-03-26 18:45:57 · answer #6 · answered by miester44 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Check out the swinging websites, such as SwingLifeStyle and Lifestyle Lounge and there are a few others, I believe. Also Adult Friend Finder (?)
2007-03-26 18:50:37 · answer #7 · answered by thedrisin 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If the husband is alright with it then you can usually find those types of things in the personals or in some clubs.
2007-03-26 18:42:49 · answer #8 · answered by Winnipeg76 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If my wife was bi-curious, i'd jump right in and demand that I get to pick out the other girl. I'd become part of the selection process. I suggest you do the same, or your wife is going to invite some street hag!!! Yech!
2007-03-26 18:44:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Check some personal dating sites. They usually say what they're into on there and what they're looking for.
2007-03-26 18:46:14 · answer #10 · answered by Jewel 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋